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[BuyingSexDocumentary]

Buying Sex is a documentary film we are currently shooting. The premise of the film is to look at the current controversy in Canada around the decriminalization of sex work and to travel to countries where Governments have taken different approaches to prostitution legislation and law (Sweden, Netherlands and New Zealand). The goal is to create a film that will encourage all Canadians to engage in an informed debate about sex work and law reform. We are very interested to include men or women who pay for sexual services, especially those who post on and use review sites. We are willing to disguise people's identity but are also hoping some will come forward without having to use a disguise. We want to hear about your feelings, experiences and your thoughts about why you buy sex services and about whether you think it should be completely decriminalized or not. We have already interviewed several men from Vancouver and are looking for men or women in Toronto who want to participate.

If you are interested in hearing more about us and about the film please contact us at buyingsex@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you soon.

 

[freedom3]

I saw a documentary just like this on cbc. Two old women in england did exactly that: went to other countries, etc. and examined their approaches to prostitution.

Also, Sweden will be a waste of time. Men go to jail there for paying for sex (other than in a marriage, the usual exception in most countries).

 

[Hangman]

Compare Germany, not Sweden.

 

[Brill]

Do we get paid? :eyebrows:

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

I saw a documentary just like this on cbc. Two old women in england did exactly that: went to other countries, etc. and examined their approaches to prostitution.

Also, Sweden will be a waste of time. Men go to jail there for paying for sex (other than in a marriage, the usual exception in most countries).

Good observations Freedom3
I especially like your signature
Only if somebody had told me these truths when I was 20 years old!

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

Buying Sex is a documentary film we are currently shooting. ....
buyingsex@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you soon.

Some pay for companionship and not so much for sex.

 

[ctv250]

Do we get paid? :eyebrows:

or better yet, you buy me an hour with one of these lovely ladies and I'll write you a terrific review for your documentary

 

[BuyingSexDocumentary]

Thanks for the messages everyone. Regarding Sweden, the point is to look different models to see what is working and what is not, especially when it comes to safety and stigma. I wish we could go to Germany and to several other countries but we had to narrow it down and so are going for the two drastically different approaches. We would be very interested in chatting to any of you through email if you have ideas for the film or specific questions. Thanks so much - buyingsex@gmail.com

 

[hexter]

It would be fantastic if the documentary exposed the truth about the people plying their trade in the industry. In the Canadian, especially GTA contact 99% of them do it of their own free-will and are not forced via or coerced.

Mainstream media would have you believe otherwise (99% forced or coerced) , hundreds of participants in this forum will tell that it is a consenting activity between adults and we rarely if ever encounter providers being forced into it.

Hex

 

[Dougal Short]

or better yet, you buy me an hour with one of these lovely ladies and I'll write you a terrific review for your documentary

Buy me three hours with one and you can film my lily-white ass humping away!

 

[Hank Reardon]

It would be fantastic if the documentary exposed the truth about the people plying their trade in the industry. In the Canadian, especially GTA contact 99% of them do it of their own free-will and are not forced via or coerced.

Mainstream media would have you believe otherwise (99% forced or coerced) , hundreds of participants in this forum will tell that it is a consenting activity between adults and we rarely if ever encounter providers being forced into it.

Hex

I do not want to hijak this thread but what are you basing these numbers on ? How would you know about 99 percent doing it on their own free will ? Also, stating that hundreds of participants on THIS forum say that it is consenting is ridiculous because those people would be unaware of the truth and just in some sort of denial.

 

[SS Sharla]

I do not want to hijak this thread but what are you basing these numbers on ?

The problem with both sides is that most people just speak from experience.

The police would say a high number of girls are forced because their everyday experience is busting places with drugs, underage girls, pimps, and human trafficing rings. It would be their experience to work with girls who want "out" but don't know how and need help.

Whereas the experience of terb men and women would be different because we are obviously all allowed to have a voice and choice or they wouldn't be on a public board talking away about the business all day.

The world is not balck and white. It is a mixture of both of these. Police have fair concerns about making it easier and girls/john's have fair concerns about making it easier. It is a fine line to balance either way. Pretending one side of the story doesn't exist - doesn't help anyone.

Getting actual statistical numbers on the fact would be nearly impossible because it would rely highly on self report (which independant girls would avoid and trafficed girls can't do) or it would be skewed by only looking at people arrested which changes the sample as well.

