Suggestions Needed regarding my Co-Worker

[New World]

I know that this may not be the best place to post this etc. however I would like to hear opinions etc.

I have been friends with my co worker for about 2.5 years. In the last year or so I have started to really get to know her and have fallen in love with her. She has been going out with her BF for about 4 years today and there talking about marriage together. I am not friends with her BF, as a matter of fact I have only met the guy once. I have been told through some mutual friends that he does not like me very much… oh well… no big deal. I know there is chemistry between my co worker and myself as we have already established that in past social events we both attended. She is not the type of girl to cheat but my question is should I express my feeling to her and make her aware that I am the one?

 

[viciouscycle]

I don't think so - if you like your job.....
if the feeling is mutual - I think it's a bad idea to have a relationship with your co-worker - a lot of times it back fires in more ways than one.
If she doesn't feel the same way, then it would be awkward at work - EVERYDAY!
Furthermore, she has a BF. Unless she had told you before that her relationship is going down hill, I'd leave it alone.......my 2 cents.

 

[xarir]

I think the comments in this thread largely apply here as well.

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=167271

Personally I would say no - leave her be. She`s talking marriage with the BF; on the assumption she`s not stupid she`s freely making the choice of marrying her current BF and not you.

IMHO, it`s just one of those things that`s not meant to be.

 

[LateComer]

You are risking a lot here. She will probably still marry her boyfriend and then you will have to face her every day at work. Are you sure the feelings are mutual? Some women just like to have a man that they can confide in without any romantic attachment.

 

[incognito]

Short answer = no

Long answer = HELL NO!!!

 

[tboy]

I....my question is should I express my feeling to her and make her aware that I am the one?

I thought Neo was "the one"????


BTW: for the record, YOU think you're the one for her, but if you were, she'd know it too and dump her boyfriend.....

 

[Brotherman]

You should be tapping that ass.

 

[playw/respect]

You should just make your own decision because you are only accountable to yourself. Just like whether one should hobby or not, there are always yes and no answers.

Good luck.

 

[laytexlover]

Office relationships dont work...been there, done that.
Even if its a one night thing, there will be awkwardness after, and it could result in an unhappy and unproductive work atmosphere.......not just for the two of you, but others as well........

 

[xarir]

You should be tapping that ass.

Ass slapping is my job around here!

And I still think you should leave it be. If she liked you romantically, you'd be together now instead of mere co-workers.

 

[capncrunch]

From one who's been there, a couple of words of well-meaning advice:

• Don't approach her
• Don't "share your feelings" with her
• Don't pine for her
• Don't wish things were different

What do you do?

Nothing. N O T H I N G.

Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and when she comes to mind, think of other things.

Really.

 

[The Cunning Linguist]

From one who's been there, a couple of words of well-meaning advice:

• Don't approach her
• Don't "share your feelings" with her
• Don't pine for her
• Don't wish things were different

What do you do?

Nothing. N O T H I N G.

Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and when she comes to mind, think of other things.

Really.

what he said....

 

[basketcase]

Wrong. She if she has any friends to set you up with. You might as well try to get something out of this.

 

[incognito]

From one who's been there, a couple of words of well-meaning advice:

• Don't approach her
• Don't "share your feelings" with her
• Don't pine for her
• Don't wish things were different

What do you do?

Nothing. N O T H I N G.

Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and when she comes to mind, think of other things.

Really.

Truer words have never been spoken. *sigh*

 

[skypilot]

From one who's been there, a couple of words of well-meaning advice:

• Don't approach her
• Don't "share your feelings" with her
• Don't pine for her
• Don't wish things were different

What do you do?

Nothing. N O T H I N G.

Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and when she comes to mind, think of other things.

Really.

This is like God talking he is so right.

 

[2wheeljunkie]

NOBODY likes to have someone else on their turf. If you want to increase your survivability and at the same time keep your job. Do something else that does not involve interaction with her or get another job. NO HARM NO FOUL.

2WJ

 

[red]

after 2.5 years you are in the friend category. too late

 

[big dogie]

These guys are all wrong, if you have these feelings she probably does to. I'd take her aside and show her your cock and tell her all the dirty dirty thoughs you have of her...... she'll be blowing you within 30 seconds, I am sure this will work, let me know how it goes....

b d

 

[Diode]

From one who's been there, a couple of words of well-meaning advice:

• Don't approach her
• Don't "share your feelings" with her
• Don't pine for her
• Don't wish things were different

What do you do?

Nothing. N O T H I N G.

Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and when she comes to mind, think of other things.

Really.

Why? If you pitch and Strike out...You are in the SAME PLACE as if you did nothing.(Except that you will never wonder "what if ?")
Why is it , so bad, and so hard to talk to a girl you have feelings for.
It seems a false economy to just suck it up and let it be.
Take her out somewhere, be private, and just talk.
Perhaps you "think" you are in love with her, but its simple infatuation.
Talk to her, ask her about her life...ask her about her dreams, and tell her yours....
They may just mesh...or Not. Such is life.
But life comes with challenges...Don't be afraid of them.

 

[viciouscycle]

Think the consensus is NO.