What not to do if you see a sp in public!!!!`

[Natalie]

Bottom line. YOU DON'T approach an SP in public and refer to SP related business. It is NOT acceptable. Sorry but its not. There is a code of etiquette in this hobby and this must be at the top of the list. Just as it is unacceptable for an SP to approach you, recognizing you from a previous encounter. Or to call you unsolicited. If one did this to me i would be outraged, and immediately post here and warn others of the indiscretion.

People in their day to day life want to keep this private. That should be obvious to anyone who is not a moron - sp or client.

Second, if a girl tells you to leave her alone - LEAVE HER THE FUCK ALONE!

Of course advertising in public will put one at higher risk to be targeted by nutcases. But that doesnt mean their behaviour is acceptable.

Thank you a voice of reason.

 

[hamiltondude]

Um....

if you hate it so much. Being approached in public. You could always work a desk job. Just saying.

Or not shit where you sleep. So to speak

 

[hamiltondude]

6 pages of the same banter back and forth. Ugh. As the soup nazi would say..........NEXT!!!

 

[Terminator2000]

I see SP all the time in DT area. Some off them give me shit for not saying Hello. Now when I see an SP i, I walk up and give a nice hug and Hello. (lol)

And another question.

why is it...that when a guy is decent looking or dare i say, good looking and he's a john and he doesn't say hello when he sees an SP, she gives him sh*t for not saying Hello. but when a guy is average looking or plain looking, she gets all riled up (gets annoyed, agitated or angry) and makes a bad scene just because he approached her to simply say hello, how are you?

Again. Can anyone say double standards?

The same exact double standards you'll see from any girl, not just an SP.

 

[Terminator2000]

So many double standards coming from Raven.

 

[Ladyraven]

Ok. Fine. Then I leave you all with this one last question. If its so wrong what he did. Then why is Raven going through all the trouble - in these forums - to go to the exact same level this guy is on - and revealing and smearing all his personal info all over the forums - instead of just contacting the police and simply letting them handle it - neatly and efficiently?

sounds like she's no better than he is - however creepy or as much of society's reject he might be.

ummmmm what personal info have I given about him in this here forum???? tell me what you know personally about him?? Nothing , I said for the girls to pm me if THEY wanted his number ...

 

[Natalie]

And another question.

why is it...that when a guy is decent looking or dare i say, good looking and he's a john and he doesn't say hello when he sees an SP, she gives him sh*t for not saying Hello. but when a guy is average looking or plain looking, she gets all riled up (gets annoyed, agitated or angry) and makes a bad scene just because he approached her to simply say hello, how are you?

Again. Can anyone say double standards?

The same exact double standards you'll see from any girl, not just an SP.

Here's a question for you...why are you so adament in defending him? (Whoever it was as I don't know.)

 

[The Oracle]

Here's my take for what it is worth.

By advertising and putting your face out there you are putting yourself at risk for this.

Now although I and a great majority of men would not engage in the type of behavior that this client demonstrated, there are some who just don't get the ''rules of the hobby''.

And it's not like you can take every client aside and explain this to them as some would be offended.

All that being said it is an unfortunate cost of doing business and lets hope it happens seldom in the future.

 

[hamiltondude]

Here's my take for what it is worth.

By advertising and putting your face out there you are putting yourself at risk for this.

Now although I and a great majority of men would not engage in the type of behavior that this client demonstrated, there are some who just don't get the ''rules of the hobby''.

And it's not like you can take every client aside and explain this to them as some would be offended.

All that being said it is an unfortunate cost of doing business and lets hope it happens seldom in the future.

Amen.........NEXT!!!!!!

 

[Captain Fantastic]

Here's my take for what it is worth.

By advertising and putting your face out there you are putting yourself at risk for this.

Now although I and a great majority of men would not engage in the type of behavior that this client demonstrated, there are some who just don't get the ''rules of the hobby''.

And it's not like you can take every client aside and explain this to them as some would be offended.

All that being said it is an unfortunate cost of doing business and lets hope it happens seldom in the future.

Can I assume that the same goes for the client - if s/he is famous or has their picture up somewhere, are they asking to be outed?

To me, the whole purpose of this hobby is discreet fun.

 

[Natalie]

Can I assume that the same goes for the client - if s/he is famous or has their picture up somewhere, are they asking to be outed?

To me, the whole purpose of this hobby is discreet fun.

Finally somebody gets it. But I'm sure this subject will come up again. (Please no comment from the peanut gallery on that comment.)

 

[The Options Menu]

My dancer rule has always been, "Don't break my stride and give a smile and a nod at most". I generally expect the same in return.

 

[VikkiBlue]

I am sure she was greatful you did not out her or anything like that.. I had never seen this person before he could have said hello or he could have just sent me a msg saying he saw me..

