Special Needs Forum

[Gentle Ben]

I've been chatting with Fred about an idea, that is to create a forum where people with special needs could post in private so to speak. This forum would be open for any user that may have special needs, along with agencies and providers that feel comfortable with meeting folks that aren't " Normal" so to speak
Special needs could be ( not limited to) disabled, amputees, disfigurements , chronic illnesses that may require special needs .
The forum will be by invite only,with no public access.
The idea of the forum is to be a place where you can feel comfortable posting or discussion your situation , meet others in situations and be able to converse with providers where you won't have to be afraid of approaching them because they will be open to folks with "special needs"
Anyone that is interested in the idea, please PM me, or post here if you wish.
All PMs to me will be held in the strictest confidence, I will notify Fred for him to activate your status to the forum
This is a serious thread, please respect that and don't try to make humour with it.

PS, Fred is in favour of the idea and he is prepared to provide the forum,, so this is not just a pipe dream on my part....

 

[scouser1]

I think this would be a good idea as a disabled person, as there is an agency I came across a little while ago that made an issue I believe about my disability but then ran away and refused to answer.

 

[C Dick]

I think it is a good idea. How about Autism Spectrum Disorders, would that count? Such as Aspergers? To me, not serious enough, but you could consider it to be.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

What about those of us who are a bit older and have special needs that the young bucks don't?

 

[Gentle Ben]

Bump

just to let you know, I will reply to PMs in a day or so....

 

[meriam]

Ok Gentlemen, this topic brings up a little red flag for me. I do volunteer work with some Special Needs adults, ranging from 20 - 35, most of them have no idea about sex. You have to remember that most of these Special Needs people have severe and pervasive impairment in thinking, feeling, language, and the ability to relate to others. Where you would get the idea that they have the ability to cope with sexuality is beyond me. I've heard horror stories where men would prey on these SPECIAL NEEDS women, because they don't know any better.

DON"T HAVE A FORUM for them! that's just my two cents!

 

[luv4lust]

Ok Gentlemen, this topic brings up a little red flag for me. I do volunteer work with some Special Needs adults, ranging from 20 - 35, most of them have no idea about sex. You have to remember that most of these Special Needs people have severe and pervasive impairment in thinking, feeling, language, and the ability to relate to others. Where you would get the idea that they have the ability to cope with sexuality is beyond me. I've heard horror stories where men would prey on these SPECIAL NEEDS women, because they don't know any better.

DON"T HAVE A FORUM for them! that's just my two cents!

calm down girl i don't think thats the special needs people he is thinking about
i'm pretty sure it would be people with physical disabilities, skin conditions etc...

 

[meriam]

Maybe I am over-reacting but, did you see what C Dick wrote??

I think it is a good idea. How about Autism Spectrum Disorders, would that count? Such as Aspergers? To me, not serious enough, but you could consider it to be.

 

[Mister K]

I see no problem with providing this forum. If Fred is in favour then I say go for it. Call it Fred giving back to the community at large. I can't think of any other forum more suited for this kind of discourse then TERB. Everyone has needs, not just the able bodied persons. They can't exactly ask their doctors and care givers to provide this kind of outlet. Well done GB and Fred.

 

[HOF]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diagnostic_and_Statistical_Manual_of_Mental_Disorders

http://www.autism-spectrum-disorder.com/aspergerssyndrome.html

This is now becoming interesting. I am for this cause, but I can understand why a provider wouldn't be. For those members that do have special needs either physical or emotional, they would be taking a real chance placing themselves in the open.

Meriam, I think that you did over-react alittle and focusing on autism spectrum disorders was a bit of a knee jerk reaction. It's wonderful that you volunteer with special needs clients, and you are free to choose who you visit.

There are numerous scenarios to ponder such as:
spinabifida
quadraplegia
amputees
rheumatoid arthritis
parkinsons
huntingtons
disfiguration
elephantitis
vitiligo
down syndrome
progeria
dwarfism
MS
Fibromyalgia
Cancer
Heart Disease
Tree Wart Syndrome http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/04/14/tree-man-has-surgery-want_n_96656.html

Granted there are many disorders in the DSM5 that cause concern but are controlled by medication.

http://www.cmha.ca/bins/content_page.asp?cid=3-100&lang=1

http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/mh-sm/problems-eng.php Read the section of abuse and violence.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_paraphilias The list of philias.

