Very true statement... Heart felt....

[Kayla]

So... I read this somewhere the other day and I wanted to post it here for everyone...

The only way to have eternal love is to never let your heart forget what it's like to live without it.

Okay... I know.. it's too deep.... but I thought it was nice

 

[red]

I would say if the only way for you to stay in love with someone is keep remembering what it was like with them, then I am not sure you are in love- it sounds more like being afraid to be alone.

With respect to relationships- they take work, the only way to stay in love is not only to remind yourself why you loved the person in the first place, but to keep falling in love with them based on your new experiences together and the things you still learn about/from each other.

just my thoughts

 

[sierra@anastazi]

Red..

I have to agree. I just went thru a separation, and I can't even remember why I thought I loved him, I do remember the good times we had, but at this poiint I can't even think of the last time we 'made love'. They take so much work, every day and you both have to make the effort.

I believe that thier is a fine line between love and hate...
Love is a four letter word to describe thsose undescribeable feelings towrds somebody.....

Just my opinion tho ... Because when you love somebody you don't know how to describe those feelings that arouse you in every way when they are close to you, or you are thinking of them.

Sierra

 

[sarasota]

I would say if the only way for you to stay in love with someone is keep remembering what it was like with[out] them, then I am not sure you are in love- it sounds more like being afraid to be alone.

I assume you meant "without".

Maybe it's saying that by remembering what it was like without someone, you will not grow complancent and take them for granted. You will continue to work on the relationship in a positive way for even more positive results.


Or...maybe it's just saying "order the egg and cheese omlet".

Yeah it's deep. Deep sh.....tuff - Ya got a nice heart.

 

[red]

you are right- i meant without. I understand what you are saying about not getting complacent- but don't kid yourself and stay because there is no other place to go or you hated being alone and call it love instead of settling

 

[Peace4u]

I would think wihout love,commitment and trust,it will end up to be a bad relationship.eros love is a feeling,that may fade,but true love i beleive comes from God.

 

[yoniluvrca]

The only way to etenal love is to experience it through that which is etenal-and this ain't another human being. Think about it. We constantly try to experience the eternal through a vehical which will one day die.

Actually, trying to experience love without first truly loving yourself is fruitless. Yes you will experience something, and you will probably think it is love. But then it will change and you will say-damn, that wasn't love, it must be over here. And off you go, looking outside for something that can only be experienced inside.

There is absolutly nothing wrong with any of this searching-but it is useless. There is a Sufi story about the Holy-Fool, Nasrudin.

Nasrudin is found by his neighbours searching frantically the ground outside his house. "What are you searching for Nasrudin?" they ask. "My walking stick" he answers, "I left it somewhere in my house." "If you left it in the house," the neighbours ask," why are you looking out here?" Why it is dark in there" he answers "The light is much better out here."

YL

 

[papasmerf]

When it is LOVE it never fades.

When it is lust it will.

 

[sarasota]

...but don't kid yourself and stay because there is no other place to go or you hated being alone and call it love instead of settling

Understood (I mean that in an agreeing way).

 

[kwong_1978]

Call me a romantic but I always thought love should not involve any work. If I have to work hard at stayin in love, I rather not-I would look for the exit-for love no longer exist.

 

[JeremytheWicked]

Love is self sacrifice. You would give your most prized possession - your life - for that person. You give it all away until you are empty.
That's why true love hurts so deeply and tragically when it falters.
If it's true real love, it gets reciprocated and you are filled BY them.
True sacrifice on all levels - true sharing - truly 2 people becoming one.
VERY hard to find.
Most people confuse being really in like with somebody, for love.

Just my $0.02

 

[Kayla]

I think it takes a level of maturity... experience ... and first being able to accept and love yourself for who you are. Reminds me of 'Run away bride' where she didn't even know what kind of eggs that she liked because she was so busy liking what every guy liked. I think that when people really like someone.. they spend a lot of time being who they think that person would want.. instead of being themselves.. which in the end only leads to disappointment. I think that a lot of people just don't want to be alone.. so they settle for someone trying to convince themselves that they do love this person.. and over time... you can learn to love someone. However, being 'in love' with someone is entirely different. After you have been with that person .. really been with them.. and you still feel the butterflies when you see them at the end of the day... when they touch you and your heart pounds.

Ever see the movie 'good will hunting'? Remember the part where Robin Williams is describing his marriage to Will? I can't remember extactly how he worded it.. but he pretty well said that it's the little things... that's what builds a relationship. He talked about his wife farting in bed and waking her up.. and he laughed about it. I think a part of love is when you loose embarrasment... when you look into that persons eyes and you can see yourself.. that they accept you.. that they give you room to grow as an individual.. stand by your side... at the same time your relationship grows. When that person is your best friend.. when you cry.. they are there.. quiet and understanding.. when you are happy.. they find that happiness with you... when they aren't afraid to admit that they don't like something instead of pretending.

As for me.. I have loved.. been hurt.. but I still believed. What is life without love?

