The problem with going out with hot ladies out of your league...

[DenWa]

Lil'Miss and I were married this past June. We've been together for 5 years and we grew up together. She was an awkward young girl, and she blossomed into a super-hottie. She's done a lot of modeling, and was a very successful dancer for a couple years. Our relationship isn't even remotely based on the looks. As I said, when we started going out she was scrawny, had bad skin, and wore thick glasses. I'm a pretty good looking guy, but I'm carrying some extra weight. On a surface level I guess I like that she's hot, but it causes some problems too. Sometimes when we're out, guys will approach her while she's with me, some even go as far as hitting on her and assuming I'm her brother or friend. My brother is 6 foot tall, in really good shape, and wears flashy clothes, and sometimes when the three of us go out people assume she's with him. None of these things make me feel very good about myself.

Don't try to search for some super-hottie, or think that it's the most important thing. We all want a person who appeals to our tastes, but a babe with no substance really gets old quick. I worked in SC's for 5 years, and had my share of hotties, and after the third or fourth fuck you just get sick of them.

I've never been with anyone like my wife. She loves me, and when she looks at me I know she finds me attractive. But I hate not being able to go to a club without every guy in the place hitting on her. I'm not jealous, and she doesn't stray - that not what bothers me. But there's this weird code of ethics and behavior with guys, and when someone steps up and hits on your girl in front of you, there a certain obligation to do something about it, and I hate that kind of confrontation. Plus it doesn't do wonders for your self-esteem. I think Lil'Miss is the most beautiful girl in the world, but I thought that when she had the goofy bangs and the thick glasses, and sometimes I wish that was still her.

Beauty fades, man. Mourn the loss of your love, but not the loss of her looks. That's not what holds you and gets you through the night.

DW

 

[[ALIMEISTER]]

Well said DW.

 

[DenWa]

and my macho card expired a while ago, so you can't revoke it.

DW

 

[rocko]

If life was kind every hottie would be your all time best lover and dearest friend. Its not, so find the hottie that makes u feel like a man emotionally and physically and whether she's a 2 or a 10 appreciate and cherish. Whether she's in a low cut tight dress or simply jeans and t- shirt if she makes u feel fulfilled then go with it. No one is saying anything about growing old together only growing old and being alone or dumping what they have. At some point regret filters in and then try being 54,alone emotionally and wishing u had kept what u once were fortunate to have had. It hurts so bad on so many levels.

 

[bootycall28]

I worked in SC's for 5 years, and had my share of hotties, and after the third or fourth fuck you just get sick of them.

You got that right. I work the door of an SC, and have hung out with a lot of dances after work. I know exactly what you are talking about. Sex without chemistry, no matter how hot the girl, get old pretty fast.

I think Lil'Miss is the most beautiful girl in the world, but I thought that when she had the goofy bangs and the thick glasses, and sometimes I wish that was still her.

Beauty fades, man. Mourn the loss of your love, but not the loss of her looks. That's not what holds you and gets you through the night.

DW

If she read that she'd probably cry. Nice take on that one.

Booty

 

[bootycall28]

try being 54,alone emotionally and wishing u had kept what u once were fortunate to have had. It hurts so bad on so many levels.

I have a friend that is 52, going back to Seneca College to do some programming after his wife left him for some rich guy. He lost his business and most of his possessions, and was near the brink of ending it. Now he has no money, no lover, and man is he hurting. Starting over after 20 years of marriage is tough .

Booty

 

[sirduke]

So true....

I have a friend that is 52, going back to Seneca College to do some programming after his wife left him for some rich guy. He lost his business and most of his possessions, and was near the brink of ending it. Now he has no money, no lover, and man is he hurting. Starting over after 20 years of marriage is tough .

Booty

Well, I am not quite 52... almost... but can relate to this guy. I also left a 20 year marraige, for a lot of reasons but a big part of it was lack of intimacy. At any rate I later discovered wonderful phyiscal pleasure, but that is fleeting. I had an absolutely wonderful woman, my best friend.... ever... and lost her due to being on here. I think hobbying is fine if you are between relationships but when you are in one, a real committed relationship it is not worth the risk. Because now I am like the guy bootycall wrote about. I can take being poor, its the no lover part that's rough. And, this is in no way a pity party... it is what it is.... just a caution perhaps to others going through their own mid life crisis... lol....

