Thank you sir, may I have another. Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

[poorboy]

Upon the suggestion of one of the members here, I decided to try lavalife as he said his friends have had good success with it.

Based on my experience, the only way you can get a response on that site is if you are over 5'10" tall and caucasian.

I have used up $50 worth of credits in 3 days and have nothing to show for it and the cold shoulder from 29 women.

It's not like I'm a loser or even ugly. I have a Master's degree, have recently started a job as a Team Manager with the goverment monitoring a 9 million dollar budget, fix and race cars, fly airplanes and gliders, ride horses and keep well read and fit.

It just goes to show you that women are just as shallow as men.

 

[luv4lust]

i am not shallow

 

[GollumSex]

Dam, and I thought I had bad luck lol

 

[Spode]

I have used up $50 worth of credits in 3 days and have nothing to show for it and the cold shoulder from 29 women.

Boo hoo farkin' hoo. Get back at it man. I dread to think how my tax dollars are being spent if you give up this easy.

I spent nearly $250 in the first week I was there and felt absolutely sick about it, and told myself that that day would be my last. Well I figured that my original approach did not work so I had to be direct and go by volume. Bingo! The following week was intense with "date" after "date" after "date".

I had to end this after about 7 weeks after I got freaked out by my last date.

 

[poorboy]

Re: Re: Thank you sir, may I have another. Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

Boo hoo farkin' hoo. Get back at it man. I dread to think how my tax dollars are being spent if you give up this easy.

I spent nearly $250 in the first week I was there and felt absolutely sick about it, and told myself that that day would be my last. Well I figured that my original approach did not work so I had to be direct and go by volume. Bingo! The following week was intense with "date" after "date" after "date".

I had to end this after about 7 weeks after I got freaked out by my last date.

How tall are you and what's your ethnic background?

Need tips. About 25% won't open my mail.

There was a girl on there who spoke English, Croation and Japanese, so I used Kako Si? as the title, which means how are you in Croation.

Wrote an email to a girl who said she wouldn't mind someone to teach her how to improve at golf. I told her I've been taking lessons every other week and could help her out with her swing.

Another girl on there said she liked horseback riding. I told her I've been riding English style for 18 months and am now in an advanced class. I asked her what style she rides.

None of these ladies respond. Some even put me on thier ignore list.

 

[wooly110]

Re: Re: Thank you sir, may I have another. Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

... The following week was intense with "date" after "date" after "date".

I had to end this after about 7 weeks after I got freaked out by my last date.

Bunny boiler?

 

[Spode]

yup

 

[Keebler Elf]

It just goes to show you that women are just as shallow as men.

Shallower. It's just that men are more likely to admit it.

 

[GollumSex]

Just remember that "Good things come to those who wait".......

I am still waiting for you Farrah

 

[poorboy]

Re: Re: Thank you sir, may I have another. Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

You need to stop looking so hard. She'll come eventually. Maybe you come across as desperate?. I've got a fantastic idea! Why don't you go for a mini makeover! Get a hair cut, buy a few new outfits that make you feel sexy & maybe dye your hair a lighter or darker colour. Why don't you try a singles dance?. It wouldn't hurt to try. You just never know who you might meet .



Just remember that "Good things come to those who wait".......




xoxoxox




Farrah

I'm turning 34 this year. I've been looking longer than you have been old enough to date. Already dress quite well.

The same women who tell me what you are telling me are the ones that would not consider dating me. I'm sorry, but you are giving hollow advice.

 

[sharkbait]

Anyone who's tried any kind of dating site will tell you that your experience is par for the course (in fact, maybe even better than par). I tried only one for 2 months, but dug into them after I got a similar experience to yours. They're all b.s., period. The advice you'll get is to just "accept" that kind of behaviour and flood out your messages in the hopes that the 1 in 100 will respond. *cough* If you want to approach dating like a lottery or a job search, well then more power to you...you're those sites' wet dream. Not me.

Also, don't bother "justifying" yourself to strangers.

Anyway, my advice, which you're free to ignore, is to forget the dating site shit.

 

[poorboy]

Also, don't bother "justifying" yourself to strangers.

Anyway, my advice, which you're free to ignore, is to forget the dating site shit.

Unless spode offers better advice than buck up, I'll cut my losses at $50.

You got to know when to hold em
Know when to fold em
Know when to walk away
Know when to run

 

[Sargon]

Re: Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

It just goes to show you that women are just as shallow as men.

I had the same kind of luck with women when i was young. Eventually i came to accept the conclusion that i was not one of those men that women fall for. The only woman i was able to seduce was an older divorcee (with a child) and believing that beggars can't be choosers, i married her.

In those days MPAs and SPs were not easy to find (or at least i didn't know how to find them.) Had it been possible for me to find SPs like today, i would surely be single today and probably happily so.

So don't dispair my friend,

HOBBY!

 

[KBear]

Re: Re: Re: Thank you sir, may I have another. Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

Some even put me on thier ignore list.

