Unwritten rules

[Livelife13]

Yesterday I made the assumption that people know unwritten rules in this hobby. That made an ass outta me…only on here fortunately.
This one’s for the SPs …dont reply to a client after a few (2) hours.
The opposite to this rule for me as a client is if you don’t get a response in an hour to hour and a half reach out again..

There must be others let’s hear em..

 

[taker2ez]

I have had girls reply hours later, later into the night and then act surprised when you are unavailable

 

[dirkd101]

This is why you need a burner phone, so that the girls who have no etiquette can cause no harm.

Sage advice about the guy sending out another message, after a certain amount of time.

I will add; Don't bombard a lady with messages. Send one and if no response, send another after 60-90 minutes. Then try once more after a set amount of time.

Have a plan A and a plan B and possibly a plan C.

 

[beyondkarma]

This is why you need a burner phone, so that the girls who have no etiquette can cause no harm.

Sage advice about the guy sending out another message, after a certain amount of time.

I will add; Don't bombard a lady with messages. Send one and if no response, send another after 60-90 minutes. Then try once more after a set amount of time.

Have a plan A and a plan B and possibly a plan C.

Plan B or C definitely keeps one out of trouble and not desperate to see a particular SP. You won't bombard them with messages and will act more rationally.

 

[cameraboy]

Yesterday I made the assumption that people know unwritten rules in this hobby. That made an ass outta me…only on here fortunately.
This one’s for the SPs …dont reply to a client after a few (2) hours.
The opposite to this rule for me as a client is if you don’t get a response in an hour to hour and a half reach out again..

There must be others let’s hear em..

Over the years I have seen many comments on here from members complaining that an SP never responded to their texts. Also, the opposite when an SP replied several hours or several days later. Some SP’s come on here to defend themselves saying I don’t text back after 2 hours or I text back when I am available. I think for an SP they are dammed if they do dammed if they don’t.
For those with SO’s even having a burner which you have to hide can be challenging. You can also try adding a line to your inquiry saying, “please don’t contact me after a certain time”. I think most SP’s would appreciate this and hopefully it eliminates any confusion.

 

[Jpartik416]

Best one I’ve gotten: when people show you what they’re about, believe them. I’ve fallen for scams, then given another shot based on thinking that they were in a bad circumstance, only to be scammed again.
Fool me once…

 

[Joey Badass]

Never take a sleeping pill and a laxative at the same time.

 

[beyondkarma]

If you want a bbbj, you better make sure you've cleaned yourself and your little man exceptionally well, don't give the girl a reason to say nah bro

If she doesn't have shower facilities, do it ahead of time.

I haven't had this happen but I've read enough stories to know if happens all the time

 

[Livelife13]

Normally I contact, communicate, interact then delete and block until next time. A recent phone update made unblocking after deleting a pain in the ass. I have 4 regs who I know will never reply after 2/3 hours. I don’t block them. For some reason I assumed other well reviewed SPs would be the same. I will not make this mistake again.

 

[69_Goliath]

I have had girls reply hours later, later into the night and then act surprised when you are unavailable

I know of a couple of SPs that will send out text messages with prices and services in the middle of the night to the last 50 or 60 people that texted them without even reading their texts. It's best to use caution if you have an SO

 

[RebelinBed]

1) Respectful, clear, and detailed communication is a must from both clients and providers:

Anything that the SP needs to know about who you are (age, ethnicity), what're you're looking for, when they can/can't respond, etc. Conversely, SPs should provide all their services, rates, and restrictions in their ad details and if not in the ad, then have a written "menu" ready to copy and paste.

2) Read the ad in full! Pretty simple.

3) Learn how to use technology.

Muting notifications from whole apps or even specific numbers. You do not need to block and/or delete/uninstall. It's pretty easy to do and much easier than having a burner phone. Watch a YT tutorial on how to do it if necessary. If you use a text app, keep the app off your home screen but still have it in your app library.

4) Learn how to identify scam/fake ads.

Any ad with OnlyFans, WhatsApp, Signal, Telegram links unless by a real reviewed SP is most likely a fake regardless of if the ad has verified pics or not.

5) Do not mention TERB, your TERB handle, reviews, etc. when communicating with an SP at all unless you're booking/communicating with a TERB SP through the forum or if their classified ad specifically asks for it.

This one may seem a bit confusing. Let me explain. A lot of SPs now have a bad perception of review boards unless they are taking this job as a serious profession and understand the value of reviews/feedback. So an SP may not be interested in seeing you if they know you're in this community. Also, alternatively, it could lead them to give you better service than you would normally receive if they didn't know so they could get a positive review.

If you have a genuinely negative communication/interaction/session and you threaten them with or tell them you'll be writing a negative review, it makes it 100x easier for them to respond and discredit you on here.

6) Be ready and willing to provide screenshots/receipts when posting on the board.

This goes for clients and providers. You want to make claims about people, you gotta be able to back them up with the evidence.

7) Respect is a two-way street.

Emotional maturity and respect go a long way. If an SP isn't willing to see you or doesn't provide what you're looking for, lashing out, name calling, and being disrespectful gets you nowhere. A simple "No problem. Thank you for your time" is all you need.

Conversely, for SPs, if your prices are out of a client's range or you don't provide what the client is looking for, lashing out, name calling, and being disrespectful also gets you nowhere. A simple "Sorry babe, thanks for reaching out. Best of luck" is all you need.

P.S. The use of the word "you" is not directed at anybody specifically. It is being used as the Royal "You".

 

[Livelife13]

1) Respectful, clear, and detailed communication is a must from both clients and providers:

Anything that the SP needs to know about who you are (age, ethnicity), what're you're looking for, when they can/can't respond, etc. Conversely, SPs should provide all their services, rates, and restrictions in their ad details and if not in the ad, then have a written "menu" ready to copy and paste.

