Wedding comments.....

[healer677]

I attended a wedding this weekend out of town...and I'm not sure, I guess it's because I'm becoming a cynical, old prick but; having attended dozens of wedding over the years I have developed less patience for them.

I sat at this reception and listened to 14 speeches -all telling tales of how great this match is, how great the groom is and how great the bride is. A whirlwird romance of only two years before the wedding...blah, blah, blah.

I guess my bullshit tolerance is getting lower. I've seen marriages and subsequent divorces after these things -to me, just keep it simple, then keep it honest. Both the weddings and the marriage that follows.

I'm not really sure what irks me about it. I guess it's the whole b.s. about it.

 

[ig-88]

Totally agree.

I think people should have weddings 5-10 years after being contractually married. And then every 10 years after that.

Kind of like a graduation; to celebrate what was actually achieved. Not something that has not been achieved yet.

I also think there should be no tax rewards for being married, but that's an issue for another thread.

 

[amber-jade]

aaaww....1st marriages are sooooooo cute....


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[tboy]

I agree Healer: you hear over and over again about how "it was meant to be", and it is "forever", and blah blah blah and then 6 months later you hear they've gone their separate ways and they are divvying up the wedding presents.

Of all my friends who got hitched (about 15 - 20) I think ONE is still together after 10 yrs.

 

[tboy]

aaaww....1st marriages are sooooooo cute....


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LOL maybe but "unions" are HOT lol

 

[skypilot]

I feel sorry for the parents (especially the bride's) for having to pay for all the crap for these goofy weddings.
Its always the brides or brides mother's fantasy to put on a fairytale wedding.
While the groom is probably fantasizing about seeing his bride get a DP.
I always decline when I am invited to a wedding. I can't put up with the bullshit.

 

[tboy]

I feel sorry for the parents (especially the bride's) for having to pay for all the crap for these goofy weddings.
Its always the brides or brides mother's fantasy to put on a fairytale wedding.
While the groom is probably fantasizing about seeing his bride get a DP.
I always decline when I am invited to a wedding. I can't put up with the bullshit.

Actually, that's old school. I don't think many are done that way now....least none of the ones I attended were paid for by the bride's parents. A number of them were paid for by the couple, and a couple of them paid for by both sets of parents.

 

[Questor]

Well, people are obviously free to do it the way they want. Personally, I would keep it on the small and informal side. I agree with posters about the endless speeches etc. That's an interesting idea to celebrate milestones in the marriage. Well, I guess that is already done with anniversary celebrations.

People get hung up on traditions. Sometimes that is a good thing. If the OP has been to so many weddings and is tired of hearing the same old things and then watching the marriage disintegrate within a few years, then perhaps he is close to people (family/friends) that value that particular tradition. I haven't been to so many myself. I can see how the speeches could get tiresome, but maybe someone needs to practice sincerely wishing someone well when embarking on a new and important stage in life without getting so hung up on the downside of such unions.

 

[healer677]

That's why for my wedding last January it was simple. Over 400 invitations -24 attended....in a Jamaican all inclusive resort....last January. My bride and I invited everybody, but thankfully only a handful could attend. Hired a wedding planner -so she didn't have to fret all the little details. Then we had one joint speech at the reception. The wedding itself and all the picture taking was done inside an hour and a half.

I guess I like it simple.

 

[Questor]

That's why for my wedding last January it was simple. Over 400 invitations -24 attended....in a Jamaican all inclusive resort....last January.

Well, that's one way to weed out the deadwood. I've never given it much thought before, but I didn't really like the idea of asking people to travel to some far off destination to watch someone get married. But in light of the discussion in this thread, it does keep it simple and also gives an out to everyone who would feel obligated to attend otherwise and would only be sitting there thinking "What a croc," during all the speeches. LOL

Hired a wedding planner -so she didn't have to fret all the little details. Then we had one joint speech at the reception. The wedding itself and all the picture taking was done inside an hour and a half.

I guess I like it simple.

Short and sweet. My kind of wedding. Oh, the really sweet part...since you invited 400 people, you get 400 gifts. hmmm...that's kinda tacky. That must have been quite a haul.

 

[healer677]

My lovely bride is Italian -so a lot of the non-attendees did send a little something-something, mostly I think it's because we (as a couple) and her family have attended so many weddings as well. A lot of my friends also slid an envelope -though I insisted it was absolutely unecessary. The premise was -if you can or can't make the wedding, it won't be a cash grab. No stag, no bridal shower -none of that, and I made no secret about that. Just come if you can. But I guess there were still people that were invited who felt obligated to send a gift.

As for all the invited. lol. that was my brides' idea -she didn't want to offend anybody and she invited everybody from her side. For the record I only sent out 15 invitations and half of the people who attended were from my side.lol

 

[Questor]

As for all the invited. lol. that was my brides' idea -she didn't want to offend anybody and she invited everybody from her side. For the record I only sent out 15 invitations and half of the people who attended were from my side.lol

Yes, well that is where culture and tradition come into it. And I am sure it is why some weddings grow to the extreme. You don't want to offend people, especially family. Especially Italian family.

I'm guessing that the people who did send gifts were mostly family and also older and therefore more traditional in their thinking.

 

[GlavaMan]

...in a Jamaican all inclusive resort....last January. Then we had one joint at the reception.

Hehehe

 

[landscaper]

my wedding way back in prehistory why i think i still had some hair...........

back to the story, we were the first on both sides to get married. We did not organize a thing both mothers did until it got to the point of If thats what you want get out your check book.

The stag was at a bar in brampton the wedding was at her church.

Her cousin got married sent out the invites the wedding was at Buggsies in Vegas , made a call wrote a check let the fun begin. Thats how I would do it now.