The Girlfriend Question

[Aardvark154]

Curious, but how often do SPs ask clients if they have a gf?

More than half of the SPs I've seen have asked me this question and it bothers me since it reminds me that I still can't get a girlfriend. What's worse is when they follow up with "why not?"

I've always seen it as I don't see you as a looser. As frankly (unless there is something that only comes out over time), I don't see why if I find you a cut above, women out in the "nine to five" don't as well.

 

[DanJ]

Pretty hard to hide I'm married, either from my ring or from my ring tanline lol. I don't really care anymore, it used to bug me more when I first started, and then I realized it was more a conversational thing than a judgement. As for being contacted by the SP, it's rare my phone would give me away anyway. It only rings for calls when locked, texts are silent unless it's unlocked. I also usually switch it to airplane mode when I leave it for a long period, like overnight.

 

[pablice]

Sometimes there is a double standard with this question that bothers me. If you gonna ask me a personal question then be prepared to answer a personal question. I always try to treat it as equal but sometimes it quickly backfires...

 

[SexyLacy]

his status is the last thing on my mind when I am with him

 

[superstar_88]

Cheer up, someday you'll be 53 (almost 54) and you won't care anymore

Truer words have never been spoken. You cracked me up.

 

[Kifarurx]

Don't you guys have hobby personas? Just remember which one you used if you repeat. Not sure if the sp remembers anyway unless you repeat often.

 

[Burningrubber]

Cheer up, someday you'll be 53 (almost 54) and you won't care anymore

Lmao....

 

[rhuarc29]

I always say that if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't be there. I'm sure that sounds superior to some of the ladies given a large chunk of their client base is married men, but it's the truth.

 

[Jacklyn7]

That is PRECISELY the issue here. Some Sps do not understand that they are applying a double standard and that trust ALWAYS should be a two way street.

Then again it's hard for someone in their 20s who has no real serious life experience trying to figure out who is crazy and who can be trusted.

We are trusting you in our bedrooms, with our bodies, our well being, I do not think it is too much that we ask basic questions to get to know you so we feel safer.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

Like Madonna says, it's best not to ask if someone is married in case they're the type who feels guilty and the session is spoiled.
Most guys don't mind and the SP doesn't really care, it's just a conversation filler.

Another side, I imagine too many guys are griping about their awful wives and don't realize that SPs often hate to hear this type of talk.

 

[Titalian]

With my marital status, of which I have non of, I guess I would have no problem with
the question at hand, In fact I volunteer information to some of my closest partners in crime. lol

Getting back to the op's post. I believe his issues with the question
(do you have a girlfriend) run deeper, than the simple act of screening.

 

[Jacklyn7]

Void, I was pointed out one reason why some SPs MIGHT be asking the question, completely relevant to the topic, not my problem if it got sidetracked from there by people who were asking earnest questions.

 

[Titalian]

How is asking if someone has a girlfriend or a wife in anyway anything to do with feeling safer.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Bernardo
married.

If someone is a real preditor and good at it, he will give you the answers you want to hear. It is inaccruate and horrible sterotyping if you assume that the single or even the socially awkward are less safe. You sound like one of those university girls who think they will get raped by a creepy looking guy who jumps out of the bushes at them but the cute jock in 1st year Calculus would never ever get violent because hot dudes are automatically nice.



I don't like it because it reminds me of my failures as a male and a human being.

I find it funny at times at the strip club. Girl sometimes asks if I have a girlfriend and seem all shocked that I don't. Or they derp on and on about how funny I am [true] and how nice I am [true] or even attractive [er no] yet once they get their money I am stuck sitting by myself and go home by myself. If I am so awesome why is that.
Or even better. I notice this one girl who pretends to like me, remembers details the works but once I get the dances I never see her again that night. I do see her sitting with other customers [who are not outside friends, you can tell] for extended periods of time both before and after she gets a dance from them. But yeah, please go on about how wonderful and attractive I am.

A brah has to reflect on this. However that is another issue, rather fresh as I was at the annuity bar this weekend.

Strippers are the worst example you can use.