SPs and older men.

[revolution]

I just turned 20, and from my experience, most older women tend to shun younger men, they look at them and treat them as children.

I hate to generalize, but that's often the case. In terms of our evolutionary history, men have always been attracted to younger, beautiful women, whereas women have always been attracted to older men with resources who are able to provide them with resources.

 

[ClitLover]

Hi every1,

I just turned 26 this week. So I have a long way to go until I'm 60 if I make it at all. I always wondered if SPs would not see me when I am middle aged because of the chance that I might have a heart attack on top of them. What do you ladies think?

Thanks

 

[sweet guy]

I enjoy the company of older men because they are more mature (in most cases, lol) respectful, eager to please the woman they are with and I find I have more stimulating conversation. I've always been attracted to older men my whole life. I've found I never had much in common with guys my own age, besides musical tastes. And since I started working at this job, I find them even more attractive, since I've had the pleasure of meeting many. (This applies to my job and my so called "civilian" life). xoxox

Angelina

This is exactly what I say women, civilian or pros are thinking all along.

BTW, if the young dude does not fit the "stereotype", something Angelina eloquently elaborate here, this young dude must be "locco" .

Case in point, when the young dude act completely out of the norm and more like mature over 40s man, she will freak out even more since she will probably suspect this dude is phony and calculating.

 

[sweet guy]

So, if the older man is in search of the younger woman, and the younger woman is attracted to the older man, and the younger man is attracted to the younger woman....where does that leave the older woman? Just curious??

Older women go NOWHERE and they don't have to. Unlike men counterparts, they don't have constant urgent sexual needs to satisfy. I would be surprised old ladies would have sexual needs comparably to man of all ages, unless she is Samantha type of girl.

And I am damn sure they are not looking for marriage either by the time they are in late 30s!

Bottom line is nowadays in post-feminist world, the truth comes out and that is man needs woman more than the other way around.

 

[sweet guy]

Maybe you're looking in the wrong places, looking too hard, are attracted to the high maintenance women, written relationships off and settled on hobbying, or just have too negative an outlook.

A combination of both. And no I never looked in the wrong places.

 

[banshie]

I would be surprised old ladies would have sexual needs comparably to man of all ages, unless she is Samantha type of girl.

It is well known that a woman's veracity and capacity for sex increases with age, whereas with most men it declines.

 

[sweet guy]

While its true that women can, and often do out perform men in terms of their salary, women still want a sense of security that the man she is with can provide for her (and her children) through being able to afford the finer things in life.

Case in point:

Two women are talking. One says "Hey, I've got a great blind date for you". The other says "Oh, really?? What does he do?"

This is a fact especially those women who are in top position, wealthy and still single. Bound by the "tradition", she is looking for mates who are even more successful than she is. Her "pool" of "qualified candidates" is small since her "male counterparts" would probably not see her as potential "trophy wives".

Here's another hard truth, it's tough for single women to juggle between finding a mate and successful career. It's tough to get the best of the both world since hardly any successful women would "lower her status" to date and even marry less capable guys because the guys are nice, dependable, loyal and yes ma'am to everything.

For those successful women who marry to those guys, sooner or later she regrets and finds another men who has "reasonable" personality but more successful than her in career wise. It's just a matter of time she will divorce the current "incapable" and "imbecile" at least in her mind hubby.

 

[sweet guy]

It is well known that a woman's veracity and capacity for sex increases with age, whereas with most men it declines.

Probably more so for the white women but not necessarily so for non-white women.

Maybe the exception is she was born here and white at heart.

 

[sweet guy]

Do you guys really believe that this cynicism makes you cool? It doesn't, you know, you're only rationalizing your failures with women by blaming it on something you're comfortable with.

Yeah, we are told it's always our faults when it comes to dating and women are always right no matter what. No matter what we do according to the "textbooks" case written by women, we are told it's a strech.

I am not surprised there are many "sympathizers", making apology to women regardless of fact and "flaming" the guys.

You can't tell the difference between gold-digging and working? You can't tell the difference between an honest offering of services and lying?

Sorry I can tell from the SPs and I totally respect her way of doing things. It's about business.

The only beef I have will be the "civilians" who are doing something similar and in many cases outragious when it comes to "gold-digging" and they have the audacities to say they are not the same levels as the SPs!

Well, maybe you're going nowhere. Seems to me I see couples in parks and on the streets together all the time, looking perfectly happy together. They can't all be rich.

Maybe they think they are financially secure and the women are not very "ambitious" type to hunt for the sugar daddies. Chance will be they are quite content to what they have. They probably know their chances of getting attention from sugar daddies when they figure out their physical appeals and attractions are less than "ideals", whatever the definition of "ideal hotties" during the time period.