A documentary is a good idea as long as it isn't bias either way and presents both sides of the story - looking at the struggle of both sides and what solutions could meet half way.

 

[BuyingSexDocumentary]

Good points SS Sharla and part of what we are struggling with in telling this story. I am getting some great input and much to think about with this thread and some other discussions happening on TERB. Thanks to everyone for sharing.

 

[LKD]

I don't think the issue is whether 99% of the girls are being forced into this trade against their will or whether 99% choose to do it... Fact is, if it is legalized, a lot more girls will be forced into this. There are plenty of sleazy guys around who will jump at this opportunity and try to take advantage of it. It doesn't matter how few the number of girls do it willingly... Every life is precious, and even one is a cause for concern if you ask me. The culture in north america is different compared to europe. With the amount of violence and guns around, I would rather have it the way it is right now.

 

[luckyjackson]

Unless you're Maxwell Smart, Is there any number more often used incorrectly than 99?

That ctv story is funny where the poor girl adds matter of factly..."I don't ever go to Scarborough" in response to to the cop asking her if she has a safety plan.

In regard to this issue, I think hyperbole from both sides hinders real understanding and pragmatic solutions. Optimally we'd see a situation where consenting adults are free to do as they please. I am all for giving the police every means they need to help and protect anyone who is being compelled to do sex work against their will. Problem is that the police have shown by their past behavior that they are happy to tar everyone with the same brush.

 

[BuyingSexDocumentary]

We had an amazing week in Toronto. Thank you to those who did interviews with us and who wrote us to give their ideas about what they thought was important to include in the film. The documentary will not be finished for another year and there is a chance we might be back here. If you are interested in participating please don't hesitate to get in touch - buyingsex@gmail.com.

 

[HOF]

What's in it for me?

 

[UltraSoftTouch]

I am so happy to see this thread, and to know the documentary is in progress. I am impressed that you are taking your time with it, and are open to lots of diverse input. I have been a quiet proponent of legalizing prostitution for years. After having seen what happened when society tried to make alcohol illegal during prohibition, and what is happening now with the so-called "War On Drugs", it is mind-boggling to me that is still any doubt about whether or not to legalize the sex industry. SS Sharla made some excellent points, and I especially agree that the documentary should strive to be a true unbiased look at all views. I also agree with Dawn@dreammakers that including input from any and all sp's who are willing to provide it is very important. I am puzzled by LKD's feeling that legalization would actually lead to more girls being forced into the business. The biggest reason I believe so strongly in legalization is because it has always been my understanding that by doing so, the whole industry moves from the "underground" world in which it now lives, and into the open, where girls can truly be protected from danger. I recently visited a very sweet and kind-hearted independent SP for the first time, and during my visit, she told me about being robbed and raped by clients, yet being afraid to call out for help because of her illegal profession. If this isn't a clear-cut case of the legal system having its priorities all wrong, I don't know what is. It is a blatant example of discrimination based on occupation, and should absolutely not be tolerated. We need to move slowly. We need to listen to everyone involved, especially SP's. Looking at other examples around the world, because we can learn what works and what doesn't. But lets move forward to not only make this industry legal, but show the world that Canada can do it in a way that works for everyone. Just as we have done in other areas of the law, let's be an example for the rest of the world to follow.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

Not interested in being part of the documentary no, however including students could also add a useful perspective to your documentary. Noone really knows "our" story so to speak.

That is very true Dawn.

If I can give one piece of advise for this DOC, do not make the same mistake that most make. You need to show real people between the age of 21-35. Not BBW, not asian, not BDSM. I am sorry to say this but all these DOC. makers that have tried this including W5 that came to TERB years ago posting a thread just like this got no where because of the subjects they used. Until it is shown that the average Joe next door and the cute college student are involved in this underground industry, people are going to be hard-pressed to change their views. It has to be shown that this is more common then many really think and this really is between consenting adults.

Even with the court case going on right now, many SP's that I have talked to will not get involved and show their support because they do not feel a woman dressed in leather asking to flog the MP is really helping their case. Just pointing that out.

I know you have already finished shooting in TO, but I hope that you got some real true good footage. Good Luck

 

[TeasePlease]

that's the paradox. the average joe and cute college student don't want to make this private (and temporary, for the college student) part of their life public.