 

[Snake Pliskin]

I worked in SC's for 5 years, and had my share of hotties, and after the third or fourth fuck you just get sick of them.

Yeah, that sounds pretty awful. Well, I sure am happy I never had that problem!

 

[DenWa]

Snake, I didn't mean it that way. It was obviously fun, and there's something to be said about banging a hot stripper without having to pay for it. My point was that looking for love and looking for a hot girl don't necessarily go hand and hand.

DW

 

[Lil'Miss]

Wow, what a thread to read after I just woke up. You are so sweet DW. Hurry up and come home, I've got quite a night planned for you

Lil'Miss

P.S. sorry for the out of context comment.

 

[HowardHughes]

She's not worth it.

When I was in highschool, nobody came up to me to talk to me - they all wanted to talk to me about my older brother - even had a bunch of girls say to me "why aren't you as good looking as your brother". They really said that. I was really hurt by that.

So, what did I do? Not a thing. I just continued to be myself. And guess what? I am beyond their comprehension in regards of success, I'm generally a happy guy - however, if a hottie approaches me - I'll still get flushed and be quite shy. And what about my brother? He wound up to be the equivalent of Al Bundy. All the glory days are about what he did in Highschool.

You can change a lot about yourself - but the personality will always stay - just be yourself, and when you don't expect it...wham!!!!! You'll be struck by lightning again.

 

[DenWa]

HA! My brother is like Al Bundy too...well, he's still a ladies man, but he's got a shit job and I live on Sunset Blvd and have the best wife in the world.

I guess nice guys don't always finish last.

DW

 

[HowardHughes]

Hey Red - exactly!!!!!

DenWa - so true, eh??? You hear them talk at a family get-together, and you'd swear they were telling you that they won the Superbowl - yet, they are referring to a highschool football game back in Grade 11.

Sheesh...

 

[Stealth Charmer]

Love & Sex

I once read that women use emotions as a doorway to sex, while men use sex as a doorway to their emotions.

Some may see me as shallow when I harbour deep feelings for woman with whom I've only really had a sexual relationship, but I don't see it that way. Sex is a powerful thing. It messes with a guy's head, opens doors he doesn't even know are being opened.

I remember telling a woman I started an affair with that I was committed and that she shouldn't fall in love with me, that it wasn't going to last, a little over a month later I was completely in love with her & all we really ever did together was make love, sure there was the odd date, but mostly we just made love at her place. My point is u can have deep-rooted feelings for a woman even though you're just having sex with her. Does that make u shallow? Nah, I think it just makes u human.

 

[MuffinMuncher]

The flip side to this scenario is why would a hot girl that is out of your league be dating you to begin with? More than likely, she has other issues of her own, and sees you as an equal or a step up from the usual guys she dates.

Or... dont laugh... she figures that by dating someone beneath her, you are less likely to abandon her for another woman.

 

[Stealth Charmer]

To Muffin Muncher's point

Maybe she'd already dated lots of buff, pretty boyz & thought Punkt had something different to offer...

 

[Stealth Charmer]

Thank you Nearly

An incredible and insightful post from a man with few more years under his belt -thanks

 

[sweet guy]

1) I don't think all the good looking hotties are good at sex. Many do but many of them are sucks on the intimacy in varing degrees. The "menu" is incomplete and some are not even available.

2) If your ex hottie is looking for muscle-bound rich guy, I will say stay away from her when for some reason comes back to be with you. She just proves to be a high maintenance and gold digger for sure.

You pay much less for a hot SP for a couple of hours, even the whole week with that SP, than your hottie "girlfriend". You just pay a "defined" dontation for a good fark while you need to pay more than you bargain for high maintenance "girlfriend" on other expensive shopping stuffs, plus listening to her s*@@y diatribe.