do those things still happen or has the fad died off?
are they worthwhile, at least to just test the waters?
are they worthwhile, at least to just test the waters?
speed-dating?
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Looks, looks, looks ...
Tried it. It sucked. The hot chicks just 'dis you and go on to the next guy (if he's hot) without even saying a word to you.
Tried it. It sucked. The hot chicks just 'dis you and go on to the next guy (if he's hot) without even saying a word to you.
A couple of months ago I read the result of a sociological study done in Britain. On one Saturday, all day long, participants had 200 speed dates. At the end of the day, one man and one woman had perfect scores: all 200 of their dates wanted to see them again.
I forget what the girl's line was, but the winning guy's line was something like: "If you were a contestant on Dream Eyes, which one would you be?" "Dream Eyes" (I might have it wrongk) is apparently some kind of UK reality show. The gist of the guy's strategy was to get the women to talk about their good points in a novel way.
It makes me think that a good pick-up line would be: "If you were any famous celebrity which one would you be?" This gives the girl a chance to boast about how great she is a conversationaly acceptable manner. Reminds me of another study I read that showed women were just as shallow as men ...
I forget what the girl's line was, but the winning guy's line was something like: "If you were a contestant on Dream Eyes, which one would you be?" "Dream Eyes" (I might have it wrongk) is apparently some kind of UK reality show. The gist of the guy's strategy was to get the women to talk about their good points in a novel way.
It makes me think that a good pick-up line would be: "If you were any famous celebrity which one would you be?" This gives the girl a chance to boast about how great she is a conversationaly acceptable manner. Reminds me of another study I read that showed women were just as shallow as men ...
High_Roller said:
how much did it cost, and what were the ages? are there different age ranges or is it just one big mess?
freshbreath said:
I went to one in downtown DC almost a decade ago. It was in a local singles club, run by a local singles group. It didn't cost too much, maybe $10 as a cover and for the refreshments. The ages were 20s and 30s. The men woefully outnumbered the women. It was pretty organized in that one line was the guys and the other line was for girls, and every 5 minutes, you switched person of opposite gender. As with any dating thing, you get success if you compromise on looks. I don't like to compromise, which is why I hobby.
I went a few months ago to a 25dates event. I had a blast. It was a lot of fun. I was impressed with the apparent quality of women I met. Most seemed to be professionally employed, intelligent and attractive. I got some matches and I went out on a few dates.
My first date was a disaster. It was with a 39 year old virgin, an otherwise attractive, intelligent lady with some really screwed up ideas about relationships.
The others were with ladies that were consumed with their careers. One took a month to get a date from and then it was only for 1 1/2 hours.
I realize why the women were there. The whole concept appeals to those that are too busy for relationships or have some issues are try it as a last desparate attempt to snag a guy.
But I figure they can't be all bad. But I had fun. I recommend the experience as a fun night out and if you happen to meet someone, that's a bonus.
I think the people who are most likely to be successful with speed dating are those that are physically attractive, outgoing and smooth conversationists.
My first date was a disaster. It was with a 39 year old virgin, an otherwise attractive, intelligent lady with some really screwed up ideas about relationships.
The others were with ladies that were consumed with their careers. One took a month to get a date from and then it was only for 1 1/2 hours.
I realize why the women were there. The whole concept appeals to those that are too busy for relationships or have some issues are try it as a last desparate attempt to snag a guy.
But I figure they can't be all bad. But I had fun. I recommend the experience as a fun night out and if you happen to meet someone, that's a bonus.
I think the people who are most likely to be successful with speed dating are those that are physically attractive, outgoing and smooth conversationists.
So does this mean...
"I don't like to compromise, which is why I hobby."
...that you don't date, or that you hobby during dry spells?
Me, I guess I just couldn't live (very long) without being in a relationship of SOME sort. Not necessarily leading to marriage (because I swear I am not getting married again if this one fails - my best friend has been recruited and forced to TRIPLE commit to doing whatever it takes short of killing me or the bride-to-be if I ever mention doing it for a third time), but just...a relationship. Sharing something with someone that knows you and that you know. Something that last more than an hour or two, and that you don't have to wonder how much is acting.
That is the thing that most baffles me about you guys. it isn't the notion of paying for a hot romp in the sack - I get that. I understand it, and while I won't be doing it as a married man, I could understand it if I were single.
What I don't get is the (apparent) abandonment of relationships. I just can't imagine what would make a man feel like he never again wanted the (genuine) companionship of a woman - and yes, I've been divorced.
Insofar as looks - best advice I got - ever - was from my father who warned me that when it came to females, looks were way over-rated, and that attractive enough was more than enough. Much better to make a genuine, even, equity based relationship with an average looking woman who cared for you and that you respected than to try to force something with some stuck on herself life sucking self absorbed hottie. I mean, after you fucked her 3 or 4 times and showed her off to all your friends, what's the point if you don't actually enjoy her company? And before you question my perspective, this post is being written by the guy who was banging the head cheerleader in H.S., and dated a former Miss USA contestant in college....and hence learned such women were not worth the trouble...
High_Roller said:
"I don't like to compromise, which is why I hobby."
...that you don't date, or that you hobby during dry spells?
Me, I guess I just couldn't live (very long) without being in a relationship of SOME sort. Not necessarily leading to marriage (because I swear I am not getting married again if this one fails - my best friend has been recruited and forced to TRIPLE commit to doing whatever it takes short of killing me or the bride-to-be if I ever mention doing it for a third time), but just...a relationship. Sharing something with someone that knows you and that you know. Something that last more than an hour or two, and that you don't have to wonder how much is acting.
That is the thing that most baffles me about you guys. it isn't the notion of paying for a hot romp in the sack - I get that. I understand it, and while I won't be doing it as a married man, I could understand it if I were single.
What I don't get is the (apparent) abandonment of relationships. I just can't imagine what would make a man feel like he never again wanted the (genuine) companionship of a woman - and yes, I've been divorced.
Insofar as looks - best advice I got - ever - was from my father who warned me that when it came to females, looks were way over-rated, and that attractive enough was more than enough. Much better to make a genuine, even, equity based relationship with an average looking woman who cared for you and that you respected than to try to force something with some stuck on herself life sucking self absorbed hottie. I mean, after you fucked her 3 or 4 times and showed her off to all your friends, what's the point if you don't actually enjoy her company? And before you question my perspective, this post is being written by the guy who was banging the head cheerleader in H.S., and dated a former Miss USA contestant in college....and hence learned such women were not worth the trouble...
