I'm new on this board as I come from the other one... Now that I am here, I still wont look at the thread(s) reviewing me. The reason for this is I would like you to feel free to share your experiences together without fear that I will see it. The other reason is I have heard (this isn't my opinion, just what I have been told by several people) that things are very harsh here... that gents nearly always have to say something negative or else they will be accused of shilling.. and I have heard that the negativity can get quite rude and cruel. The simple fact is, I don't need that. My self-esteem doesn't need that. I am a strong person but I am also very sensitive and take things to heart. I take everything I do seriously. I hope that if someone has a legitimate complaint that they would let me know and give me the opportunity to apologize, explain myself or make it up to them. Some info has indeed been brought to my attention from gents who were either surprised by the comment or pissed off by it. While its true that I wished I could have explained myself as in one case something was not my fault but the agency's rule (Im now indie), another time was a simple misunderstanding that I would have been more than happy to make up for had the gent told me it was a problem... and another was totally unfair. I was accused of 'lying about my age'. The person did make snide remarks which I did not view as such until later when I was told what he said on terb. (I remained silent as I was trying to figure out why he said what he did) It went over my head because I didn't know what he was talking about. He must have read an old ad or possibly a reco where the person was way off on my age... Had he confronted me in a forth-coming way, I would've asked what he was referring to and directed him to my profile which depicts my proper age and not the age it was at the time of the old ad (which Ive since found and asked that site to remove it and enquired why the hell it was still up). I also despise drama and don't want to be the girl who starts a war when all I want is to explain myself.. the internet can be a cruel place. But yes there are down sides to not reading the reviews... and I do regret that I don't have the opportunity to thank those who have said such wonderful things about me (it actually never dawned on me that saying thanks would bump the thread so Im kinda glad I don't do that as Id hate for anyone to think that I use such back-hand methods when Im honestly just saying thanks)... but all in all, its a review board and for my personal views, I think its best that you may speak openly without worry it will get back to me, though it sometimes will by no effort of my own. I have absolutely no issue whatsoever with an SP who reads her threads... I mean, some would say its irresponsible of me not to as I do always seek feedback and to better myself. I am human and make mistakes and put my foot in my mouth occassionally etc.. its important to have such things brought to my attention. But I do hope the person will tell me. So I do see why others do it and I don't think there is a right or wrong way to do things. This is just my personal decision after weighing the issues. As for SPs who use other handles... that's really pathetic and its so irritating that people like that cause this justified paranoia and cause hobbyists to try to find something negative to say when they weren't going to, in order to avoid being accused of shilling. Yet another example of the few jerks screwing over the honest. sigh...