It's much easier for "outsiders" to have an opinion.kat19 said:i guess everyone is just confirming what i already knew (but didn't really want to admit).
Love is blindness
It's much easier for "outsiders" to have an opinion.kat19 said:i guess everyone is just confirming what i already knew (but didn't really want to admit).
Reality check here sister!Lynn said:It does not matter whether or not the boyfriend was close to Kat's grandmother.
What matters is that Kat has suffered the loss of someone she loves.
She needs him and he totally disregarded her need.
Complete lack of sensitivity, concern, and support.
Wrong!impala77 said:reality check?
the reality is that her grandmother meant something to her and if she means something to him then it is important for him to be there to help her. He doesn't need to know the grandmother to stand beside his girlfriend and hold her hand and help her through her loss.
if he isn't willing to share in her personal relationships with others then why should she waste her time maintaining a personal relationship with him?
Ref said:Wrong!
We all have our different ways of dealing with death.
Wow, when BeeBee is the voice of reason in a thread, you know the world is a messed up place.bbking said:I am very sorry to hear about your loss. One thing I have noticed is that when people are conforted with death a lot of them behave in a very odd manner which is not at all in keeping with their normal personality. I really don't think that your BF, if he has never shown disinterest in you in the past, is really not very supportive this time. It may in fact be that really doesn't know what to do or say to you and he may not want to face a reminder of his mortality.
Now having said that - If he has shown a self centered personality and a lack of concern of your issues - then dump his ass because it ain't going to get any better. If thats not the Man he normally is then cut him some slack.
Oh Girlfriend... Do I have a book for you to run out TODAY and buy. I read it in 2 days and it changed my whole perception on dating, relationships and men. I saw it on Oprah, it is a book that is written by 2 writers from 'Sex In The City' and it's called He's Just Not That Into You. This book is FARKING AMAZING!!! Oprah said every women needs to own a copy of this book and after reading it I believe EVERY WOMEN NEEDS TO OWN A COPY OF THIS BOOK. After the show aired I ran out to Chapters and bought it and read it in 2 days! I promise you won't be disappointed and the decision whether to dump him or not will become perfectly clear for you. *hugs*kat19 said:last night my grandmother passed away and naturally, as I was very close to her, I was really upset. When I told my boyfriend he just said sorry and that he'd call me back. so hours went by and i called him again and he said he had dozed off. i was kinda upset that he didn't offer to come by or ask if i'm ok or needed anything, so i told him this and he said "would it matter if he was with me? what's he going to do?" then he said he was going back to bed. now is that insensitive or what? i've been with him for 4 years and i feel if he's like this now he will prove to be of no help/ support in the future. am i being too dramatic or is this guy really just an asshole? are there better guys out there?
Originally posted by The Shake
Most importantly, you should be talking to him (and people who know you as a couple and can give you a balanced perspective on the issue, as opposed to the "he sucks dump the asshole" type of thing), not the TERB lynch mob. [/B]