Should we lie

When you repeat with a girl 3+4 or even 10 times it is inevitable that she will ask questions, they sometimes ask straight up during 1st session...


It also makes a difference if you're trying to connect with her personally. if you're just there to get to get your dick wet, she wouldn't care.
 
Not all men are only looking for a pin cushion, some actually desire intimacy and contact. And some of us ladies do care to know some basic facts about who is getting "their dick wet" with us. It is often called screening.

It also makes a difference if you're trying to connect with her personally. if you're just there to get to get your dick wet, she wouldn't care.
 
Back to the question........

I don't think the MPA or SP needs to know what kind of rims you have. Just park far away.

Issued solved.
 
At least this man is up front and honest.

Not really. I am single so have nothing to be dishonest about. My simple point to the OP is stay away from conversations that are out of his comfort zone. Any client that starts a convo that leads to discomfort or poor service is getting into a self inflicted wound. From what I understand from (many) escorts is that most of their clients are married. The vast majority of escorts surely do not care about client marital status. You could almost throw a dart and find the right lady.
 
Not really. I am single so have nothing to be dishonest about. My simple point to the OP is stay away from conversations that are out of his comfort zone. Any client that starts a convo that leads to discomfort or poor service is getting into a self inflicted wound. From what I understand from (many) escorts is that most of their clients are married. The vast majority of escorts surely do not care about client marital status. You could almost throw a dart and find the right lady.

My point is you are single.
 
Yes, but MPAs are not escorts and with them the YMMv is huge thus is also the part that makes them so attractive for me. Some only do the massage body slide he thing 90%-95% of the time. There are also the ones that only do the massage he and do not allow anywhere near face but have banging bodies...my post was more directed at MPAs...in the past 5 years I have not seen 1 SP. I agree with Jacklyn7 posts that some men like me want the intimacy and mental HE in addition to the physical release.


Not really. I am single so have nothing to be dishonest about. My simple point to the OP is stay away from conversations that are out of his comfort zone. Any client that starts a convo that leads to discomfort or poor service is getting into a self inflicted wound. From what I understand from (many) escorts is that most of their clients are married. The vast majority of escorts surely do not care about client marital status. You could almost throw a dart and find the right lady.
 
Repeat after me(to her)" I've been single for about a year now.She cheated on me and it just takes time to trust someone again.The worst part of it was the last 2 years of marriage was lacking completely any intimacy(Don't say sex....it makes you sound uncaring).I never even saw it coming.I'm sure I'll meet someone, but for now i'm just not ready so here i am(Soft smile)".....your honest,vulnerable,wounded,and just looking for something you may think you've lost forever.Trust me
 
From personal experience countless times I revel that I am married and my real age I notice the service and passion starts to suffer. Only a few girls are really cool with this...I am very selective who I see.

I tried this many times and each time similar result. This is big for YMMV girls.

One time I told an MPA that I was a university student just trying to relax from exams and got everything I wanted. I did not repeat with the girl as I did not feel good about lying but later found out that she does not offer this other stuff to many other clients.

Sometimes it is a huge let down if the girl pulls back after some good ole passionate LFK/DFK etc... once they know the real me and my real life, and I feel so dissapointed not getting some passion that would be there if they did not know.

I have the ability to totally forget my life in that room and just enjoy the moment and forget anything clouding my thoughts about the MPA to fully enjoy her and treat her the best I can .

In the end of the day I want a good session without the girl holding back on me provided she wants to. So is my only solution here to lie. I do not feel comfortable with this approach but I less comfortable with a dissapointing session.

Any thoughts on this????
Maybe what you need is better lies or don't lie at all. Generally speaking, MPA and SP don't give a rats ass about johns' private lives.
 
Maybe what you need is better lies or don't lie at all. Generally speaking, MPA and SP don't give a rats ass about johns' private lives.

Knowledge is power, if the provider can use the information to keep the money flowing, establish a long term customer or even find or upgrade their current so/ sugardaddy then they just might. If the client reveals disturbing personal information about themselves then the sessions will suffer and probably soon cease. Customers and providers should put up barriers to keep themselves intact.
 
Should we lie?

Hmmm, lemme answer your question with a question:

Do you think the SP's are being completely honest with us? :confused:

The nature of this hobby is fantasy. Fantasy is NOT reality.

Hobby all you want, have fun with it, don't take it too seriously and don't think for a second that everyone or anyone is being 100% truthful and sincere.

;)
 
No everybody, absolutely everybody lies. The person that says that they don't lie is lying to your face even if it is your SO at the altar.

Yes obviously the SPs or MPAs lie and sometimes make it very obvious. I find that there is a double standard with them on this many times. There are also levels of lying and you can go as far as totally making up a new life for your self. I find the other strategy a lot more exciting amd harder to maintain.

The fantasy is very important and is why we pay and is one of the reasons why I hobby. As mentioned before, having somebody that you can answer a question honestly without weaving a web of lies, or switching to your personality X, is very theraputic and helps sell the fantasy for me. At the end of the day it depends on the person and depends of what YOU WANT. Obviously, you will not take this approach with somebody who is looped out on weed or does not give a shit about you and only wants to take your money and have you leave. You will tread lightly around a serpent and reap the benifits of dancing with such a creature.

I still think there is an advantage to being honest with some MPA or actually very few MPA due to their personailty and if the rapport grows. It absolutely makes it more exciting, helps with the intimacy, and the mental HE.