Most of us think reality is quite a nice place. Perhaps you should visit it sometime.

Your kind of reality is different than mine.

Here's one for you:

Two guys are talking. One says "Hey, look at the tits on that bitch!" The other says "D-uhhhh!"

Look, no matter how hot the ladies really are, I would not initate this kind of conversations with the guys, especially in the office settings and in public. You don't want to put yourself in hot water and vulnerable position when the ladies in question heard the question and use this as an excuse for sexual harassment claims to "anally screw" you.

 

[sweet guy]

Sweetguy, you're starting to sound like poorboy (over-rationalizing for failures w/women). Except while you blame money, poorboy blames his ethnicity and not his income.

I think your negative attitude is hurting your 'chances'. You need to kick things off with a better outlook and attitude. It really does make a big difference.

Yeah we are all guilty of being "crying babies" . And chances of hitting chicks has nothing to do with the attitude.

You can't win when the other side love the change the rules of the games according to their moods in ad hoc basis.

Just because you are lucky to win the hearts and minds of the woman of your dream doesn't mean every men will get similar results.

So when the guy isn't that lucky on women for reasons out of his controls, do you immediately think this guy has negative outlook/attitude and farking sore Loser?

 

[AMWBT]

Hey Sweet Guy!

Yeah we are all guilty of being "crying babies" . And chances of hitting chicks has nothing to do with the attitude.

You can't win when the other side love the change the rules of the games according to their moods in ad hoc basis.

Just because you are lucky to win the hearts and minds of the woman of your dream doesn't mean every men will get similar results.

So when the guy isn't that lucky on women for reasons out of his controls, do you immediately think this guy has negative outlook/attitude and farking sore Loser?

Sweet guy, I think your problem may be that you think you've got everything and everybody already figured out! Life doesn't work that way, it's much more complicated than that!

And for the original question of this thread, sorry older guys, but I really didn't enjoy being with you. Give me a 20 or 30 something anytime. I need the energy! I'm a pretty good actress, and I don't think anybody caught on, but that's the truth of it, exception being those 40+ guys who were in great shape.

 

[sweet guy]

Re: Hey Sweet Guy!

Sweet guy, I think your problem may be that you think you've got everything and everybody already figured out! Life doesn't work that way, it's much more complicated than that!

Life is simple and people make things complicated unnecessarily.

People make things complicated because they refuse to believe it's that simple. It's too good to be true.

Plus, people want something challenging, so challenging that it takes time and efforts to tackle and once he or she solves the problem successfully, he or she feels really turn on.

And for the original question of this thread, sorry older guys, but I really didn't enjoy being with you. Give me a 20 or 30 something anytime. I need the energy! I'm a pretty good actress, and I don't think anybody caught on, but that's the truth of it, exception being those 40+ guys who were in great shape.

I am not so sure though when it comes to the young dudes. Like you say you are pretty good actress, who knows you really don't enjoy being with the young dudes either?

 

[Don]

Just because you are lucky to win the hearts and minds of the woman of your dream doesn't mean every men will get similar results.

So when the guy isn't that lucky on women for reasons out of his controls, do you immediately think this guy has negative outlook/attitude and farking sore Loser?

No I don't. But anyone who reads your posts can see the negativeness of it.

Anyway I speak from experience. I was a shy and slightly bitter kid in my teens. I didn't have a great outlook and lacked confidence when it came to relationships and it hurt me with missed chances and so on. I didn't have a true girlfriend until halfway through university when I changed my attitude to have a more positive outlook and worked on self-improvement (worked out, became more social, dressed better, etc). I also stopped fearing rejection. It made a difference. I'm still not a chick magnet and I probably strike out more than scoring but I've been in a few relationships that have been real nice and still see opportunity now and then.

 

[AMWBT]

Re: Re: Hey Sweet Guy!

Life is simple and people make things complicated unnecessarily.

People make things complicated because they refuse to believe it's that simple. It's too good to be true.

Plus, people want something challenging, so challenging that it takes time and efforts to tackle and once he or she solves the problem successfully, he or she feels really turn on.

I am not so sure though when it comes to the young dudes. Like you say you are pretty good actress, who knows you really don't enjoy being with the young dudes either?

Well there you go generalizing about all people all the time again.

Why the hell would I lie about what I like or not? And why would you be trying to imply that I don't like sex at all? Because it just doesn't fit in with your theories? There is much more in heaven and earth, my friend, than was ever dreamt of in your philosophy.

 

[banshie]

It's amazing how a thread starts as one thing and becomes entirely something else. It started as a musing about why (and whether) SPs prefer older men, and has become ... I'm not sure what!

I am not complaining, just making and observation.