I completely understand Meriam's concern, and she may or may not realize that there are members of the hobby that have aspergers, sexually deviant disorders, fixations, personality disorders. You have the right to refuse them
I could understand if you didn't want to attend to service someone living at:
999 Queen St. W.
33 Russell St.
111 Disco Rd. TWDC
TEDC
130 Homer Ave.
Gerrard E @ Broadview

Anyway, I think that it's a good idea.

 

[Gentle Ben]

Ok Gentlemen, this topic brings up a little red flag for me. I do volunteer work with some Special Needs adults, ranging from 20 - 35, most of them have no idea about sex. You have to remember that most of these Special Needs people have severe and pervasive impairment in thinking, feeling, language, and the ability to relate to others. Where you would get the idea that they have the ability to cope with sexuality is beyond me. I've heard horror stories where men would prey on these SPECIAL NEEDS women, because they don't know any better.

DON"T HAVE A FORUM for them! that's just my two cents!

Obviously you didn't grasp my post...

 

[Brill]

Obviously you didn't grasp my post...

It's understandable, "special needs" is a vague term.
I don't see the point of creating a special place for them, especially since they have very different concerns and needs. We all have some kind of privacy issues but we all post anonymously and should feel free to be unique in our own ways.

 

[C Dick]

Maybe I am over-reacting but, did you see what C Dick wrote??

You have to remember that most of these Special Needs people have severe and pervasive impairment in thinking, feeling, language, and the ability to relate to others.

Are you suggesting that people with Asperger's can not think and feel? That sounds a little like hate speech, if one wanted to look at it that way.

Perhaps you should read up a little on Asperger's and see if you still feel that way. People with Asperger's can be very intelligent, it is an impairment in social skills, the ability to interact with other people. There have been threads on Asperger's here on Terb, I think that many Asperger people are drawn to paying for sex because it is a lot easier to hire someone for sex than to charm them the way neuro-typical people would. Are you suggesting that it is inappropriate for Asperger people to pay for sex at all?

I could understand if it was something that affected reasoning or made someone easy to take advantage of, or dangerous, but Asperger's is not anything like that, it just makes you bad at social skills.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

Asperger's ... just makes you bad at social skills.

I agree with most of what you wrote, however, Asperger' Syndrome is much, much more than just bad social skills.

 

[luv4lust]

Obviously you didn't grasp my post...

omg i'm being good

 

[tonydisabled]

Gb...

I think your idea was meant to do no harm but the fact is it could do harm. here is how ...People with "special needs" are singled out enough as it is. Why add to that? As most of you know I am disabled but I see myself as a person who happens to be disabled not a disabled person.

If I have something to share/ask I'll do it as a person.

 

[Cassini]

If you do create a forum, make sure it is not publicly accessible like the lounge is.

Also, maybe a different name: Special Requests or something. Make sure the name has a positive connotation, and is not perceived as labeling a group of people.

 

[tonydisabled]

Ok Gentlemen, this topic brings up a little red flag for me. I do volunteer work with some Special Needs adults, ranging from 20 - 35, most of them have no idea about sex. You have to remember that most of these Special Needs people have severe and pervasive impairment in thinking, feeling, language, and the ability to relate to others. Where you would get the idea that they have the ability to cope with sexuality is beyond me. I've heard horror stories where men would prey on these SPECIAL NEEDS women, because they don't know any better.

DON"T HAVE A FORUM for them! that's just my two cents!

Although it is true that some special needs people do not have a clue about sex, there are some who not only know about it but find sex enjoyable.

 

[Brill]

Gb...

I think your idea was meant to do no harm but the fact is it could do harm. here is how ...People with "special needs" are singled out enough as it is. Why add to that? As most of you know I am disabled but I see myself as a person who happens to be disabled not a disabled person.

If I have something to share/ask I'll do it as a person.

This is probably true for most disabled people, just discuss your needs openly with terb or privately with an SP you'd like to see.
We all have differences in some way and you'll find many SPs will go out of their way to take care of you.

 

[CUPID]

I think it would be valuable to have a list of providers who are comfortable working with those who have special needs, perhaps make it a sticky in the forum and update regularly.