What do you think?

[chongqing]

Ok guys I need your thoughts and opinions on this one

When I was younger and dated women I used to care about the relationship and fret over and examine it daily. When I say care I mean I would text them a couple of times every other day and ask them how they were and ask them out etc. Well, it seemed that we both got bored quickly and routine set in and I felt like the women was in charge. She seemed to be the boss, using pussy power. I would expend a lot of energy and time trying to please her.

Then a friend with lots of game told me what he said was his best advice and this guy had lots of women. He told me that the person in the relationship who cares the least has the most power. So, literally I consciously tried to stop caring. So instead of texting her, I wouldn't bother and sometimes 2 weeks would pass and she would text me. Instead of meeting her to take her out, I would go to the strip club and get a hooker with some bait that I bought. I adopted an abundance mentality with them. I acted, at least, like I didn't care and guess,what lo and behold it worked!. Girls would start calling me asking me out and at the clubs I appeared more confident and it attracted women. The more I ignored them the more they would chase after me!!. Do women like the thrill of the chase as much as men?.

So guys it seems that when you give the impression you don't care about the relationship, you are in control of the relationship. What do you guys (and girls) think?. This seems to tie in with the theory about nice guys finishing last.

Cheers - Chongqing

 

[MissCroft]

Then a friend with lots of game told me what he said was his best advice and this guy had lots of women. He told me that the person in the relationship who cares the least has the most power.


So guys it seems that when you give the impression you don't care about the relationship, you are in control of the relationship. What do you guys (and girls) think?. This seems to tie in with the theory about nice guys finishing last.

As a woman, I'll be honest (and this is only my personal experience - not speaking for other women). I dated a man who treated me like dirt and ignored me (except when he wanted sex) and found myself chasing him which gave him the power. I think that if he had not ignored me, I wouldn't have liked him as much.

I've had it the other way around as well. Guys who liked me but I wasn't interested and they seemed to become obsessed with chasing me. I think it's a bit of human nature and the 'thrill of the chase'. You want what you can't have.

 

[chongqing]

Thank you for your honest reply

 

[thumper18474]

I've been told that ignoring someone can be misconstrued as a type of mental cruelty.
I've been pissed at someone and backed off so as not to say or do something we both regret and after a cooling off period we discuss the issue and move on.

 

[corp]

I have to agree with Chong. Its quite sad actually. The more you show your feelings to someone the less they care about you. Why are human beings this messed up?
I've done the same but I find it hard to be that "jerk" type. Its just not in my nature. I'm a people person, I care about people. There is a saying....love people and use things, not the other way around.
I've been blown off for caring too much, but just can't seem to make the switch from nice guy to that other guy. I'm human and therefore I am flawed

 

[chongqing]

Yes indeed, the motto of today when it comes to relationships is "Treat them mean, keep them keen"

 

[Titalian]

At my age I really have no time for games from her or from me. I hope you do realise, that a woman
can find you very interesting, charming and confident without playing these trivial games right?
All you gotta do is be comfortable and respectful with them.

 

[Chloë.]

Personally, that bad boy shit would fly when I was younger, i.e 18 and 19.

NOW? I'm still in my early twenties but thank GOD for this industry.

Because of the amazing gentlemen who I meet regularly? I now hold men to a higher standard and have an extremely low tolerance level for bullshit, games and attitude.
I wouldn't hesitate to cut someone loose who attempted that with me.

Ain't nobody got time for that.

 

[gnudung]

At my age I really have no time for games from her or from me. I hope you do realise, that a woman
can find you very interesting, charming and confident without playing these trivial games right?
All you gotta do is be comfortable and respectful with them.

Agree. The key word being woman.

 

[geeky]

Ain't nobody got time for that.

/thread.

 

[Jessica S]

What is with the games when it comes to dating and relationship? I wish people would be less complicated, if you like a person, show it. If you aren't interested be honest about your feelings and move on. This applies to both guy and girl. As for me if someone shows little interest, I move on. If someone I like shows interest, I reciprocate.

 

[fuji]

It is complicated because it is behavior near the vortex that is natural selection, adaptation, survival of the fittest, and evolution.

In other words, because sex.

 

[Titalian]

It is complicated because it is behavior near the vortex that is natural selection, adaptation, survival of the fittest, and evolution.

In other words, because sex.

And ? What's your point ?? The slit hint of it being too complicated throws you right off guard.

 

[ikea123]

Personally, that bad boy shit would fly when I was younger, i.e 18 and 19.

NOW? I'm still in my early twenties but thank GOD for this industry.

Because of the amazing gentlemen who I meet regularly? I now hold men to a higher standard and have an extremely low tolerance level for bullshit, games and attitude.
I wouldn't hesitate to cut someone loose who attempted that with me.

Ain't nobody got time for that.

well said Chloe :thumb:
smart ladies won't put up with games and bs.

 

[MissCroft]

smart ladies won't put up with games and bs.

Never thought I would put up with it either. In my situation where the guy treated me like dirt, it actually surprised me when I realized what was happening and that I had let it happen. Never again.


I think because it was some of the best sex I've ever had I let it take over my brain.

 

[kherg007]

This is why some of us adore smart ladies like chloe and jessica.

 

[Marla]

Never thought I would put up with it either. In my situation where the guy treated me like dirt, it actually surprised me when I realized what was happening and that I had let it happen. Never again.


I think because it was some of the best sex I've ever had I let it take over my brain.

Exactly the sex was such an aphrodisiac, i let it blind me.

 

[Vermeer27]

Sexiness requires distance. I also remember a saying "uncertainty is at the heart of romance". Women can read most men's minds, (as most men are fairly easy to figure out), when they meet a man who is inscrutable and who can really get them off, it's a rare and potent combination. A very beautiful girl once lamented to me "I can play any guy...except one I'm actually attracted to..."

 

[Titalian]

Sexiness requires distance. I also remember a saying "uncertainty is at the heart of romance". Women can read most men's minds, (as most men are fairly easy to figure out), when they meet a man who is inscrutable and who can really get them off, it's a rare and potent combination. A very beautiful girl once lamented to me "I can play any guy...except one I'm actually attracted to..."

Absence makes the soul grow fonder.

 

[kkelso]

What is with the games when it comes to dating and relationship? I wish people would be less complicated, if you like a person, show it. If you aren't interested be honest about your feelings and move on. This applies to both guy and girl. As for me if someone shows little interest, I move on. If someone I like shows interest, I reciprocate.

While I agree with you intellectually, the women I've pursued have beat this attitude out of me. Sad, true.

KK