Totally Disturbed

[Mia.Colpa]

We all do this business for reason. At the end of the day it is first about money or situation that deal with money, second about how fast you can make it, and third having some fun and hopefully meet some decent client. ..............................................................

Most people do thing like this or go to adult entertainment business for reason... it not about getting next fix or sex addiction.

Some refreshing honesty, I have a good chuckle when some ladies post that they are in this business because they like sex, lmao. Let's call a spade a spade, if you liked sex that much, then why charge.

End of commercial break, now back to the regularly scheduled program, GG.

 

[Mia.Colpa]

Áctually Gen has also put down women on this board, not just men. She calls 'em as she sees them, I don't feel she has disdain for men. She is opinionated and I'm ok with that as long as her arguements are well thought out and civil, which they are for the most part with a little humour thrown in here and there. I don't agree with everything she posts, so what, that doesn't make her wrong or me right. In this case, I do agree with her comment about hypocrisy, I think that's obvious to all.

 

[LadyTY2Uall]

Some refreshing honesty, I have a good chuckle when some ladies post that they are in this business because they like sex, lmao. Let's call a spade a spade, if you liked sex that much, then why charge.

End of commercial break, now back to the regularly scheduled program, GG.

Ummmm I like sex, I like men AND I like paying my bills.......THAT is why a lot of us are in this business. If I had a substantial bank account or a healthy inheritance then I would still be having sex as often as possible, however, I would choose who I was having sex with and anyone who was not respectful or appealing to me would not get through my door,,,

 

[LadyTY2Uall]

As for the topic of the post,,,,,hon, if you are ashamed of what you are doing then you will have trouble justifying this to your family regardless of how you go about it. If, on the other hand, you do not see this as doing anything wrong then your self assurance will go a long way in convincing your family that you choose to escort and that you enjoy it.

Swingers are much more open minded about sex and see nothing wrong with a healthy sex life or with enjoying multiple partners. Moving from swinging to escorting is a fairly easy transition because we know the difference between sex and love. You may never be able to make your family understand but as long as you and your husband are fine with it you will eventually find peace. Unfortunately most people see escorts as trashy, cheap, drug addicted unfortunates who have been coerced or bullied into 'selling their bodies'. The only thing you can do at this point is show them that you are a normal, healthy, happy woman who has CHOSEN to escort as a means to help support your family, the fact that you have the support and blessing of your husband can be a positive thing as long as you make it clear that it is YOUR choice. Good luck hon, and like everyone else has said, breath....this too shall pass.

 

[Kya_Jean]

Some refreshing honesty, I have a good chuckle when some ladies post that they are in this business because they like sex, lmao. Let's call a spade a spade, if you liked sex that much, then why charge.

End of commercial break, now back to the regularly scheduled program, GG.

I enjoyed random sex with different men. That was my thing, before and after I was getting paid for it. I just had it more frequently when I was getting paid as I was "on the market" so to speak.

There are many, many people who get paid to do what they love. Why should it be any different for us? Besides the usually TERB hypocrisy of course.

Do you think athletes should not get paid either? What about the fortune 500 CEO? What about those in acting or the music business? Dance, etc? All of these people have a passion for what they do, should they not get paid because they love it so much?

Eh, my post was close enough. Except that GOD thing...

And it was a good post, but it is still nothing compared to the advice from someone who actually went through it. That would be like a CAS worker giving advice on how to raise kids when they don't have any themselves. Don't you think?

However, yours was the best out of all the other male postings in this thread. So sorry if you felt singled out.

 

[Mia.Colpa]

Do you think athletes should not get paid either? What about the fortune 500 CEO? What about those in acting or the music business? Dance, etc? All of these people have a passion for what they do, should they not get paid because they love it so much?

I have a hard time with the analogy that CEO's, athletes, actors, rock stars, etc.. are like escorts.

Especially when I've met hundreds of ladies in this biz and virtually all of them are in this business for the money, yes they like sex, but only with partners they wish to be with, no partners that they are forced to endure sex with because they are getting paid. Eventually those ladies that initially liked sex when entering this biz, finally get jaded and want out bad. I've been around the block quite a few times.

Anyway, I digress, this would be the topic of another thread,

 

[HAMSTER INSPECTOR]

I have serious doubts if the original poster is genuine and sincere. I offered some serious private advice and she/he has not responded to my invitation on post 26 last evening. Anyone that is desperate would welcome any advice,There is no advice that can be given to completely fix the problem if the original poster is real.

 

[Scarey]

The fact she knew about the swing clubs etc is troubling.She may have had an initial tip but she may have had you followed.If she seems to know EVERYTHING....that may be the case.If she does know everything I'm guessing only a few people know that.

 

[GDLLover]

I have serious doubts if the original poster is genuine and sincere. I offered some serious private advice and she/he has not responded to my invitation on post 26 last evening. Anyone that is desperate would welcome any advice,There is no advice that can be given to completely fix the problem if the original poster is real.

Give the OP the benefit of doubt.

