What would you do if your daughter......
- Thread starter frankcastle
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No I wasn't expecting a magic bullet but I've seen people struggle with dealing with a wild child and it just seems so difficult.
I'f a kid wants to hate their parent for whatever reason repairing that is damn difficult.
I'f a kid wants to hate their parent for whatever reason repairing that is damn difficult.
There are probably some kids that are just a bit nutty and nothing can be done about it. All the nurture in the world won't help. After all there are those who despite a brutal upbringing still turn out real good and can't be kept down, it is not unreasonable to expect it the other way. I'd say it is rare though.
I was there. That age was the hardest age ever!!
There is lots of services if cost is a issue to help.
But its up to her to want to change.
There is nothing anyone can do to change anyone it comes from within yourself?
Good luck I hope things work out!! xoxoxo
There is lots of services if cost is a issue to help.
But its up to her to want to change.
There is nothing anyone can do to change anyone it comes from within yourself?
Good luck I hope things work out!! xoxoxo
Parenting is the hardest thing in life and you have to be aware of who their friends are since they were young. Its normal for the kids between 14-16 yrs old to want to go out late at nights and have some fun. Kids are kids and they are on their learning curves. There is not much you can do than showing you love them dearly and care about them. If you show them true love, they will think twice before they do something bad not to hurt your feelings.
In the Jessica case OP refered to, parents could do nothing. All the stuff such as showing her love, giving her space, being supportive would not work. The gang had a special grooming program to turn almost any teenage girls, not just some girls with anger issue, strong rebel spirit, or broken families, into victims.
Yes you are probably right that there are hardcases.
But I think I'd rather try and exhaust all possibilities before coming to your conclusion.
BTW guys a few people via PM or things that they have posted suggest that they think that I am the father of a wild daughter.
If therer was any confusion sorry about htat I thought the first post was pretty clear in setting the scene. But if it was due to my poor communication skills, I am sorry.
That being said I find it an interesting topic because I think it's one of those tought questions. I remember my SO telling me her friend thinks that her child is doing drugs and I really didn't know what to do. We did end up finding some parent support groups. But off the top of my head I was shooting blanks.
If therer was any confusion sorry about htat I thought the first post was pretty clear in setting the scene. But if it was due to my poor communication skills, I am sorry.
That being said I find it an interesting topic because I think it's one of those tought questions. I remember my SO telling me her friend thinks that her child is doing drugs and I really didn't know what to do. We did end up finding some parent support groups. But off the top of my head I was shooting blanks.
Teenage girls are often more out of control than teenage boys. From personal experience, I'd say it's because social status is paramount to them, and they'll do whatever they have to to make it to the top tier of the popularity ladder. Obviously, this varies depending on the girl. I have two relatives who went through this rebelious stage and were lucky enough to make it out unscathed. One had lenient parents, the other strict. Both almost followed a mirror image of each other. It started with hanging out with friends late, progressed to some heavy drinking, fights with parents over both of those, dabbling in drugs, laying every guy they could get their hands on, and finally graduation from high school. Blessedly, it stopped there both times.
I think you just have to hope that you've instilled the right values in them from the start and maybe they won't lose themselves in one of the many pitfalls they play chicken with.
I think you just have to hope that you've instilled the right values in them from the start and maybe they won't lose themselves in one of the many pitfalls they play chicken with.
My guess is most members answered your question didn't follow these UK's cases closely. They, like UK police in 2008, pointed fingers to the victims. The girls were nuts, had anger issue, were rebel teenages to begin with. In other words, the girls had some problems themselves. Those problems gave the gangs opportunities to prey on them.
Luckily, by studying these cases, UK police realized those gangs' grooming method can be effectively used on any teenage girls, not just girls in trouble. So the police and school system provided education class and materials to students and parents, teached the public how to distinguish the method. So far the education program has got positive results. To answer your qustion. Education is the key. Let teenagers and their parents know how to recognize the trouble sign.
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Remember that it wasn't too long ago that 15 was considered fully adult.
Parenting starts at birth, not at 15. All that this parent could do is try to blame someone else for it or work their asses off to try to help.
