I'll tell the next lady to just not go very deep so I don't get any STDs.
What are the chances of catching std from bbbj ?
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Sexual health and safety is YOUR responsibility. If you’re worried then you should be taking precautions. It’s always a risk of you aren’t playing safe 
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!i used to ask sps to check for open sores, lesions or basic external signs (i will comply too ) , if they are professional cool girls they understand why someone is asking this and dont make a fuss . Some entitled noobs just feel bad and flip out . i just dont go ahead with them . Many cases its safer to stick with edging if you like bbbj . Dont go deep , Dont go where you cant seeYeah just the tip, that should keep me safe
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TDLR: get tested regularly, hassle free clinic is anon and has men only days, use dang protection anytime your willy is coming into contact with another person if you want the least amount of risk. Just the tip doesn't stop bacteria The bacteria doesn't care if it was just the tip. Neither does sperm. "But I didn't finish" doesn't matter. it is skin to skin/fluid to fluid contact in the simple terms.
This is exactly why we have ladies who offer safe GFE! Some ladies love the connection that meeting new dates provides but they want to keep themselves as protected as possible.
I'm going to give a bit of a long winded post here, and it is part of what we discuss in our hiring process, If anyone wants our educational resource list please DM me.
With CBJ it is highly unlikely that you are going to get anything, also with both CBJ and BBBJ you want to check both yourself and ask your chosen provider if they have any cuts, have bit their tongue accidentally, etc. Now 99% of providers especially ones who are reputable are not going to work if there is a chance they could pass along an infection of any sorts. Providers also tend to get regularly tested as a preventative measure this is their job and how they make money. a construction worker doesnt go to a job site without PPE and WHIMIS training, or at least I hope not lol. You can discuss with your doctor or the hassle free clinic (we are happy to provide our resources to anyone who asks for them, client, or providers from outside our agency as well) for PREP which is 99% effective against HIV. The next best thing is education and regular testing. Sometimes you can be asymptomatic and still be carrying an infection so its best to get tested regularly and if you do go to the hassle free clinic testing is anon, so you don't have to worry about it.
Now the next thing is again education, to truly limit your risks any genital contact should be done with protection. This is going to obviously greatly limit your chances. Pregnancy, STI and STD can all happen before ejaculation. Play smart and play safe. If the concern is "OH BUT IT DOESNT FEEL AS GOOD / THERE ISNT AS MUCH SENSATION" So you mean you're going to last longer? And enjoy more of your time doing the thing? We should reframe the idea of protection in our minds. Protection is good, it keeps you as discrete as possible as well. So does regular testing.
Also have an upfront discussion with your provider about when she was last tested and when you were last tested, it isn't sexy but if you ask before you hop in the shower, by the time you're out of the shower you've both moved on and the fun can begin.
This is exactly why we have ladies who offer safe GFE! Some ladies love the connection that meeting new dates provides but they want to keep themselves as protected as possible.
I'm going to give a bit of a long winded post here, and it is part of what we discuss in our hiring process, If anyone wants our educational resource list please DM me.
With CBJ it is highly unlikely that you are going to get anything, also with both CBJ and BBBJ you want to check both yourself and ask your chosen provider if they have any cuts, have bit their tongue accidentally, etc. Now 99% of providers especially ones who are reputable are not going to work if there is a chance they could pass along an infection of any sorts. Providers also tend to get regularly tested as a preventative measure this is their job and how they make money. a construction worker doesnt go to a job site without PPE and WHIMIS training, or at least I hope not lol. You can discuss with your doctor or the hassle free clinic (we are happy to provide our resources to anyone who asks for them, client, or providers from outside our agency as well) for PREP which is 99% effective against HIV. The next best thing is education and regular testing. Sometimes you can be asymptomatic and still be carrying an infection so its best to get tested regularly and if you do go to the hassle free clinic testing is anon, so you don't have to worry about it.