How about instead just offer us the discretion that we assure them and pretend like you don't know each other and keep moving.

And if the nutbar is persistent like this guy...deny deny deny and then either say something loudly like "get away from me!" or go to security and have him removed.

What happened to you just reminds me of The Accused "Wanna Play Pinball?"

 

[SweetSerenity]

I understand some posters are trying to maybe explain the actions so that LR is aware that some of her advertising and her job may lead to some overly excited client approaching her at the wrong time. So maybe she can prepare herself for this in the future.

I understand some posters who would want this guys booking information since this certain client has become out of control with his improper behavior.

I understand some posters trying to figure out why some men would act this way.


I don't understand those who are justifying his actions, calling LR out, saying she is as wrong as him, she asked for it, she is at fault, she would be okay with it if he was cute, she is a hypocrite, a double standard dealing whore who should either put up or shut up because of the type of business she is in.

Each poster knows which category they fit into so I need not call out any names. But I am quite shocked ny some of the replies.

LR, this is nothing more than an internet forum. You don't need to reply to some of these people. They will not understand or they are simplying posting to be on the "opposite" side. Tboy was known for this and it use to drive people nuts while he sat back in his easy chair and laughed his ass off at the reaction. Don't give in. Find another thread or just ignore them.

Wow, my hero! I could never quite articulate my sentiments the same way. I agree with you darlin'

 

[Brill]

Fully agree with Sensual Secrets.
I also see where HOF is coming from in being friendly with SPs you know if you both understand each other's circumstances but even that can backfire for her if she's with a group of people unaware of her business. They might not be beside her at the moment but down the aisle in a store and wonder where she would know this person who doesn't quite fit in with her other friends.
I remember when a well known escort on here was exposed to her family and she had leave the business for a bit and then start over - all because of some guy being indiscreet in a public area.

 

[mruptonogood]

Here's a thought Lady. You are in Brampton. Population, 1 horse 433 000 Idiots. Minus you of course but..........That's a small city and your face is all over your ads. I am not saying you invite trouble but you cannot account for everyone else's behaviour and some people will break the rules and have no idea what decency is. Knowing this and your recent experience and how it has bothered you so much, consider doing something with your face shots. For while you cannot be responsible for what everyone else does you can be responsible for what you do. If you are troubled about this happening again consider what the best thing to do is.

 

[Ladyraven]

Here's a thought Lady. You are in Brampton. Population, 1 horse 433 000 Idiots. Minus you of course but..........That's a small city and your face is all over your ads. I am not saying you invite trouble but you cannot account for everyone else's behaviour and some people will break the rules and have no idea what decency is. Knowing this and your recent experience and how it has bothered you so much, consider doing something with your face shots. For while you cannot be responsible for what everyone else does you can be responsible for what you do. If you are troubled about this happening again consider what the best thing to do is.

I would consider that a person in this hobby would understand that stalking someone. anyone is not right.... it happens to ALL PEOPLE!!!!!. I do not mind if someone comes up to me and says hello. do it with respect. thats it. I know I get noticed . that I do not mind.the way this person did it was wrong. no if ands or buts. I hope he is reading this and learns from his mistake

 

[GPIDEAL]

Ok. Fine. Then I leave you all with this one last question. If its so wrong what he did. Then why is Raven going through all the trouble - in these forums - to go to the exact same level this guy is on - and revealing and smearing all his personal info all over the forums - instead of just contacting the police and simply letting them handle it - neatly and efficiently?

sounds like she's no better than he is - however creepy or as much of society's reject he might be.

If she's alerting other SPs, that's not the same as embarrassing or outing him in public or to those close to him. Her action is reactionary (perhaps a proportional response), not creepy. Also, isn't calling the police a harsher measure? She still has that option if he continues or the situation gets worse.

 

[mruptonogood]

I think you put too much faith in people Lady. My number one rule is People Suck. I go at everything in my life with this one preconceived notion. As for calling the Police. It's Peel Region. No matter what tag line Toronto Cops take on helping ladies in this business Peel has their own ideas. She may well put herself on their Radar. The best thing to have done was tell him outright when he began calling that he creeped you out and you would appreciate if he'd leave you alone and then react to his decision and then notify police is needed.

 

[Ladyraven]

If she's alerting other SPs, that's not the same as embarrassing or outing him in public or to those close to him. Her action is reactionary (perhaps a proportial response), not creepy. Also, isn't calling the police a harsher measure? She still has that option if he continues or the situation gets worse.

if you read I did already contact the police .. I have not heard from him since.. I am not a stupid little girl.. not afraid of the police. neither should the other Ladies be. if something does not feel right or you are being wronged or in any kind of bad situation call them.. they are not the monsters that some people make em out to be... I never once put any of his personal info on the public forum.. I have said that if any of the girls would like his info to avoid him in the future to pm me... ONLY THE LADIES