Use discretion. The problem is that unfortunately, lying and dishonesty is cemented into the foundation of this industry. There are differing degrees of safety offered by each provider, and some are more capacious for discretion than others.
Exploration and expression is remarkably easier when we sense we are safe; if a lie helps, whatever the situation is, it's not the worst thing committed. It's also possible to admit to one's dishonesty honourably when an opening presents itself. I hope we aim for honesty and mutual respect but the reality is we need to keep ourselves safe.