What to do? (Weird Question)

[jcpro]

I dated this guy briefly last year...nice guy but I realized it wasn't really going anywhere so I ended it. The last couple of times I bumped into him he asked me to go home with him and I declined.

Anyway, he texted last night saying that if I won't have sex with him, can he hire me? (Yes, he knew about this part of my life and was okay with it). I think he was being serious....but that would be a little strange for me.

Thoughts?

Get your money up front. Business is business.

 

[HobbyHorse]

Poor bastard is probably in love, which is an undesirable state in anyone's estimation, as it can lead only to short-term heartbreak or long-term disillusionment. Give him a break. Say no, and stay as far away as possible. Let him heal.

 

[Buick Mackane]

Poor bastard is probably in love, which is an undesirable state in anyone's estimation, as it can lead only to short-term heartbreak or long-term disillusionment. Give him a break. Say no, and stay as far away as possible. Let him heal.

Good advice.

 

[MissCroft]

and stay as far away as possible.

That's what I was trying to do.

 

[lynn_ha]

I dated this guy briefly last year...nice guy but I realized it wasn't really going anywhere so I ended it. The last couple of times I bumped into him he asked me to go home with him and I declined.

Anyway, he texted last night saying that if I won't have sex with him, can he hire me? (Yes, he knew about this part of my life and was okay with it). I think he was being serious....but that would be a little strange for me.

Thoughts?

I think most of the most popular suggestion in this thread is to cut it off before it gets really complicated. If you feel that you made a mistake at a later date you can always go back and re-kindle the flame if you feel an emotional tie.

 

[fuji]

You really have two choices. Charge him triple your usual rate because you know you have the fish hooked and it is time to reel in his bank account, or cut bait and decline to see him under any circumstance.

Well if you are a decent person I guess you only have one choice.

 

[MissCroft]

You really have two choices. Charge him triple your usual rate because you know you have the fish hooked and it is time to reel in his bank account, or cut bait and decline to see him under any circumstance.

Well if you are a decent person I guess you only have one choice.

He has offered to pay me any amount that I want. Tempting but I can't do it.

 

[Aardvark154]

Commenting late on this (because others offered the advice I would have) he should know better.

One way of looking at this (and he should see this) is she doesn't want to go out with me voluntary so I'll purchase her services (and if that isn't clear enough/ creepy enough, change purchase to blackmail or force).

Desire is complex, but he should know better.

Sorry to hear about this Chloé.

 

[maniac1911]

I would draw the line and say, "No". In the long term it's not worth it.

 

[MissCroft]

He has apologized and I hope everything is fine now.

I wasn't trying to start a dramatic thread - just really looking for advice. Terb may seem like an odd place to go to for advice but I find some people here are very wise and helpful. Thanks guys.

 

[red]

He has apologized and I hope everything is fine now.

I wasn't trying to start a dramatic thread - just really looking for advice. Terb may seem like an odd place to go to for advice but I find some people here are very wise and helpful. Thanks guys.

That's good to hear. Please stay safe