Since I was 14 years old I have made it my life's mission to get laid I'm sure I'm no different from a lot of you guys on this board and if I may say I have been very successful at it whether it be civilian or Pro. I honestly at this point can't remember the vast majority of women I've had sex with, I do however remember the ones that got away whether it was from nerves, guilt, or bad timing, they sometimes haunt me like the Ghost of Christmas Past. So my question is do any of you guys ever think about the ones that got away and perhaps a story you have to go with it.
The ones that got away
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I always think about the few special ladies we resonated on a different level. But I understand that all relationships have stages and eventually it would be a similar roller coaster. Just accept that it wasn’t meant to be and try to be present and grateful for the present life I have. But yes I still miss some of them and the connection we had because with some I have never get that before with anyone else and still want it. I guess a heroine addict would feel the same after the first amazing hit and once you feel that experience nothing compares.
I've come to understand the ole saying, "exes are exes for a reason", that said, it is difficult not to think back to some where I wish things had gone a different way. Both on my end or theirs. I've come to learn how to work on how not to repeat my own patterns, and how to accept theirs; afterall we can't want people with the expectation that they will change, or that means we don't really want them but a version of them that isn't real. Understanding this, I no longer find myself pining for or chasing anyone. If they want to make it work, they need to step up and do the work, as I have, and if they don't, I will be fine either way.
I'll try and give an example of what I'm talking about. When I was a young teenager my parents took us to Hawaii for Christmas one year I met a girl and we were lying on the beach and I was trying to figure out how to make my move she gave me all the signs but I was just too nervous and never followed through. I still think about that night today
Yes - we all had those that got away. I always think what would've with the one that got away for me. I wonder if I was with her would I be in this hobbyin' lifestyle.
The one that got away was never in the cards anyway. Though I went through 20 years of "something about Mary" pining. The closer I get to the end, the more selective memory becomes less selective and memories long forgotten flash before me like unwelcome.....memories. No mystery about why I got such across the board rejection. What was I thinking anyway? lol.
In 1987 I worked for an Insurance company for a few months. The receptionist on our floor had to have an operation, and she was away for about six weeks, so we had a temp. Miss Wright looked a lot like a young Heather Thomas:
She was about 20, approximately 5'5" tall, and I estimate her measurements at 32b-22-34. She usually wore form-fitting one piece dresses to mid thigh length, and she was really friendly to me in particular, waving to me from the photocopier which was within sight of my desk, and drawing little happy faces on my phone messages.
One Friday, she said "xxxx is back on Monday, so this is my last day". Near the end of the day, I went out to the reception area and invited her out for a drink after work, and she said "I'm sorry, I can't. I'm a Jehovah's Witness". A couple of years later, I saw her on Yonge Street near St Clair, giving away The Watchtower, so I knew she had not just fed me a line that day.
She was about 20, approximately 5'5" tall, and I estimate her measurements at 32b-22-34. She usually wore form-fitting one piece dresses to mid thigh length, and she was really friendly to me in particular, waving to me from the photocopier which was within sight of my desk, and drawing little happy faces on my phone messages.
One Friday, she said "xxxx is back on Monday, so this is my last day". Near the end of the day, I went out to the reception area and invited her out for a drink after work, and she said "I'm sorry, I can't. I'm a Jehovah's Witness". A couple of years later, I saw her on Yonge Street near St Clair, giving away The Watchtower, so I knew she had not just fed me a line that day.
I console myself with the attitude that, if it wasn't right when we were together, unless it was only outside influences that were the problem, it wouldn't have been right over the long term. So while I might miss the good times, I always try to keep in mind why we eventually parted.
Here's a theory I think makes a lot of sense: Women marry men thinking they can change them to become their ideal man, while men marry women thinking they're perfect just as they are, and that they'll never change. A lot of shattered illusions ensue on both sides...
Here's a theory I think makes a lot of sense: Women marry men thinking they can change them to become their ideal man, while men marry women thinking they're perfect just as they are, and that they'll never change. A lot of shattered illusions ensue on both sides...
There have been plenty of me but I am glad I listen to my guts. Later I found out how mentally nuts they were. Also as Indiana said about Facebook, I am also glad I missed them.
Later in life I learned ... sometime its nice to miss it than to be clamped down.
Later in life I learned ... sometime its nice to miss it than to be clamped down.
I often think back about the ones that got away, they told me my time was up and I had to leave. 
Good post. I definitely remember the sex encounters I let get away while trying to be an upstanding/chivalrous young man. Some of them would've been bragging-rights awesome; some would just be for what the kids call 'body count'. FWIW, I remember these two things the most:
- The GF relationship encounters... A quiet dinner, a ski trip, a years-after break-up pussy-pleasing session (she'll remember), and
- Not asking the girl(s) you really liked out. (Shannon and Angie)
With all we can fault ourselves for, we often regret the things we didn't do more than the things we did...
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