To marry an Sp?

[Musketeer]

Since reading the Janda Habibbi goodbyes on her "retirement" post in the TO thread, and reading about Paul McCartney's ex being an escort/pornstar, which Terbites would marry a girl that had worked in the industry? (not sure if these guys knew or not but posing the question to you all anyways)

I know that several well-known Sp's are married or have boyfriend's, whether their partners actually know of, or approve of what their ladies do for a living is another matter. Just curious.

 

[kz65]

that's a tough one, I still consider myself somewhat of a newbie to "hobbying" but i recall so many posts/advice from both SP-MPA-& other members that this is just a big game for all to enjoy & rule #1 is don't fall in love. Therefore my answer would be "no wouldn't settle with an SP" - if you let yourself emotionally fall for one of the many wonderful ladies in the game your just setting yourself up for a big let down.....how do you know if the attraction is mutual?
Even having the slightest thought of "does she love/like me outside the biz" in my view is already crossing the line to the other side & can really emotionally mess you up...us guys are all a bunch of suckers for attention from the lovely ladies

 

[nautilus]

I'm thinking if she married you, she probably really likes you and isn't just pretending.
I'd marry one if everything else fell into place. Besides, she can't be an SP/MP forever. Its just a job.
I think I would have to be allowed to continue hobbying as long as she was still in the business.

 

[Choron]

I would have no interest...

 

[wellhung8]

Whats so wrong about marrying someone who you love?

I agree with nautilis, "if she married you, she probably really likes you and isn't just pretending"

 

[magicmanofmassage]

I'm thinking if she married you, she probably really likes you and isn't just pretending.
I'd marry one if everything else fell into place. Besides, she can't be an SP/MP forever. Its just a job.
I think I would have to be allowed to continue hobbying as long as she was still in the business.

Hmmnnn, someone's been reading "Hobbying Perils" by Tbearbare et al.

 

[kz65]

Whats so wrong about marrying someone who you love?

i'd hope you'd marry someone you love, otherwise why take the plung.
but in this hobby the ladies make you feel like a million bucks for the time you are together, once you leave & if the marriage/love thought enters your mind it can be a dangerous path heading towards major dissapointment

 

[radius]

There was one girl who I once almost fell for. She would yell "Hubby!" (kind of... it sounds better in my native language) during intense moments.

Ultimately I got scared off because she was *too* good to me professionally. I think I would have expected that same treatment/attitude all the time, instead of one hour at a time, and that just isn't sustainable in a real relationship.

I occasionally daydream about winning the lottery and hiring some private eyes to ask if she's still interested...

 

[nautilus]

Hmmnnn, someone's been reading "Hobbying Perils" by Tbearbare et al.
Sometimes I feel like I'm living it, never mind just reading it.

 

[da246]

From what I hear relationships with strippers/sps don't last very long.

 

[bestillmehard]

I'm not so sure...Sometimes after leaving an SP I think wow...i think we clicked and often wonder about dating them, but then I think of what great actress' some can be and wonder if it wasnt just an act. That stops my thinking dead in its tracks.

 

[1man2envy]

Well i'm glad to see that there are females who are not afraid and , are women enough to say this is what i do for a living and i dont want a relationship . it is a very good thing but me personally i would not get married to someone who is in the industry

 

[goalie000]

Actually there is one Lady that I would Marry if I could. She has a lot of the qualities one would look for in a Spouse.

 

[Musketeer]

Well i'm glad to see that there are females who are not afraid and , are women enough to say this is what i do for a living and i dont want a relationship . it is a very good thing but me personally i would not get married to someone who is in the industry

I know an Sp with a 'heart of gold' who has had a long-term relationship with a man in a wheelchair. There is very little sex between them, and he accepts what she does for a living as long as she spares him the details, and is home in the evening.

They have a very loving relationship and are each other's best friends. I know this is a unique case, but it does happen.

 

[I try]

I have fallen for one and she

Fell for me too, but in the end it is just too conflicting and not a good environment to begin a relationship.. JMHO

I respect Savannha's opinion and believe it to be the most wise choice..

 

[magicmanofmassage]

I believe!

Actually there is one Lady that I would Marry if I could. She has a lot of the qualities one would look for in a Spouse.

Ditto!

I've had this discussion a few times with some special ladies. I accept the fact that at this point in their lives they are doing what they need to do. Those needs are not just about money in many cases. They have sexual needs as well. Hell guys stop being hypocrites, that's why you go see them. Why can't they have the same feelings, needs and desires? I find it somewhat disturbing that some men view SPs as objects as if they don't have the capability of having feelings. The fact that you state that publicly makes me laugh. Don't be surprised if the next time you're looking for an appointment you can't get one because that woman doesn't like to be treated like a piece of meat.
I realize that there are VERY few women that would marry a guy that they met in the business. They can't accept the fact that the guy feels something more than lust.
I think if both sides come to realize that; if you have learned to live with yourself, know yourself well, both attributes and shortfalls and can go through life not judging others, then yes it can work.
I know there is a helluva lot more to say on this subject, but that's just my 0.02 worth

 

[hak]

I think you need to look at this outside the client perspective and the "game" perspective.

I assume that most SP/MPA that have SO have met them outside of the work environment,, i.e they were never clients. So first off to answer this question, you have to assume that you met them in that way.

 

[Aloha]

ONCE BITTEN, TWICE SHY


I believe everyone goes through this at one point or another. When you are a newbie (hobbyist or SP/MP) the likeliness of this is greater. You learn as you go. Like Magic said there are many reasons why all of us are here, single or married. You have fun with the time you have with all these special people but always in the back of your mind you are cautious. Then BOOM out of nowhere comes someone who sweeps you off your feet. Yes it happened to me. After many years of being in the business. The culture, the wild sex, the reading, being serenaded, the wine, the dinner, the intelligence of this man, did I mention the sex…the long hours of many visits. The clearing of my schedule just for this visit. The way I felt I would have done it for free. But he didn’t or wouldn’t. He knew the game. Then gone. But it was a wonderful experience.
He taught me to take the wall down. If you don’t allow your self to feel and experience you are not living life to the fullest. But you have to keep it in perspective.

 

[magicmanofmassage]

Thanks teach!

If you don’t allow your self to feel and experience you are not living life to the fullest. But you have to keep it in perspective.

I recall in another thread saying that some of these women have a lot to teach us, living and breathing this business that we just visit.

Pay attention ladies and gentlemen, one of the wisest just spoke.

 

[nautilus]

Shauna, you make it sound like I left you a long time ago. Hell, it was just Friday! Didn't realize I had taken any walls down.
While MMofM was incapacitating Savannha, I was busy reconstructing Shauna's world.
Nautilus is sure that she was talking about him