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sailor1500

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This probably got answered in the "ask a hooker" thread -- but after 250 out of 900 responses, I couldn't keep on reading :rolleyes: And, I should admit, this is a repeat of a question I posted on BestGFE yesterday. But since I'm coming to TO next week, I was browsing here and thought I'd ask....

A couple times in the last year, I've met up with MILFs who not only have kids, but a husband to go home to (in one case, he was taking care of the kids while we were banging away!).

For some reason, this is bothering me. I know a lot of providers have a SO. And, of course, I'M married with kids. But the actual fact of a MARRIED PROVIDER feels weird. F--king a provider who's got a wedding ring on her finger just doesn't feel right to me.

Am I just being hypocritical? [BTW, the responses on BGFE pretty much said "yes"]

This doesn't feel like a question I can ask a provider at the time -- part of the "don't pry into my life outside the hobby" ethic. So does anyone here have any insights? Any of the providers want to chime in?

Thanks.
 
Yes, you are being hypocritical.
 
Not only hypocritical

I think you are being stereotypical not just hypocritical.

Face it. You're older, executive class, good husband father who fucks escorts and whatever whenever. Your guilt is showing through you're stereotype of yourself.
 
sailor1500 said:
This probably got answered in the "ask a hooker" thread -- but after 250 out of 900 responses, I couldn't keep on reading :rolleyes: And, I should admit, this is a repeat of a question I posted on BestGFE yesterday. But since I'm coming to TO next week, I was browsing here and thought I'd ask....

A couple times in the last year, I've met up with MILFs who not only have kids, but a husband to go home to (in one case, he was taking care of the kids while we were banging away!).

For some reason, this is bothering me. I know a lot of providers have a SO. And, of course, I'M married with kids. But the actual fact of a MARRIED PROVIDER feels weird. F--king a provider who's got a wedding ring on her finger just doesn't feel right to me.

Am I just being hypocritical? [BTW, the responses on BGFE pretty much said "yes"]

This doesn't feel like a question I can ask a provider at the time -- part of the "don't pry into my life outside the hobby" ethic. So does anyone here have any insights? Any of the providers want to chime in?

Thanks.
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If that is how you feel about banging a married woman, then you should stop hobbying as you too one day will be struck by the "immorality" of what you, being married man, is committing. I put "immorality" in scare quotes because I think this to be relative to individuals, but since YOU feel the way you feel it will catch up to you some day and you might want to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.
 
sailor1500 said:
This probably got answered in the "ask a hooker" thread -- but after 250 out of 900 responses, I couldn't keep on reading :rolleyes: And, I should admit, this is a repeat of a question I posted on BestGFE yesterday. But since I'm coming to TO next week, I was browsing here and thought I'd ask....

A couple times in the last year, I've met up with MILFs who not only have kids, but a husband to go home to (in one case, he was taking care of the kids while we were banging away!).

For some reason, this is bothering me. I know a lot of providers have a SO. And, of course, I'M married with kids. But the actual fact of a MARRIED PROVIDER feels weird. F--king a provider who's got a wedding ring on her finger just doesn't feel right to me.

Am I just being hypocritical? [BTW, the responses on BGFE pretty much said "yes"]

This doesn't feel like a question I can ask a provider at the time -- part of the "don't pry into my life outside the hobby" ethic. So does anyone here have any insights? Any of the providers want to chime in?

Thanks.
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is it the ring that bothers you ?
or, do you think you would feel the same if the SP was ''common-law'' for several years,but no ''wedding ring'' ....?


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Yeah, I definitely think it's the ring. As I said, I'm well aware that many providers have a SO.

Guess it's pretty clear what others think. :-(
 
sailor1500 said:
Yeah, I definitely think it's the ring. As I said, I'm well aware that many providers have a SO.

Guess it's pretty clear what others think. :-(
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Yes you are....you wear a ring to, does that bother her??
 
ang said:
Yes you are....you wear a ring to, does that bother her??
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I guess the difference is that I'm paying for a fantasy -- she's not.

But, I get everyone's point -- I'll work on getting over it :-).
 
I don't think you are being hypocritical. you have sex with a married woman at home. If you were picking up women and having sex some might be married. When you see an SP you would prefer they look like they are not married, that's just what you like and there is nothing wrong with that;)
 
skypilot said:
I find it a real turn on to be with a married provider who is open about her marriage.
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LadyTY2Uall said:
My friend and work buddy is married and her husband is aware of what she does....it turns him on.
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Promiscuous married women are hot.
 
Funnily enough I had a good male friend of mine say he had a hard time with my clients being married.. mind you nothing wrong with what I do because I'm single.

Everyone has their weirdness/boundary factors and I don't think you're being hypocritical because you're not judging married girls for being escorts.. just voicing a preference that your fantasy doesn't involve your 'mistress' of the hour having any other clients sometimes never mind a spouse/kids.

It probably ruins the fantasy. I'd bet a large percentage of my clients fantasize even if it's for the hour that they have a shot of more... which is of course diminished if I'm 'taken'.
 
There are many questions in your question. What exactly is bothering you?

If knowing about her marital status is ruining the fantasy for you, I don't really see where the problem is, nor how it's more hypocritical than most of my clients not wanting to hear about the mundanity of my real life, and paying me to be a GFE as opposed to a real girlfriend with feelings, demands, expectations, etc.

Or is it the idea of banging someone who "belongs" to another man (which the ring symbolizes) that is bothering you? It would seem to me that this is closer to what is going on in your head, otherwise, why the distinction between partnered but non-married and married SPs? I would think that it would be extremely difficult for someone who is married and living with their partner to hide their escorting job from them. As such, I would assume that a married SP is escorting with the knowledge and blessing of her partner. If both of them are OK with it, then why is it bothering you?

But my main question is this: if it bothers you that much, why don't you just choose not to hire escort who you know are married/partnered, and keep from asking others whether they are married or not?

What we're selling is fantasy, but you have to do your part in not ruining the fantasy. In this case, don't ask don't tell may be the best policy for you to adopt.
 
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