I have encountered a situation that has me bent out of shape!!!!!!!!!
I was found out by my Mother that I have this other life going on behind closed doors. 1st off I was totally shocked! not the kinda thing you want your mom to find out about. Anyway, she told me she new and neither of us knew what to say. Long story short without getting into all the details I asked her who she told and she replied "WHO WOULD I TELL?" So, later on I called her to see if she wanted to get together so we could talk it through and with a few attemps she didn't answer the phone. Later that day my phone started ringing off the wall, she ended up telling my brother, sister, step father and my real father and my brother told his kids!!!!! I was left with only one thing to do and that was to tell my daughter(16) before she was told by someone else. Of course I left out the details and told her I hadn't got too far with the whole thing but I did post pictures and my Mom found them and it was going to be a temporary fix to some financial issues I was having and it didn't get that far before my mom finding the pics and a bunch of other personal stuff.
My question is this- how the heck did she find this info out?
She doesn't know how to work a computer, I don't live at home for her to accidentally find something, I thought background checks only showed if you had criminal records and stuff like that, am I wrong? The only person who knew was my sister and she thought I should do it as a matter of fact it was her idea and she is professing she said nothing to my mom.
She found out other things too! I have 2 stores I opened and that I once was on a swinger site (a whole pile of private stuff)
. I am so sickened by these latest events unravelling in my life that I can't think straight. I know from a moral standpoint that for others this was wrong what I did but am I alone in thinking that what she did was wrong too, is my anger validated or am I so crushed I can't think straight??????
Thanks for listening and for any advice XO
I was found out by my Mother that I have this other life going on behind closed doors. 1st off I was totally shocked! not the kinda thing you want your mom to find out about. Anyway, she told me she new and neither of us knew what to say. Long story short without getting into all the details I asked her who she told and she replied "WHO WOULD I TELL?" So, later on I called her to see if she wanted to get together so we could talk it through and with a few attemps she didn't answer the phone. Later that day my phone started ringing off the wall, she ended up telling my brother, sister, step father and my real father and my brother told his kids!!!!! I was left with only one thing to do and that was to tell my daughter(16) before she was told by someone else. Of course I left out the details and told her I hadn't got too far with the whole thing but I did post pictures and my Mom found them and it was going to be a temporary fix to some financial issues I was having and it didn't get that far before my mom finding the pics and a bunch of other personal stuff.
My question is this- how the heck did she find this info out?
She doesn't know how to work a computer, I don't live at home for her to accidentally find something, I thought background checks only showed if you had criminal records and stuff like that, am I wrong? The only person who knew was my sister and she thought I should do it as a matter of fact it was her idea and she is professing she said nothing to my mom.
She found out other things too! I have 2 stores I opened and that I once was on a swinger site (a whole pile of private stuff)
. I am so sickened by these latest events unravelling in my life that I can't think straight. I know from a moral standpoint that for others this was wrong what I did but am I alone in thinking that what she did was wrong too, is my anger validated or am I so crushed I can't think straight??????
Thanks for listening and for any advice XO