IMHO

 

[JeremytheWicked]

Marry me, Kayla

 

[kwong_1978]

I think it takes a level of maturity... experience ... and first being able to accept and love yourself for who you are. Reminds me of 'Run away bride' where she didn't even know what kind of eggs that she liked because she was so busy liking what every guy liked. I think that when people really like someone.. they spend a lot of time being who they think that person would want.. instead of being themselves.. which in the end only leads to disappointment. I think that a lot of people just don't want to be alone.. so they settle for someone trying to convince themselves that they do love this person.. and over time... you can learn to love someone. However, being 'in love' with someone is entirely different. After you have been with that person .. really been with them.. and you still feel the butterflies when you see them at the end of the day... when they touch you and your heart pounds.

Ever see the movie 'good will hunting'? Remember the part where Robin Williams is describing his marriage to Will? I can't remember extactly how he worded it.. but he pretty well said that it's the little things... that's what builds a relationship. He talked about his wife farting in bed and waking her up.. and he laughed about it. I think a part of love is when you loose embarrasment... when you look into that persons eyes and you can see yourself.. that they accept you.. that they give you room to grow as an individual.. stand by your side... at the same time your relationship grows. When that person is your best friend.. when you cry.. they are there.. quiet and understanding.. when you are happy.. they find that happiness with you... when they aren't afraid to admit that they don't like something instead of pretending.

As for me.. I have loved.. been hurt.. but I still believed. What is life without love?

IMHO

Kayla, nicely worded! Love should be natural-never fabricated.

See Sara, I am not the only romantic here.

 

[tompeepin]

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The only way to have eternal love is to never let your heart forget what it's like to live without it.
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What is eternal? What is eternal love? What is love?

Actually, trying to experience love without first truly loving yourself is fruitless. Yes you will experience something, and you will probably think it is love. But then it will change and you will say-damn, that wasn't love, it must be over here. And off you go, looking outside for something that can only be experienced inside.

There is absolutly nothing wrong with any of this searching-but it is useless. There is a Sufi story about the Holy-Fool, Nasrudin.

Nasrudin is found by his neighbours searching frantically the ground outside his house. "What are you searching for Nasrudin?" they ask. "My walking stick" he answers, "I left it somewhere in my house." "If you left it in the house," the neighbours ask," why are you looking out here?" Why it is dark in there" he answers "The light is much better out here."

YL [/B]

I think it takes a level of maturity... experience ... and first being able to accept and love yourself for who you are.

Excellent posts!!! Love is esoteric. All depending on one's definition of love, of course.

However, being 'in love' with someone is entirely different. After you have been with that person .. really been with them.. and you still feel the butterflies when you see them at the end of the day... when they touch you and your heart pounds.

That is chemical love.

I think a part of love is when you loose embarrasment... when you look into that persons eyes and you can see yourself.. that they accept you.. that they give you room to grow as an individual.. stand by your side... at the same time your relationship grows. When that person is your best friend.. when you cry.. they are there.. quiet and understanding.. when you are happy.. they find that happiness with you... when they aren't afraid to admit that they don't like something instead of pretending.

As for me.. I have loved.. been hurt.. but I still believed. What is life without love?

IMHO

What is life without love indeed! It might be said that love is life nurturing, the spring of life. When love dies ... one slowly dies. But love is not only erotic love. That is only one aspect of love. Loving people have the spark of life.

 

[BiggieE]

I think this may be the most uplifting thread I have ever read on a review board....Thanks All....

 

[train]

Re: So you want natural-never fabricated huh?

I must be getting older because I am beginning to think .... fuck the butterflies get me someone who likes me enough to put that little pill under my tongue and keep me around a little longer!

Sara

Thank you . This was becoming far too much of an Oprah moment .

 

[Berlin]

I think a part of love is when you loose embarrasment... when you look into that persons eyes and you can see yourself.. that they accept you.. that they give you room to grow as an individual.. stand by your side... at the same time your relationship grows.

When that person is your best friend.. when you cry.. they are there.. quiet and understanding.. when you are happy.. they find that happiness with you... when they aren't afraid to admit that they don't like something instead of pretending.

Very well said.
When you have a true solid Loving relationship, the confidence that you'd have in your SO is simply immense.

I think a lot of people often take love for granted.
Yes, good love happens naturally, but it still needs maintenance and pampering. Sun light and oxygen will only help to a limited extent. Naturally,We just need to roll up our sleeves show some effort.

Like anything else, it takes work to get to the next level and some of us are too selfish or too lazy.

So true.

 

[yoniluvrca]

I think this may be the most uplifting thread I have ever read on a review board....Thanks All....

There is some real wisdom on this board-that is why I stay connected with it even though I have not lived in Toronto for some time now.

True wisdom is always found in the most unlikely places.

 

[tompeepin]

Also relevant to this thread

On the topic of romantic love a great book is Silk by the Italian writer Alessandro Baricco.