The guys who hobby for a while already have MPAs and know who to turn to based on what they are looking for. Now I know who to see based on what I need because I have been doing it for a while...I guess it is a bit frustrating that you will never find everything you are looking for in one MPA...

Hmmm, lemme answer your question with a question:

Do you think the SP's are being completely honest with us? :confused:

The nature of this hobby is fantasy. Fantasy is NOT reality.

Hobby all you want, have fun with it, don't take it too seriously and don't think for a second that everyone or anyone is being 100% truthful and sincere.

;)
 
Well, I obviously went to bed too early last night.

Is it a lie, or an omission of truth? My wife has never asked me if I see escorts or frequent massage parlours--if she ever did, then I suppose I would lie. But yes, I am guilty of cheating; I'm not saying I'm innocent here.

As far as talking to SP's and MPA's, I don't know--I guess I always assumed that I look like a married guy with a family so I tell them that. I've never noticed that it affected my "mileage" one way or the other, though I suppose there's a possibility that if some see me as available (if they'd ever conceivably WANT little ol' me) my service level may improve. But then I'd have to come up with a whole fictional story and that's just too complicated--easier to just tell the truth and take what they're willing to give me. And most of the time I'm completely happy with what I get.

You can judge me, or any of us, but I for one am comfortable with what I'm doing. I'm not hurting anyone, I'm still completely, 100% available to my wife any time she wants some loving (there's plenty of me to go around), and I'm helping to keep the economy going.
 
Yes of corse. Sometimes it feels therapeutic when you have somebody that you don't have to lie to laying naked and knowing that there are no consequences to you answering their questions honestly and not being judged openly. A parodox and contradiction oh hell yeah. But it is how I roll..

I think that person would be your wife then, no? Or at least it should be.

Gotta say, I don't get it. You feel bad lying to SP's but not you wife?
 
Well, I obviously went to bed too early last night.

Is it a lie, or an omission of truth? My wife has never asked me if I see escorts or frequent massage parlours--if she ever did, then I suppose I would lie. But yes, I am guilty of cheating; I'm not saying I'm innocent here.

As far as talking to SP's and MPA's, I don't know--I guess I always assumed that I look like a married guy with a family so I tell them that. I've never noticed that it affected my "mileage" one way or the other, though I suppose there's a possibility that if some see me as available (if they'd ever conceivably WANT little ol' me) my service level may improve. But then I'd have to come up with a whole fictional story and that's just too complicated--easier to just tell the truth and take what they're willing to give me. And most of the time I'm completely happy with what I get.

You can judge me, or any of us, but I for one am comfortable with what I'm doing. I'm not hurting anyone, I'm still completely, 100% available to my wife any time she wants some loving (there's plenty of me to go around), and I'm helping to keep the economy going.


I am sorry, but I read you reply here. and now this reply. I have to say, those are all justifications you are making to help make you feel comfortable about cheating. In my opinion.

You got into this because you were not getting sex. Now that has changed and you are still going it. You openly admit you could quit hobbying and be happy with your wife, but you don't want to. I think your wife will be hurt if and when she finds out and I wonder if then, this will still have been worth it to you.
 

I am sorry, but I read you reply here. and now this reply. I have to say, those are all justifications you are making to help make you feel comfortable about cheating. In my opinion.

You got into this because you were not getting sex. Now that has changed and you are still going it. You openly admit you could quit hobbying and be happy with your wife, but you don't want to. I think your wife will be hurt if and when she finds out and I wonder if then, this will still have been worth it to you.
You're right. Guilty.

Yet I continue. Nice to see someone's paying attention, I suppose.
 
I really think this is the last place where we should be judging people for their choices.

I am not judging. I am making a comment based on my opinion/interpretations of his posts. Do you disagree that if his wife found now that she would be hurt? He did say he was not hurting anyone and I don't believe that to be true. He is hurting his wife, they both just don't know it yet. He appears to be making justifications for himself. Sometimes people don't realize these things until they are pointed out.

I think people use the term "judgment" the wrong way to may times. I am not "judging" him. I would have no reason too. He is a person I will never meet, I don't know his wife, I am not related and I have no connection. I feel his wife may find out one day simply based on his comfortability and he therefore he may just slip one day. I don't get the reasons for continuing to hobby based on her his own reasons for why he is in this hobby. Not that I need to understand. I am just curious.

Also, saying that people here shouldn't be judging others seems rather offensive if you think about it. Why are other people more suited to judge but a board full of hookers and johns are not? What is wrong with that? THAT could seem quite judgmental to some, no?
 
Mary Magdalene. I am saying we have all been judged/analyzed/hypercritically observed more than enough already by the outside world, we need to cut each other a break here.


I am not judging. I am making a comment based on my opinion/interpretations of his posts. Do you disagree that if his wife found now that she would be hurt? He did say he was not hurting anyone and I don't believe that to be true. He is hurting his wife, they both just don't know it yet. He appears to be making justifications for himself. Sometimes people don't realize these things until they are pointed out.

I think people use the term "judgment" the wrong way to may times. I am not "judging" him. I would have no reason too. He is a person I will never meet, I don't know his wife, I am not related and I have no connection. I feel his wife may find out one day simply based on his comfortability and he therefore he may just slip one day. I don't get the reasons for continuing to hobby based on her his own reasons for why he is in this hobby. Not that I need to understand. I am just curious.

Also, saying that people here shouldn't be judging others seems rather offensive if you think about it. Why are other people more suited to judge but a board full of hookers and johns are not? What is wrong with that? THAT could seem quite judgmental to some, no?