What would cause a marriage breakups?
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There's an element of truth in everything that has been said here. I just saw my lawyer today regarding a marriage contract and how it might be worded. Unfortunately, I didn't get a pre nup, but its still not too late to identify how assets will be divided in the event of a separation. Yes, this is weighing heavily on my mind ATM. In my situation its frequent arguing, no sex and financial considerations that are contributing to a souring relationship.
I agree with your second point, but it only takes one to stop trying and it's over. Doesn't matter how committed you are if the other doesn't care to bring the effort.
She's smart. But she also has assets and lots of income from other sources which would come into play during equalization calcs. I had a house before we married so that equity is deducted from current total assets. We'll see how it plays out.
Robert Murdoch has a pre-nup and probably the smartest lawyers that money can buy, let's see how he makes out on his 3rd divorce.
Hope it doesn't come to separation, but don't dick your wife around when splitting up the assets. Not worth it no matter how much you hate her guts. Bad blood just comes back to haunt you. Lay off buying any fancy new toys because she's just going to get half.
Female synopsis (Takes place over 1 year):
Stage 1: She has morphed from a sexy, fun, well groomed, physically fit woman that swallows into a fat, bitchy, unshaven, blob unwilling to make any effort to maker herself attractive or please her husband. (wow.. it's like you totally nailed my divorce on the head... except wife became a fat, unshaven blob because husband had serious insecurity issues. She became bitchy because she spent 5 years not allowed to leave the house without him due to said insecurity issues.... she eventually leaves bestowing on him every asset they owned together, as well as some that were her's.)
Stage 2:
Husband: He meets a woman on plenty of fish that is older than his previous mother-in-law. He intends for her to be his sugar mamma and wants to move across Ontario, taking child from marriage with him.
Wife: She decides she finally has a reason to live again and loses 40lbs, amazingly with no scars/stretch marks. Decides to start shaving again and turns to escorting for thrills. Dates casually, but nothing serious.
Stage 3:
Husband: He discovers that he has fallen madly in love with new woman. Turns out new woman doesn't want to run after a kindergartener as all of her children are already in their 30s. New woman breaks his heart, then turns into a psycho bitch causing him to be afraid to get his stuff from her house.
Wife: After a summer of not escorting due to being in a relationship that was a huge mistake, she goes back to escorting part time. After several bad dates, she decides she will give up on dating.
Stage 4:
Husband: Settles for woman that is much larger than wife at her fattest (and in fact has a belly larger than wife had moments after giving birth). After 5 months moves into a bungalow with her...with a total of 4 kids...and an extremely large breed dog...2 cats...fish.
Wife: Spends all of her time devoted to developing her businesses...and in some of her spare time continues to meet interesting and fun people for encounters...that she gets paid for. At this point she is happy that she no longer has to pay spousal support due to his new cohabitation. She lives alone in a large house in a nice neighbourhood. She travels often and spends time pursuing her passions of history, book collecting, reading. She is at peace in her life and is perfectly content to not do husband's laundry, cooking and cleaning. She is also more financially well off than while married now that she only need concern herself with kidlet's financial needs and not an overspending husband.
Basically: They BOTH choose life over a slow agonizing death...
Lawyers and marriage counselors will tell you that the three leading causes of divorce are arguments about money, sex and in laws.
Perry
Perry
Yep! Life was great, sex was hot and we were deeply in love when every night I had to go to kitchen to destroy the army of cockroaches and arrest some little mice ! LOL
Disclaimer: During that time, no mouse ever got hurt. I used to catch them and release in the park unharmed!
Is it safe to say that instead of going all out with lasvish weddings,young couples should save those money for future fees on divorce lawyers?:frusty:
Just about everything that has been posted here is true. People merely tend to put it into somewhat different words, and the significance of different factors to each of the couple can differ significantly.
By the way I'd also add inability to adapt to marriage and homesickness as two further factors that can play into all of this.
By the way I'd also add inability to adapt to marriage and homesickness as two further factors that can play into all of this.
No, she does NOT live alone. She falls in love with a lesbo lover and becomes Premier of the great Province of Ontario.
