What's sex like after being married for 10 or 20yrs? does it get nastier. What kind of sexual acts do married people do that a single person may be missing. Is sex better in a monogamous marriage. Or, does sex eventually go downhill in a marriage. How do married couples keep the spark alive? I'm interested to hear from married people what kind of sex do you have with your spouse? tell us your real life kinky marriage stories.
What kind of sex do married couples have
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I have never, ever heard of a situation when a couple's sex life improves after marriage.
Never.
Not once.
Never.
Not once.
There's an old saying that goes something like this:itmeans said:
If you want to be happy for a minute, masturbate.
If you want to be happy for three hours, open a bottle of wine.
If you want to be happy for a year, get married.
If you want to be happy for three hours, open a bottle of wine.
If you want to be happy for a year, get married.
No it is not a myth hon, but the ones who do have that awesome married sex are generally too busy having it to talk about it.
If a couple continue to treat their sex life with the same effort and regard that they did before getting married then it can and often does get better and better. Unfortunately 'real life' starts to happen work, home, kids, family, etc. and sex becomes low on the list of priorities. I have known couples who virtually had no sex life till their kids grew up then suddenly they were getting it on as much as they did when they first got together.
IMO people make the mistake of thinking that once you are in love that 'fucking, banging, tearing one off, getting dirty together and the basic nasty sex' is now off limits cause you can only 'make love'. Or, they now see sex as their 'marital right/obligation' and stop making an effort at keeping it fun. If you view making love as another way of expressing yourself but continue to have mind blowing, nasty, crazy fucking as well then your sex life should continue to get better over time (with the usual 'ups and downs' of course)
If a couple continue to treat their sex life with the same effort and regard that they did before getting married then it can and often does get better and better. Unfortunately 'real life' starts to happen work, home, kids, family, etc. and sex becomes low on the list of priorities. I have known couples who virtually had no sex life till their kids grew up then suddenly they were getting it on as much as they did when they first got together.
IMO people make the mistake of thinking that once you are in love that 'fucking, banging, tearing one off, getting dirty together and the basic nasty sex' is now off limits cause you can only 'make love'. Or, they now see sex as their 'marital right/obligation' and stop making an effort at keeping it fun. If you view making love as another way of expressing yourself but continue to have mind blowing, nasty, crazy fucking as well then your sex life should continue to get better over time (with the usual 'ups and downs' of course)
Good point, and very true.LadyTY2Uall said:
What's especially common is that the woman's attention is directed more to the children in a relationship and the marriage takes second place.
The man usually then focuses his attention on his career because his efforts at home don't seem to be appreciated. Then the wife blames the husband for not paying attention to her and the kids on the home front, and the husband responds that he feels unwanted and ignored at home and in the marriage bed.
It's a very, very common pattern.
The strength of a family unit comes as a result of the strength of the marriage. And one can only have a strong marriage (assuming both partners are healthy) when their sex life is strong.
In short, it starts in the bedroom. If she's constantly "too tired" or he's constantly "distracted," the marriage goes down the tubes.
The longer the marriage the better the cooking seems to get. Great food is what keeps a marriage together. 
For the most part it's a myth. I do know of two couples though where that myth is shattered and these two have been married 15 and 22 years respectively. They are animals and to this day can't keep their hands off each other.
True from our perspective, surely ...
Then again, if there are married couples whose sex lives are as good as when they were first married, neither one of them would have any reason to be on TERB!great bear said:
Shit, I always thought this was the toronto erotic food board.y2kmark said:Then again, if there are married couples whose sex lives are as good as when they were first married, neither one of them would have any reason to be on TERB!
5 Kinds of Sex after marrage:
1.The first is Smurf Sex. This happens during the honeymoon period, you both keep doing it until you're blue in the face.
2.The second is Kitchen Sex. This is at the beginning of the marriage, you'll have sex anywhere, anytime, even in the kitchen.
3.The third kind is Bedroom Sex. You've calmed down a bit, perhaps have kids, so you gotta do it in the bedroom.
4.The fourth kind is Hallway Sex. This is where you pass each other in the hallway and say, "Fuck you!"
5.There is also a fifth kind of sex: Courtroom Sex. This is when you get divorced and your wife screws you in front of everyone in the room.....
1.The first is Smurf Sex. This happens during the honeymoon period, you both keep doing it until you're blue in the face.
2.The second is Kitchen Sex. This is at the beginning of the marriage, you'll have sex anywhere, anytime, even in the kitchen.
3.The third kind is Bedroom Sex. You've calmed down a bit, perhaps have kids, so you gotta do it in the bedroom.
4.The fourth kind is Hallway Sex. This is where you pass each other in the hallway and say, "Fuck you!"
5.There is also a fifth kind of sex: Courtroom Sex. This is when you get divorced and your wife screws you in front of everyone in the room.....
If you ask most people who have been married close to 50 years, they will still tell you that the secret to a happy marriage means making an effort.
Great sex doesn't just happen. You have to make it happen. Both of you. If either one of you just lie there like a dead fish, it's over.
Thankfully I know plenty of long-married, happily-fucking couples. My favourite were the parents of a girlfriend. They lived in a small town in Central Ontario in a big house the husband built himself. When he built it he specifically ensured that all the walls were insulated -- not just exterior. Reason: So he and his wife could have as much loud sex as they wanted without fear of waking up the kids.
When the girlfriend and I visited one weekend, the two of them took off in his truck for a few hours. When I asked my girlfriend why, she said it's because, when the weather is nice, they like to drive out to a secluded field, lay down a blanket, and make out like teenagers.
It's this kind of inventiveness that keeps a marriage interesting, I realized.
As to what kind of nastiness they get into -- bondage, role-playing, anal -- I have no idea. Maybe none of that. But I notice that a lot of these couples I know still wink at each other at the dinner table and such, and give each other spontaneouus hugs and kisses. They're obviously up to something.
Great sex doesn't just happen. You have to make it happen. Both of you. If either one of you just lie there like a dead fish, it's over.
Thankfully I know plenty of long-married, happily-fucking couples. My favourite were the parents of a girlfriend. They lived in a small town in Central Ontario in a big house the husband built himself. When he built it he specifically ensured that all the walls were insulated -- not just exterior. Reason: So he and his wife could have as much loud sex as they wanted without fear of waking up the kids.
When the girlfriend and I visited one weekend, the two of them took off in his truck for a few hours. When I asked my girlfriend why, she said it's because, when the weather is nice, they like to drive out to a secluded field, lay down a blanket, and make out like teenagers.
It's this kind of inventiveness that keeps a marriage interesting, I realized.
As to what kind of nastiness they get into -- bondage, role-playing, anal -- I have no idea. Maybe none of that. But I notice that a lot of these couples I know still wink at each other at the dinner table and such, and give each other spontaneouus hugs and kisses. They're obviously up to something.
I do know how to piss the "wife" off during sex however!
Ready for the punch line??
Call her,ROTFLMAO...
Too muckin fuch
DD
Ready for the punch line??
Call her,ROTFLMAO...
Too muckin fuch
DD