2) Read the ad in full! Pretty simple.

3) Learn how to use technology.

Muting notifications from whole apps or even specific numbers. You do not need to block and/or delete/uninstall. It's pretty easy to do and much easier than having a burner phone. Watch a YT tutorial on how to do it if necessary. If you use a text app, keep the app off your home screen but still have it in your app library.

4) Learn how to identify scam/fake ads.

Any ad with OnlyFans, WhatsApp, Signal, Telegram links unless by a real reviewed SP is most likely a fake regardless of if the ad has verified pics or not.

5) Do not mention TERB, your TERB handle, reviews, etc. when communicating with an SP at all unless you're booking/communicating with a TERB SP through the forum or if their classified ad specifically asks for it.

This one may seem a bit confusing. Let me explain. A lot of SPs now have a bad perception of review boards unless they are taking this job as a serious profession and understand the value of reviews/feedback. So an SP may not be interested in seeing you if they know you're in this community. Also, alternatively, it could lead them to give you better service than you would normally receive if they didn't know so they could get a positive review.

If you have a genuinely negative communication/interaction/session and you threaten them with or tell them you'll be writing a negative review, it makes it 100x easier for them to respond and discredit you on here.

6) Be ready and willing to provide screenshots/receipts when posting on the board.

This goes for clients and providers. You want to make claims about people, you gotta be able to back them up with the evidence.

7) Respect is a two-way street.

Emotional maturity and respect go a long way. If an SP isn't willing to see you or doesn't provide what you're looking for, lashing out, name calling, and being disrespectful gets you nowhere. A simple "No problem. Thank you for your time" is all you need.

Conversely, for SPs, if your prices are out of a client's range or you don't provide what the client is looking for, lashing out, name calling, and being disrespectful also gets you nowhere. A simple "Sorry babe, thanks for reaching out. Best of luck" is all you need.

P.S. The use of the word "you" is not directed at anybody specifically. It is being used as the Royal "You".

I knew you would have excellent insight on this topic Rebel..Thanks

 

[RebelinBed]

I knew you would have excellent insight on this topic Rebel..Thanks

No problem. Happy to help! This is what I've learned in my 10+ years of hobbying and 7 years on the board. I'm sure there's more that I just can't think of right now.

Actually, on that note.

8) Trust but verify.

No two client experiences will be the same. Similar, sure, but never the same. Everything is YMMV even if the SP has it listed in her "menu". Attraction plays just as big a factor as hygiene.

9) We are all human.

Clients and SPs are all human. We all have bad days. We all can't be on our A+ game all the time. We all deserve respect, courtesy, compassion, empathy, and understanding. Full stop. We shouldn't make each other feel less than for participating in this industry on either side of the coin.

 

[Daddy2021]

Over the years I have seen many comments on here from members complaining that an SP never responded to their texts. Also, the opposite when an SP replied several hours or several days later. Some SP’s come on here to defend themselves saying I don’t text back after 2 hours or I text back when I am available. I think for an SP they are dammed if they do dammed if they don’t.
For those with SO’s even having a burner which you have to hide can be challenging. You can also try adding a line to your inquiry saying, “please don’t contact me after a certain time”. I think most SP’s would appreciate this and hopefully it eliminates any confusion.

Just included with message not to respond after a certain time. You are responsible for your own situations just as sps are.

 

[beyondkarma]

1) Respectful, clear, and detailed communication is a must from both clients and providers:

Anything that the SP needs to know about who you are (age, ethnicity), what're you're looking for, when they can/can't respond, etc. Conversely, SPs should provide all their services, rates, and restrictions in their ad details and if not in the ad, then have a written "menu" ready to copy and paste.

2) Read the ad in full! Pretty simple.

3) Learn how to use technology.

Muting notifications from whole apps or even specific numbers. You do not need to block and/or delete/uninstall. It's pretty easy to do and much easier than having a burner phone. Watch a YT tutorial on how to do it if necessary. If you use a text app, keep the app off your home screen but still have it in your app library.

4) Learn how to identify scam/fake ads.

Any ad with OnlyFans, WhatsApp, Signal, Telegram links unless by a real reviewed SP is most likely a fake regardless of if the ad has verified pics or not.

5) Do not mention TERB, your TERB handle, reviews, etc. when communicating with an SP at all unless you're booking/communicating with a TERB SP through the forum or if their classified ad specifically asks for it.

This one may seem a bit confusing. Let me explain. A lot of SPs now have a bad perception of review boards unless they are taking this job as a serious profession and understand the value of reviews/feedback. So an SP may not be interested in seeing you if they know you're in this community. Also, alternatively, it could lead them to give you better service than you would normally receive if they didn't know so they could get a positive review.

If you have a genuinely negative communication/interaction/session and you threaten them with or tell them you'll be writing a negative review, it makes it 100x easier for them to respond and discredit you on here.

6) Be ready and willing to provide screenshots/receipts when posting on the board.

This goes for clients and providers. You want to make claims about people, you gotta be able to back them up with the evidence.

7) Respect is a two-way street.

Emotional maturity and respect go a long way. If an SP isn't willing to see you or doesn't provide what you're looking for, lashing out, name calling, and being disrespectful gets you nowhere. A simple "No problem. Thank you for your time" is all you need.

Conversely, for SPs, if your prices are out of a client's range or you don't provide what the client is looking for, lashing out, name calling, and being disrespectful also gets you nowhere. A simple "Sorry babe, thanks for reaching out. Best of luck" is all you need.

P.S. The use of the word "you" is not directed at anybody specifically. It is being used as the Royal "You".