when to hold hands?

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Steve Stifler

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Yo Guys and Gals,

Now I'm honestly looking for like, sincere help here.
I was with someone in a hellish relationship for 7 years.
We broke up last year and I just started dating again.

I'm going out with this woman on Saturday to the Lantern Festival and my question is ...when would it be appropriate to hold hands?

This will be date #2.
Our first date was more or less like a coffee date.
But this time it'll be more of a date.

But I'm not sure whether if holding hands now is or wouldn't be appropriate.

Got any suggestions?



Stifler.


ps by the way, all of you guys/glas are cool for helping each other out!!!
 
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Date number #2. Hell you should be on you're way to anal by now.
 
I think holding hands is ghey but so is an unhealthy fascination with a English football star.


okay that is one of the funniest lines ever, hahaha
 
too early for that

date #2, hug her when you see her definitely
don't be afraid to put your hands on her during the date (shoulders, or one arm around her when turning and showing her something)
show her some physical contact and warmth, but don't be grabby, and hand-holding is not something people really do anymore anyway
 
Let her decide when to hold hands. If you grab too early she will think you are needy and pathetic.
Go for the hair. Once she lets you touch her hair, the next thing you know you will be in her pants.
 
if its at night time take her somewhere with live music, not a bar.... this will give you an opportunity to grab her by the hand and lead her around to a better view/quiet corner/out of the venue/etc.... like another poster mentioned... let the hand holding linger, and if she doesn't pull away, then its all good.... This will also give u a good opportunity to lean in close to talk and get into her personal space, if she's still interested, she won't mind the intrusion.
 
Crossing the road and guiding her through a crowded area, are all great ideas and proven to work most of the time. One thing to remember though, is that when these potential hand holding moments occur, put your hand in plain sight for her to see, rather then just grabbing her hand. What this does is shows that she is ready and willing to engage in this next step. The key is to make it look like you are not thinking about it, when in actuality you are.

Physical contact is a must, and making it known that you are not afraid to touch her is a major signal she will receive and digest in her own way. As one of the above posters has said, when you in fact get into her personal space, and she doesn't mind the intrustion, fluctuate your distances throughout the night. Abundant intrusion of personal space can be annoying at times, or give the impression you are only after one thing.

Report back after the date, and let us know how it went. I am sure we are all curious.

BTW, anal is more of a first date kind of thing, if you don't get it at the start, you probably won't get it ever. :D
 
Lets get something straight...I fanyone on her has more than 1000 posts...are they really the best advisors?

However I do like Phines post.

Take it slow...and do not be afraid to show affection...her reastion will guide you.

No woman hates it when a man takes her hand in both of his and silently guides her through traffic. Thats just being courteos. If you met up with a woman from New York who was a friend..she might do the same.

But there is nothing wrong with reaching down and taking her arm and hand in yours ..holding her hand with both your hands and walking...

Womken like that. It's not over powering..it's just a sign of affection..you are in public..and it shoes you like her.

M2
 
nice to see brotherly love.. among all that are posting here!:cool: . ..
all good advice.. just have fun with it enjoy your new time with this girl...best of luck ...
 
Depends on the girl really... my last girlfriend wouldn't let go of my hand any time we were out. Possessiveness? Maybe. Or maybe it's just when you like someone so much you just want to always be in physical contact. If you feel the mutual attraction, then go for it.
 
As SB suggests, in Ontario place parking lot, have your hand around her waist, to guide her around the incoming cars as you enter the grounds.

If she's receptive to your touch, around the waters, around sunset there's few romanic spots you can gentle hold her hand navigate around people & duck droppings.

The Japanese bell is an upward incline, worth the hike to make a wish or a moment of peace.

Don't hold tight, unless she's receptive. Depends on if she's touchy feelie type, she may pull away if not warm-up to it. Watch for her signs & react accordingly.

Good luck & Enjoy the colourful lanterns!

P.S.: don't be like a certain particular Asian IT girls at the next table last week. Like an episode of Blind date, she appeared extremely nervous, lost for meaningful social topic, non-stop talking about Microsoft for 2 hours. Her date couldn't get a word in, eagered to end the evening.
I tried not to notice but she was so loud & sat facing me. I couldn't feel sorry for her date.
 
skypilot said:
Go for the hair. Once she lets you touch her hair, the next thing you know you will be in her pants.
Click to expand...

Yeah, it always invokes those primal urges in women. Women always love to be dragged into the cave by their hair. lol
 
I've found if you just leave your hands where they would normally be - when you are walking side by side - just the brushing of your hand against hers and making yours available to clasp is good enough to encourage hand holding. Use good moisturizer and don't have sweaty palms - no one would want to hold a dry or clammy hand.
 
The good doc thinks, as his dates would, when she is ready, she will tell you or her body language will. It can very well be "Please hold my hands and feel my pants. Oh, it feels so good....Now come in and fill my tank." :cool: Best of luck!!!
 
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