Now the next thing is again education, to truly limit your risks any genital contact should be done with protection. This is going to obviously greatly limit your chances. Pregnancy, STI and STD can all happen before ejaculation. Play smart and play safe. If the concern is "OH BUT IT DOESNT FEEL AS GOOD / THERE ISNT AS MUCH SENSATION" So you mean you're going to last longer? And enjoy more of your time doing the thing? We should reframe the idea of protection in our minds. Protection is good, it keeps you as discrete as possible as well. So does regular testing.
Also have an upfront discussion with your provider about when she was last tested and when you were last tested, it isn't sexy but if you ask before you hop in the shower, by the time you're out of the shower you've both moved on and the fun can begin.
Funny how GFE and non-GFE has evolved to GFE and safe-GFE.
IMO, if you're non-GFE, simply own it (safe-GFE is an oxymoron).
IMO, if you're non-GFE, simply own it (safe-GFE is an oxymoron).
Yes spit can transmit bacteria. It is difficult but not impossible. HSV can -usually- only be transmitted during an outbreak. Though there is the risk of an outbreak happening that someone is unaware of. But again slim chances.
There is always a risk. You have to determine what the risk is worth to you.
Not here to argue over the evolution of labels, although lol yes definitely an oxymoron.
Safe GFE is the same services that GFE has but has protection therefore safe. Its decent enough that the average person can grasp the concept.
If you guys can find a better way of marketing and explaining by all means, I'm all ears.
Because there's only so many euphemisms for it
What would be nice is if GFE was a standard set of services that you could modify with "safe" only to indicate all covered play. Ofc, this is what many assume (hope?) to be the case, but since there is no standard across the industry everyone can use labels as they please. Some have misused "safe" to mean "no services rendered", or near that lol, effectively rendering the term safe-GFE meaningless, at least in the wild wild west of LL. I would assume the Toronto Agencies could do a better job of forming and adhering to a common standard, but this is Ottawa.
Labels such as GFE and PSE seem meaningless now. PSE and no CIM, really? What pornstar is scared of cum lol? Personally, I no longer care when someone says they're GFE, PSE etc. I specifically ask if they are okay with x, y, or z service. Too many ladies advertise themselves as this or that and word their replies carefully to appear open minded, but when you get specific you learn bbbj, kissing, daty, dato, msog and so on are not okay, or are all upcharges lol. I believe the only way to avoid confusion is to specifically confirm that the acronyms you're interested in are available (YMMV always of course). Some ladies detest that type of questioning and get angry, some don't and are happy to tell you what services they offer. Each is within their rights but I would suggest only going with the latter to avoid disappointment. Again, this is in the context of the wild wild west of LL. Reputable indies and Agencies I view differently.
Labels such as GFE and PSE seem meaningless now. PSE and no CIM, really? What pornstar is scared of cum lol? Personally, I no longer care when someone says they're GFE, PSE etc. I specifically ask if they are okay with x, y, or z service. Too many ladies advertise themselves as this or that and word their replies carefully to appear open minded, but when you get specific you learn bbbj, kissing, daty, dato, msog and so on are not okay, or are all upcharges lol. I believe the only way to avoid confusion is to specifically confirm that the acronyms you're interested in are available (YMMV always of course). Some ladies detest that type of questioning and get angry, some don't and are happy to tell you what services they offer. Each is within their rights but I would suggest only going with the latter to avoid disappointment. Again, this is in the context of the wild wild west of LL. Reputable indies and Agencies I view differently.
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I agree, I may use GFE in my first text to a lady, but if she says yes, my next text is very detailed about the services I require. That is when you get the real answers....or they say yes to everything and its a bait and switch when you arrive....
Thanks. This is informative and very helpful. From reading elsewhere in the forum, teletest.ca was also suggested where they can send you test kit or lab requisition.
To my knowledge in Ontario, there's a system where lab results are available online and can be accessed through ConnectingON or other electronic medical record systems. These systems are accessible by health professionals and hospitals and I don't think general public can access it.
My question however, would test results for STI done thru hassle free clinic or other similar ones be shared on these platforms? Is there a way to keep this info local and not shared province wide?
Thanks in advance.