I also responded in the thread with not being judgemental, only answering her quest as to how someone can find info on the internet and there was no response. I suspect she is either so shaken by her situation, she is trying to figure out how to handle it and is in a shell. There were also many people here passing judgement on her (and husband situation) that I feel was unfair and she is now scared.

She came here for help, lets help with support if we can. GGirl, if you need to talk send a PM to whom you want for advice from, were not all bad.

GDL.

 

[toughb]

Maybe you're right.

This thread is useless without pics.

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Totally agree old boy. Put up some nude pictures of yourself. We're all in need of a good laugh...


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[7.5]

you think some sp's aren't married or have ''real life'' SO's ?

you really think that....really ?

Nope. Not at all. I just wonder what kind of guy lets his wife bang others. For money or not. It is a guy with a totally different mindset that can let his wife do those things.

 

[Mencken]

Obviously a different mindset.

Perhaps one that believes in not controlling his partner, among other things. What right has anyone to be in the position to have to "let" his wife do something?

All you can do is control yourself, not someone else.

 

[Kya_Jean]

I have a hard time with the analogy that CEO's, athletes, actors, rock stars, etc.. are like escorts.

Especially when I've met hundreds of ladies in this biz and virtually all of them are in this business for the money, yes they like sex, but only with partners they wish to be with, no partners that they are forced to endure sex with because they are getting paid. Eventually those ladies that initially liked sex when entering this biz, finally get jaded and want out bad. I've been around the block quite a few times.

Anyway, I digress, this would be the topic of another thread,

I can only speak from my personal experience as well. Being that I was an escort, the money was a bonus and I was very sexually satisfied.

Now that I am out I can't get enough sex. The only thing that turns me off because of the business is cowgirl, but that is it.

Also agree - a topic for another thread.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

You've done nothing wrong. Your parents need to check themselves out. I wonder what their indiscretions are. Lets start with perusing so many escort ads they accidentally find you. Let them know you will talk to them when they come to their senses mind their business and their manners and stop treating you like a criminal. In the mean time cut them off. If they dont miss you they will miss their granddaughter.

Also, you could have conceivably denied everything and made them prove their claims. At which point you would have been in a very good position to question their web surfing. You were engaged in activities for your financial survival and keeping it private. They were angaged in their activities for personal thrills, gossip, and passing judgement. What's their explanation or excuse?

 

[Aardvark154]

GGirl, I agree with Papasmerf that it is difficult to give constructive advice when I do not know all the facts.

However, from what you tell us, It was very wrong of your mother to tell your siblings and step-father.

The most important thing is the love of your Husband and Daughter.

It is regrettable that your mother did not see that no matter what she thought of your behavior she was exacerbating the harm.

I hope that there is some type of counseling that you can access.

Sorry to hear this.

 

[C Dick]

Just because people have no knowledge of a situation, or experience in that area, does not mean that they should not post on Terb about it. If they didn't, 99% of the posts would disappear.

The "no sps like it" theory makes no sense, the best providers I know were fucking lots of guys before they ever got paid, turning pro was mainly a way to get paid for what they were doing anyway. I used to love playing on my computer when I was a kid, and I was good at it, so it only made sense to do it for a living. Now I sometimes have to deal with clients who I would rather not, but I do it anyway to pay the bills. But it is still what I love to do, even though I sell my gift.

I think it is the same with SPs who really belong in the business. But there are a lot more people in the IT industry than those who love it, the demand is there, so people go into it because they want the money. But they can never be as good at is as the ones you have passion for it. It is the same with SPs, lots, or most, might be there only for the money, but the best have a gift for it, and would be doing it in some form whether they were paid or not.

 

[W3bster]

I find the husband accepting the wife getting into the industry due to a financial jam bizarre...Or complete and utter BS. If he nudged or accepted her being the industry, then it makes sense that a guy with this mindset would support or nudge his daughters sp'ing, his mother, sister...hey, the money is great right and it's like any other job.
btw, anyone have Gerry Springer's number?

 

[james t kirk]

Nope. Not at all. I just wonder what kind of guy lets his wife bang others. For money or not. It is a guy with a totally different mindset that can let his wife do those things.

Cool the judgement.

You are applying your (twisted) values to others. Is it somehow right in your world that an SP shouldn't have a married life as well. That in your rulebook it's ok for a woman to sell sex only if she is not attached.

 

[Cycleguy007]

Nope. Not at all. I just wonder what kind of guy lets his wife bang others. For money or not. It is a guy with a totally different mindset that can let his wife do those things.

Although I clearly have a different mindset... but does this also apply if your wife has sex with other women? Just curious...

 

[shakenbake]

The most important thing is the love of your Husband and Daughter.

Truer words, IMHO, were never spoken.

This is the bottom line in this situation.

We often do things for many reasons that appear right at the time for us and our loved ones. Although we can voice our own comments and opinions, no one has the right to judge others' actions, unless we have had to deal with the same or similar situations, ourselves.