The value of trust in hobbying ..

[Enlightened]

I was wondering if all us gents feel the same about trustworthiness in hobbying . Here is my feeling . Trust
in this hobby is as important to me as the experience itself .
If I cant trust the agency or the independant the whole experience is ruined for me . If an agency or the people that work for them cant win my trust then I can do without . One of
the reasons we choose hobbying is so that we do not have to deal with things that might be uncomfortable for us . NO strings attached . Another thing , if a girl or an employee cheats on there employer ( so to speak ) what is to prevent them from being disloyal to you or with you . People can and do change for all sorts of reasons . If they feel threatened or like someone has treated them unfairly then they might seek revenge by hurting others . I guess it all boils down to making sure you know who you are dealing with and making sure you trust them . If they have not been loyal to others then what makes us think they would be loyal to us . And look at how they deal with others . Public relations and customer relations are every thing in a business like this . What are your thoughts ? E

 

[Kerri]

Trust is something that takes time to build. As an SP I know I need to talk to the client for a little, and usually see him more than once to build up that trust. Most of the girls are trying to be very discreet as they are in school, or working other jobs. They usually will not violate your trust because they rely on your discretion as much as you do on theirs.

 

[syn]

I wonder about that. Personally, I'm not in a position where I have to worry about discretion. Also; I know a young lady who had major family problems when an ex-bf learned of her activities and informed her family. Having said that, I think it's safe to say that a large percentage of guys, who see escorts, are in situations where they'd have a lot more to lose, if the escort were indiscreet, than vice versa. Mommy and Daddy will forgive you and there are other schools or jobs but those divorce settlements are murder. 8-(

i do not agree with you.

unfortunately, we live in a world that places a much greater stigma on women who 'work' in the biz than men who partake in the 'hobby'.

syn

 

[syn]

narrow minded view...

in my mind, there is simply no comparison between a wife inadvertantly discovering her husband had a session with an escort ... compared to a mother inadvertantly finding out her daughter was a prostitute.

syn

 

[Willywants]

The Trauma Of It All!!

IMHO, the trauma for each of the individuals in the respective circumstances is just as severe for the one as for the other!
They have both been outed doing something they definitely do not want certain people knowing about!
The severety of the consequences, may however, differ substantially!
In my own circumstance, just for a minor indescretion, I nearly lost wife, home and family!
Would an SP who is outed chance losing all of that?? I don't think so!
Considering the amount of personal information an SP requires from a potential client, trust and discretion are paramount!

Willywants (to be more careful!!)

 

[Kerri]

I think most SP's will feel they have more to lose, and most Clients will belive they have more to lose. That was my point to begin with. As long as you both think there is risk involved you will both be catious and discreet. If the SP or client has nothing to lose by being discovered then worry. That is the person who you should be wary of, those of us who are afraid of being "outed" will keep your trust on the condition you keep ours. Afterall I know my life, and I know that if outed I would be devatstated. It's not Mommy and Daddy I would be as worried about. Some of us work in careers that would not allow a former escort, and I don't plan on wasting my education and experience. Financially and morally I would be torn apart. As long as we all know and respect each others situation then we should have no problems.