AgreedI think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs.
AgreedI think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs.
Agreed and there should beeeee a disclamer like "just becuse I am on this list does not mean i will see every disabled client. I have the right to work iwithin my comfort zone."I think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs, perhaps make it a sticky in the forum and update regularly.
It is hard to see a downside of that, particularly if they specified what special needs they could work with, or had experience with.I think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs, perhaps make it a sticky in the forum and update regularly.
Yes, you are right. Though most of the other aspects have less impact on hobbying. What were you thinking of in particular?I agree with most of what you wrote, however, Asperger' Syndrome is much, much more than just bad social skills.
If it's valuable, why not have it on Cupid's site? Maybe they're all cool with it?I think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs, perhaps make it a sticky in the forum and update regularly.
From my experience (both with people close to me who have Asperger and a few clients of mine), it's the specificities of those "bad social skills" that can have an impact on hobbying. For instance, the inability (or difficulty) to recognize and understand non-verbal and non-literal communication (whether it's tone, irony, or body language, etc.). In the context of an SP/client encounter, a lot of the communication happens through those non-verbal and non-literal cues, especially if the SP is trying to keep the illusion alive and to avoid hurting the sensibilities of her client by vocalizing certain things. For instance, many SPs have developed subtle ways to avoid performing or letting the client perform certain activities that they aren't comfortable with: instead of stating "don't stick your fingers in my pussy", she will gently move your hand away, or re-position herself away from your hand. A client who doesn't have Asperger and who isn't an ass will understand that this means "don't stick your finger in the pussy" and will respect that. But someone with Asperger may not recognize this subtle move as meaning "don't stick your fingers in the pussy", and will try it again. Which obviously won't make the SP happy and will most likely lead to a less-than-stellar experience for both parties.Yes, you are right. Though most of the other aspects have less impact on hobbying. What were you thinking of in particular?
Meriam, you would be surprised how many differently abled and disordered men hobby. With regards to ASD and Aspergers, I know 4 gents on terb that have this. In addition, I know several gents that are not mobile and enjoy SPs.Good grief! Sorry, I didn't want to cause so much tension. Gen, thank you! couldn't have said it better myself.
Just to clarify things, my involvement with Special Needs people, is that I am a certified personal trainer, I teach a group of adults about keeping fit and healthy.
So my personal experience with Special Needs people is such that social interactions and communication with these people can sometimes be impaired.
I apologize for lumping everyone with Special Needs as the same, which I know is not the case. I just became alarmed when a certain board member mentioned people with Autism Spectrum Disorders. Two of the clients that I teach have ASD, I feel somewhat like a mother hen to them, and I am overly protective.
Thank you for listening!
Meriam
On the other hand, the Asperger guy will appreciate it when you say "don't stick your finger in my pussy", because then he will not be unsure of what to do. Hopefully.A client who doesn't have Asperger and who isn't an ass will understand that this means "don't stick your finger in the pussy" and will respect that. But someone with Asperger may not recognize this subtle move as meaning "don't stick your fingers in the pussy", and will try it again.
Exactly. But unless the provider is a) aware that the client has Asperger, and b) understand the implications of Asperger's syndrome, she won't know that she needs to vocalize everything.On the other hand, the Asperger guy will appreciate it when you say "don't stick your finger in my pussy", because then he will not be unsure of what to do. Hopefully.
As a disabled client I can say this is exactly the type of thing I could use. A list like this could help make it easier to search for providers who are open to this sort of thing. The more severely disabled you are, the less people are willing to see you(understandably) and so more research is required.I think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs, perhaps make it a sticky in the forum and update regularly.
This is an excellent idea for those on the board who don't hobby or have trouble finding a SP that can accommodate them. There are no doubt many on this board who could benefit from this. A few are very prolific posters but alas never seem to hobby which many find puzzling since we are site dealing with the hobby. Some even say they don't hobby, see SPs, go to MPs, or SCs, or even make recommendations of who to see. Perhaps they will make a nice fit here and they will be able to finally partake better in the hobby as it was intended in a Special Needs Forum.....Thanks for bumping this Tony. I can see that it would be a useful resource for those who would be using it.
Fred agreed to the forum when I originally posted. It didn't seem to gain much support so I let it die. I would still be willing as well Im sure Fred would be ,to give it another shot & see.gb....
has fred decided on this yet?