Ultra Newbie

[Barracuda Bob]

This is my first post so I'll apologize now in case I break any rules or say something stupid.
I'm an ultra newbie because I am not a hobbyist ( yet ) I don't feel the need to adventure out, I have a beautiful sexy woman at home. However she has recently entered the trade as an MPA & so far I'm O.K. with that. I would like some feed back from others who are in the same situation. Does it ever get to you, and if not, should it? Does it ever cause any other problems like if your out with her & she bumps into a client etc.
I have a million questions but for now I'll leave it at that.

 

[Cardinal Fang]

The less you know the more sane you will be.

My existence on this board disproves this comment.

 

[Barracuda Bob]

I understand the theory of " the less you know" but I'm really O.K. with that part of it. She's an incredible woman and she's having fun and deserves it. My biggest concern is obviously her safety, and she's pretty smart about that. I'm just interested in other opinions and curious to know if the majority of practicing hobbyists would be O.K. with the shoe being on the other "foot".

 

[MuffinMuncher]

There are two ways to look at this answer. I would have a very difficult time accepting my SO's desire to become an SP or MPA, for any number of reasons including safety and the nagging thought of "I wonder who is getting extra extras".

However, if you voluntarily start to date someone who is already in the business, I think it would be much easier to accept since it is already part of the "do I want to become involved with this person" equation.

BB, if you are REALLY ok with her decision, be supportive and most importantly..... dont ask any questions to which you dont want to hear the answer ('cause it might not be the answer you expect)!

 

[Barracuda Bob]

I understand & agree with both of your replies with respect for the fact that for most people that might be the best approach. Even though it seems kind of double standardish.( But everyone has a different reason for doing what they do )

Even though this is new for us I think that for me personally to be fully supportive I should have the stones to deal with the whole package, and so far anything I have asked her about hasn't traumatized me.

So far the main result of this new path is the hot woman I had before is now hotter, she is more self confident, and a heck of alot easier to get along with. I highly reccomend it!

 

[Barracuda Bob]

Excellent advice Mr. Deep. She's actually sitting on my knee right now reading these replies. She agrees 100%

 

[xarir]

Hats off to you BB for being open & supportive about this. As long as you realize now what it is that makes this lovely lass special to you, and as long as those values don't change you'll be fine. Just keep reminding yourself why it is you love her.

At the same time, be prepared for a few "down" days. This is almost inevitable. I recently made plans with a special lady. A few hours before we were to meet she left me a voicemail saying sorry, she couldn't make it as she had a booking. Naturally I was disappointed, but that night I came here and read one of the most enthusiastic reviews of her I'd ever seen.

It was hard to read that. I couldn't and don't hold it against her in any way - this is what she does for a living after all. But what hurt the most was that while I was off feeling lonely, she was in the throes of wild sexual passion with a guy she had never met before. Though I was thinking about her lots that evening (both before & after I read the review) I somehow doubt she even gave me so much as a fleeting thought after she left the vmail.

I'm not trying to sound bitter (I'm not), but the reality of being in this biz that from time to time, your lady will have a great time "at work". It's times like these that you'll have to remind yourself why she's special to you.

Good luck!

 

[Fred Zed]

I would like some feed back from others who are in the same situation. Does it ever get to you, and if not, should it?.

You'll need to be strong.

Sometimes you just have to trick your mind into believing nothing is going on in those VIP booths, or in your case, the massage table. This may take a little bit of training and practice.

And if her cell phone is not answered and it's 3.30 am, and she is supposed to be home, well, just put it down to a bad connection.

 

[Barracuda Bob]

For this to work there needs to be some rules ( like any good relationship )

She has set hours that she works so she is home when expected.
She ( like myself ) also does not put her job before family time or our time.

She does not accept any dates that might be offered, and does not get too personal with her clients even though she remains freindly and fun to be with. In other words she sets guidelines for herself and I greatly respect that.

As far as her enjoying her work, I say power to her. We will be old and shriveled some day and life is too short for me to get my shit in a knot because she is full of life and enjoys her work.

It is a delicate mix of mutual respect and even though its not everyones cup-o- tea, it works for us.