Was your ex being a housewife who kept the house running (buying groceries, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc...) or was she mainly lounging about the house, like Peg Bundy?
Spousal support is saving me a fortune
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She left you for another guy but you still must pay her? Is that the case even if she moves in with him (or vice versa)?
Understood but what if she lives with the guy that she left her husband for (like the OP says)?
Women's rights also means they are not a man's slave.
Yes you do need to pay, particularly if she has little or no income of her own, because keeping house and/or raising the kids, prevented her from having a career or maximizing on such income.
I don't think that's the issue in the cessation of alimony payments.
I think that if the spouse takes up with another guy to support her, that the alimony payer could make an application to the Court to get the original alimony Order changed as she is no longer in need of the original alimony payors support.
There is a joke where the guy is at the bar drinking and the bartender asks what is he drinking for. The guy says that his wife ran off with his best friend.
Bartender asks what the guy's name is.
Husband says he doesn't know.
I would think that if it can be proven that she's now the common law wife of another person, that her spousal support by the payer-applicant need not be continued, particularly if she depends on her new S.O. for shelter and food.
Good joke btw.
She was at homee with kids for 10 years and then she coasted for another 13 while they were in. School. I was one to do my share with the kids along the way.
As far as all the issues with support payments, I do have provisions in my agreement that will re-evaluate my support if the day comes that she is with someone else full time. As for now, the arrangement where her parting gifts left her with enough cash to buy her own house, that day may be a ways away.
Regardless, my real point is that things seem better without her and its easy to underestimate the cost of a spouse in the house. She's cheaper gone.
Mine has a termination date fixed in stone regardless of what hardships either of us may face in the future...so financially, I like my chances.
Yes, from what I understand, it can go on indefinitely, so there was no deal on the table from me until I knew with certainty what I was in for. I took a very weak stance on things like division of assets so that I could take a hard line on spousal support. She got set up well enough to be on her own but I'm sure she underestimated the costs of living independently. Pretty sure she plans on leaning on the new boyfriend at some point.
Sounds like you made a similar agreement that I did with my ex.
Mine stuck. But be aware that these agreements can be re-opened upon application to the court if your ex is so inclined. Not saying that she would be successful, but there are many cases in which the spouse was successful in having the original terms varied substantially many years later.
You are obviously very astute and did not, nor did you want to fuck her over so it goes without saying (but I will say so anyways! LOL) to always be respectful, careful and non-antagonistic etc towards her. Hell hath no fury etc..
The ex got " The house {paid for]} everything in it, "MY RIDEM LAWNMOWER" and support ...wanted 2 thou a month but I got away with a lot, a lot less. I knew in advance when I was going to court and low and behold it was worst year ever for income.. Said so on my tax return:thumb:
I got the equivalent of about 50 grand, all of which she has already got back in payments..
About the only thing that gives me a chuckle is she has lost everything, the house and all, lives in a rented basement apartment now, she was and looks like still is addicted to the casino....
I got the equivalent of about 50 grand, all of which she has already got back in payments..
About the only thing that gives me a chuckle is she has lost everything, the house and all, lives in a rented basement apartment now, she was and looks like still is addicted to the casino....
Sounds exactly like what happened to a buddy of mine. She burned through $800k at the casino's in 2 years and is now living in a basement apt and working as a cleaner in a nursing home.
I think there are tens of thousands of these casino stories in Ontario, yet the government is addicted to the dirty money from their immoral gambling enterprise.
