Here's a fun trick: keep a $20 bill out and handy. When you manage to catch the eye of someone you're interested in, make sure they see you, lick the bill and stick it to your forehead. She'll come over.
Strippers not approaching anyone
- Thread starter dvon45
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Pay me and I'll come back.
I intend to make a short trip back sometime in the next year, but I don't know when. I'll try to give some notice so we can tear it up.
Maybe the situation is different elsewhere but at the 'Mate, at least afternoons, I find that there are still a number of dancers who will make a 'cold approach', that is, they will come to the table without any 'prompting' on my part. On some days, there can be almost too much of this, but I find the more experienced girls will sometimes open the conversation by asking "Are you waiting for someone?" and this allows one to politely avoid having the girl sit down at one's table.
In general, I would say that it's fairly easy to get a dancer to approach by watching her and smiling a bit - in most cases she will take the hint and drop over. This may take a while if she is engaging with her smartphone, but if you are in a hurry I guess the direct approach (walk up to her) is recommended. I certainly understand that not everyone has the same view on this matter. Some may prefer the girls to approach, but if a lot do, this can be problematic - if other dancers note that a gent is chatting for a minute or so with a succession of ladies but never going to the CR, they may begin to avoid him as not having CR potential.
My own preference is that dancers will be keeping an eye out (even as they use the smartphone and chat with other girls) so that one can give an indication of interest and then have them approach. On the other hand, I have no problem taking a more direct approach if that seems to be required. Certainly, I will never approach a dancer while she's chatting with someone else.
A number of posters over the years have noted that the dancers at the 'Mate do not circulate that much and maybe this has some validity. It may be that a number of the girls are on the lookout for their 'regulars' and are less inclined to make an unprompted approach.
In general, I would say that it's fairly easy to get a dancer to approach by watching her and smiling a bit - in most cases she will take the hint and drop over. This may take a while if she is engaging with her smartphone, but if you are in a hurry I guess the direct approach (walk up to her) is recommended. I certainly understand that not everyone has the same view on this matter. Some may prefer the girls to approach, but if a lot do, this can be problematic - if other dancers note that a gent is chatting for a minute or so with a succession of ladies but never going to the CR, they may begin to avoid him as not having CR potential.
My own preference is that dancers will be keeping an eye out (even as they use the smartphone and chat with other girls) so that one can give an indication of interest and then have them approach. On the other hand, I have no problem taking a more direct approach if that seems to be required. Certainly, I will never approach a dancer while she's chatting with someone else.
A number of posters over the years have noted that the dancers at the 'Mate do not circulate that much and maybe this has some validity. It may be that a number of the girls are on the lookout for their 'regulars' and are less inclined to make an unprompted approach.
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okay, thanks!Correct
phew! I thought Ottawa was going the way Vancouver did decades ago, $20 for a dance kneeling on a platform, $40 for a dance right in front of you
It’s wild when strippers spend more time chatting with each other or scrolling on their phones than working the room. Like, how do you expect to make money if you’re not even trying? I saw something similar once at a club where a couple of dancers were glued to their phones all night, then loudly complained to the bartender about how slow the night was. Meanwhile, the girls who were actively engaging with customers were walking out with their purses full.
It reminded me of a night in Seoul when I checked out 신촌셔츠룸. It’s a private karaoke spot, and the vibe was totally different. The hosts actually make an effort to engage and keep things fun, not just sit back and expect you to carry the whole interaction. Honestly, it made the night feel worth it—you leave with good memories instead of a bad taste.
It reminded me of a night in Seoul when I checked out 신촌셔츠룸. It’s a private karaoke spot, and the vibe was totally different. The hosts actually make an effort to engage and keep things fun, not just sit back and expect you to carry the whole interaction. Honestly, it made the night feel worth it—you leave with good memories instead of a bad taste.
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