This is an over generalization. Yes I think MH issues are probably more common in this profession than some others, for reasons I’ve said above. But there are a lot of other jobs that are associated with a higher risk of mental health issues too.
SPs and Mental Health
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My take on it is, keep it professional. That is, I don’t know how comfortable she’d be if she knew that you know such personal aspects of her life. Treat her with courtesy, empathy and respect while focusing on the two of you having a nice time together. It brings back memories of a couple of civilian girls I dated in the past who as I found out later had mental health difficulties. What I learned is that a diagnosis does not define someone. I doubt that she’d bring personal aspects such as these into the session, but if you feel at all uncomfortable, you’re free to see someone else also.
Yeah it's vague. I truly wonder how what she does on her personal time would affect OP so much that he would feel unsafe and call her mentally ill.
OP should also updates his zit on the balls story while he is at it.
I saw a SB for several months who was just out of the Canadian Forces. I didn’t know that until after a few dates and she got more comfortable. She’d been an SB off and on since she was in uni, but came back to it every now and then to pay the bills and have some fun. She had struggled with PTSD and left the military very young because of it. After one particularly good romp for a few hours we were laying in bed in the post orgasmic glow and she told me that good orgasms, in good company, made her feel 10 times better than any anti depressant ever did.
It’s no secret that sex is good for my mental health, so why should I be surprised that it can do good things for the ladies too.
It’s no secret that sex is good for my mental health, so why should I be surprised that it can do good things for the ladies too.
Sorry , just seeing this now. Forgot about this post. For this particular provider think of Gloria Trillo from the Sopranos
As for the zit on balls post from earlier it was all a false alarm but amusing it came up again
Thank you! It's important to make those updates. When you start thread like this, people will look at your previous reviews and make speculation about who ect. It's just nice to rectify so there is no loss of business for anyone
You're absolutely right. CheersThank you! It's important to make those updates. When you start thread like this, people will look at your previous reviews and make speculation about who ect. It's just nice to rectify so there is no loss of business for anyone
If you believe there is any danger to you, then stay away. If she decides to launch your meat missile across the room it will be too late.
It’s not just that. There is having MH issues that are untreated and undiagnosed and then there is having MH issues that are being treated and have been diagnosed.
This job gives the SP the availability to work within her MH disorder. If she is in therapy, she can schedule that are her convenience. If she is deal with something traumatic like re-living a moment in her past, she can take a few days off after that therapy session. Outpatient treatments are easier to manage as well scheduling wise.
Maybe her issue makes it so she can’t deal with people on a mass basis like an office job with lots of people, like an anxiety issue but dealing with people one on one is fine.
This job is adaptive. Therefore she can have MH issues that are actually totally under control, treated, medicated, whatever and this job gives her the chance to live with it in a way that works for her and is healthier then getting a “real job”
I would guess there’s more rampant undiagnosed mental health issues with police officers than there are with SP. The amount of things that they see, the PTSD that they go through that is undiagnosed and untreated is rampant and insane that it is not addressed properly, especially with the Toront Police Department. Do you know that they have a cap on the amount of therapy that they can get in a year? That is ridiculous to me. For the amount that they see - dead bodies, dead children, molested, children, etc. it is insane to me that there is not an unlimited amount of therapy and support for police officers.
then there is addiction issues. Which are mental health issues. I don’t deny that. However, I do think that there is a stigma that SP‘s are drug addicts, and alcoholics, all of them and I would argue that the old-school lawyers are more likely to be alcoholics than a lot of SP. As another example of professions that are stressful and will take its toll on the person working.
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Within the industry, I suspect that there a lot of SPs AND clients that have moderate to concerning issues. Just ask any SP about their experiences with some clients and 99% of the conclusion will be, "He's really fucked up and needs help".
It's not that these clients are assholes or jerks, no. It's that they have severe issues that are likely undiagnosed and/or untreated. I'm saving my "Be Kind" for others though.
However, the top 3 professions that have the highest suicide rates are Doctors, Dentists, and Police Officers. If wanting to "unalive" (just to use the Reddit term) themselves is a sign of mental health issues, these are the guys.
Controlling for murders/meretricide, both by clients and family/relations (more likely), I wouldn't be surprised if Sex Works are up there though.
It's not that these clients are assholes or jerks, no. It's that they have severe issues that are likely undiagnosed and/or untreated. I'm saving my "Be Kind" for others though.
However, the top 3 professions that have the highest suicide rates are Doctors, Dentists, and Police Officers. If wanting to "unalive" (just to use the Reddit term) themselves is a sign of mental health issues, these are the guys.
Controlling for murders/meretricide, both by clients and family/relations (more likely), I wouldn't be surprised if Sex Works are up there though.
I suspect everyone is fucked up in many ways, even those who tell everyone else they are fucked up.
Though granted, some are more fucked up than others.
Psychology has always been the Worship of the Mean (as in the average). As both the mean and median has had less data point surrounding it, the entire subject has gotten more difficult. At one time in U.S. history, sex workers were considered mentally ill, per se. There was a famous court case that dismissed that, thank god. There was a made for TV movie about it. Her Johns, incidentally, were not viewed as mentally ill, per se. The irony was never pointed out.
The premise at that time was, why doesn’t she just get married. She is attractive and will do the whole sex thing. Every guy at the time could work a job that supported a wife and family. And everyone got married very young and made babies. Psychology is at its best in simple times. It is easier to find data points far from the mean and median. Now there are little dots everywhere on the map, with little clustering in the center.
Just because something in on the CTV 11 o'clock news or it's printed in The Globe and Mail doesn't necessarily mean it's 100% true.
I will make one generalization about every Escort I've ever met: They have the ability to make a complete distinction between sex and love. This is not a common quality among civilian women.
Men who lack the ability to compartmentalize sex are generally the ones who misunderstand love - they tend to think that a strong but often one-sided attraction which they feel means that they are in love. A mature mind knows that it isn't love unless the feelings are felt mutually.
In my own experience, I was fortunate to have had a 'sex only' relationship for several months with an older woman, (me 23, she 36), in the mid 1980's. She was a friend of my sister, whom I met at a house party, who was 'in between common law spouses'. We had sex at her house most Saturday nights for about eight months until my job moved me to a different city, never once being seen together in a public place. A large part of my appeal for her was that I'm discreet and I only phoned her once a week, around 6 PM on Saturday, to see if we were 'on' that week, or not. Six and a half days a week, we were total strangers, and to this day, my sister knows none of that.
I don't think SPs - at least the ones I know, who are not the lowest end LL ladies - are not any more or less "mentally unhealthy" than anyone else. In fact, my biggest surprise entering this world was how "normal" these ladies were.
That being said, I did know one whom I liked who, on the second meeting, was clearly florid. I did try to steer her toward those places to help, and stayed in touch trying to help but alas, she sort of dropped out. She passed away a year or two later. But she was an exception.
That being said, I did know one whom I liked who, on the second meeting, was clearly florid. I did try to steer her toward those places to help, and stayed in touch trying to help but alas, she sort of dropped out. She passed away a year or two later. But she was an exception.