You should post some of the pm's you sent, there are experts on this board that may be able to help you out. Seem to remember from your last episode that you were coming across as being a bit desperate. What ever happened to that lady you bought the flowers, watch, ring and stuff for on the first date?

I fooled around on one of the dating sites and found it a waist of time. Yahoo was much better for meeting ladies, and it does not cost anything.

 

[poorboy]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Thank you sir, may I have another. Rejected by 29 women in 3 days.

You should post some of the pm's you sent, there are experts on this board that may be able to help you out. Seem to remember from your last episode that you were coming across as being a bit desperate. What ever happened to that lady you bought the flowers, watch, ring and stuff for on the first date?

I fooled around on one of the dating sites and found it a waist of time. Yahoo was much better for meeting ladies, and it does not cost anything.

Flowers, watch, ring on the first date? Not I sir.

I gave a girl I'd known for a few months a watch at lunch that I purchased in the U.S. 50% off the Canadian price because it was her birthday and she got into college.

I still talk to her. Talked to her today, but she's not interested.

Lavalife doesn't allow cutting and pasting and they have a 20 minute time limit on typing.

I don't type anything rude. I gave some examples earlier. Usually I try and pick up on a hobby or interest they have and talk about that a bit and then ask a question that requires a response.

 

[yoniluvrca]

Poorboy-Here is an observation from someone who does not know you(me). Every suggestion given to you here has been received by you and rejected. You have a very negative spin towards life. Even your handle suggests that life treats you badly. Guess what, with this atitude life will treat you badly. And women, unimaginablely sensitive creatures that they are ( though perhaps shallow) will feel this. It is not attractive.

How to change it? Start looking at what works in your life. Look at what you have and find some gratitude for it. Also, don't bullshit the women on LL. Be absolutly straight about who you are. Any woman worth dating will be looking for honesty and integrity above material success or physical looks. (Though these will also play a part in her choice)

Also, in my experience, LL is a lousy place to meet decent women (not impossible but difficult). There are many, many time wasters on there. None of your "rejection" may even be personal.

Good Luck (try changing your handle to "richboy" or even "richman" these details are important)

YL

 

[yychobbyist]

I have used up $50 worth of credits in 3 days and have nothing to show for it and the cold shoulder from 29 women.

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Don't even talk to me until you hit a grand.

 

[KBear]

You must certainly be able to cut and paste in LavaLife. Type the text, select it, press CTRL-c, then to paste press CTRL-v.

If the ladies are putting you on ignore, then you are doing something wrong.

Night school courses are a good place to meet ladies.

 

[LeatherDoll]

What does your profile look like?

Have you posted some decent pics?

With the mass availability, positive attitude and open approach are required. No pic means no response. Period. And make sure its a good shot, not some dumb snap of you in dirty sweats with a scowl on your face -- yes, many men do post that. In fact, post a number of pics in a gallery and let the women see you.

What is your profile like? Is it complete? Is is desperate? How have you presented yourself? Did you leave everything blank? Do you appear to be a married man trying to hide something?

The way to go is with email, not pm. It costs the same but gives you endless time to interact. If you really want a woman to date, count on her reading your profile and checking your pics before she bothers responding. If these aren't up to snuff, forget it.

Lavalife is an easy way to meet people. What exactly are you asking?

 

[poorboy]

Poorboy-Here is an observation from someone who does not know you(me). Every suggestion given to you here has been received by you and rejected. You have a very negative spin towards life. Even your handle suggests that life treats you badly. Guess what, with this atitude life will treat you badly. And women, unimaginablely sensitive creatures that they are ( though perhaps shallow) will feel this. It is not attractive.

How to change it? Start looking at what works in your life. Look at what you have and find some gratitude for it. Also, don't bullshit the women on LL. Be absolutly straight about who you are. Any woman worth dating will be looking for honesty and integrity above material success or physical looks. (Though these will also play a part in her choice)

Also, in my experience, LL is a lousy place to meet decent women (not impossible but difficult). There are many, many time wasters on there. None of your "rejection" may even be personal.

Good Luck (try changing your handle to "richboy" or even "richman" these details are important)

YL

Believe it or not, I'm the type that tries to make things work. It's just that I've tried almost every avenue over the past 15 years.

I've been a flight instructor and have had 11 students, all of whom have met the Transport Canada standard and were licensed. The good students you don't have to do much with, but the marginal ones need lots of positive reinforcement and constructive criticsim.

I currently manage ten people and monitor morale quite closely. I am aware of the importance of leading by example and putting a positive spin on things. Half my job at work is maneuvering so that things are evenly distributed and assigning tasks to people and trying to make it look palitable. At the same time, I don't lie because it makes you look two faced.

I am a very helpful person by nature, but have started to hold back a bit lately because of how thankless some people are. Life has not been good to me, but that doesn't prevent me from trying. You miss every shot you don't take.

There are no lies in my profile in lavalife, and I think that may be part of the problem.