Should I be using a burner phone when contacting SPs?

[CuddleBuddy2]

I've heard of atleast 2 divorces happening because the wifey found a second phone and SIM card. So be careful where you keep the phone. Car trunk or the Shed are not good places to hide your secret phone .
Also don't hide the app, just uninstall and reinstall for your peace of mind.

When I first started seeing the ladies I used my real number to inquire. Some of them replied back hours later and some even a few days later. One time I was showing something on my phone to a friend and a text message from a provider popped up Had to change my number so fast after I told them to stop messaging me.

Usually you don't have to worry about this happening from reputable Indys, Spas and agencies.

It all depends on your situation and risk tolerance. What works for one client won't be the best thing for another. Single vs Suspicious SO

I get the misuse of text apps from clients but a reference check from another provider can mitigate that hopefully

 

[StillROAMing]

@CuddleBuddy2 well said.
And it also relates to the type of SP a client wants to see. SPs range from unknown LL to known with reviews to well established. Within these levels SPs accept different methods.

 

[timmeh]

TextNow works for me.
Never use your real number.
Would you use your real name when booking with someone ?
I didn't think so.
Be and stay anonymous.
This is the only way to protect yourself from the possibility of a date from hell finding out who you really are, and ruining your life.

 

[DoctorMuon]

TextNow works for me.
Never use your real number.
Would you use your real name when booking with someone ?
I didn't think so.
Be and stay anonymous.
This is the only way to protect yourself from the possibility of a date from hell finding out who you really are, and ruining your life.

I visit mainly with regulars, so I don't mind if they have my real number. But yes, if you are into trying new girls all of the time, you never know which one is a little out-to-lunch and might text you, or call you inappropriately. So use the secondary phone or texting app or whatever during those times.

 

[westcityside]

Never use your real phone number if you're married or have a girlfriend. You could very easily lose your marriage, your house and your family. Never give a sw your real name or work details either, for all of the same reasons. If you're single, you're on your own and you can do what you think works best for you as a single guy. If you're married and she won't book or answer, move on, call someone else. This is just basic knowledge guys.

 

[Mister pantstent]

Each text app company has a range of numbers. text me could be 613-917-xxxx
text free could be 613-317-xxxx
so by the first six numbers a provider could figure out which text app you’re using.

One thing to keep in mind, if a person stops using their free number after a week or so, the company simply cancels your number and you got to get a new one.

An issue can easily arise where you get a new burner number in 613, you send a message to a local girl, and if anyone previously messaged that girl from that number & she never deletes her messages, then she might think you are the previous hobbyist. She might think you’re the a-hole who stood her up, or called her names, whatever. I’m just saying these text free numbers possibly come with a history.

So, no one really knows you are using a text app.

 

[StillROAMing]

So, no one really knows you are using a text app.

Yes, they do. There are sites where you can search a number. The results will show which company the number belongs to (ie: Rogers, Bell, Iristel, etc...). If the number belongs to Iristel it is a text app. All text app numbers belong to Iristel. Also, some providers have an app that block all text app numbers...they don't even need to search.

 

[westcityside]

Most guys here seem to be going to spas, so using a phone isnt really an issue

 

[Floyd101]

I'm a super paranoid kinda fella and only hobby very sporadically. I was most active during the Mirage era. I have always used my real phone even despite the paranoia!! Maybe the cats out f the bag already!. At any rate, despite my lack of recent activity I appreciate still being on this board all the god info here provided by everybody. This post gave me some good ideas but also some things to think about. I need to dip my toe back into the water.... Thanks to all.

 

[OttawaDude6969]

Never use your real phone number if you're married or have a girlfriend. You could very easily lose your marriage, your house and your family. Never give a sw your real name or work details either, for all of the same reasons. If you're single, you're on your own and you can do what you think works best for you as a single guy. If you're married and she won't book or answer, move on, call someone else. This is just basic knowledge guys.

Excellent . This post should be pinned on the first page.

 

[KittyCaterina]

Trust is a two way street.

Many clients refuse to give deposits, references or board handles.

So maybe the only option left is a REAL phone number.

If you have no intention of being a fake and completely not showing and ghosting a reputable, thoroughly well-reviewed lady, what are you worried about?

 

[Nesbot]

Trust is a two way street.

Many clients refuse to give deposits, references or board handles.

So maybe the only option left is a REAL phone number.

If you have no intention of being a fake and completely not showing and ghosting a reputable, thoroughly well-reviewed lady, what are you worried about?

Can only speak for myself, and you raise excellent points about well reviewed providers.
But in an age where cyber breaches occurrences are commonplace, I’m more concerned about the information being broadcast unintentionally.

I’m sure most guys were sure Ashley Madison was safe and then poof. All kinds of marriages up in smoke. Ashley Madison had encryption security on their servers but it didn’t matter.

So for me, limiting potential for misuse is essential and really has nothing to do with me not trusting the provider.

 

[Mister pantstent]

I'm having a hard time understanding why a text app is bad and moves the needle when it comes to any form of integrity.

For example, I don't care if an SP uses their real photos as long as the photos used are a fair representation. I realize that SP's are real people with real relationships that can be jeopardized.

Same thing can see to be said about real numbers. What connection can or should be made with a real or text app number.

Seems to me that there is just a dislike for text apps but that is all it is.

If I am getting a hold of the primary complaint, it's that text app users are wasting the time of an SP and if they do so, the SP blocks the number but the time waster can simply get a new text app number and continue the behaviour. Am I getting it?

Let's say I am getting it and use my real number and then flake out on an appointment. The SP blocks me as a best case punitive measure. OK, so if I have a proclivity to wasting someone's time I then get a text app number and have at it.

How did the needle move?

I didn't write this in a sarcastic tone, more of an inquisitive nature as I am too daft to get it.

 

[dune364]

I would not use my personal phone . Just move on to the next girl if it is a problem. Alot of girls take advantage of the text apps also so you will have no problem finding someone.
Usually the girls who have series of hoops they want you to jump thru to see them
are not all there hyped up to be.

 

[KTDoy]

It's a business transaction after all. It's up to the individual to decide which is a better method for them. For clients, if privacy/personal security is your #1 concern then use the app and move on if the providers don't accept text app numbers. There are plenty of providers that will accept your business and money. On the other side, if ghosting is a big issue (and it is for some) then block the text apps and have your selected set of clients. I don't think there is a right or wrong here.

 

[StillROAMing]

I'm having a hard time understanding why a text app is bad and moves the needle when it comes to any form of integrity.

For example, I don't care if an SP uses their real photos as long as the photos used are a fair representation. I realize that SP's are real people with real relationships that can be jeopardized.

Same thing can see to be said about real numbers. What connection can or should be made with a real or text app number.

Seems to me that there is just a dislike for text apps but that is all it is.

If I am getting a hold of the primary complaint, it's that text app users are wasting the time of an SP and if they do so, the SP blocks the number but the time waster can simply get a new text app number and continue the behaviour. Am I getting it?

Let's say I am getting it and use my real number and then flake out on an appointment. The SP blocks me as a best case punitive measure. OK, so if I have a proclivity to wasting someone's time I then get a text app number and have at it.

How did the needle move?

I didn't write this in a sarcastic tone, more of an inquisitive nature as I am too daft to get it.

Short answer. It's not that all text app users are aholes, it's that all the aholes use text apps, in general. Text apps are used for fake bookings and harrassment. Unfortunately, I think a guilt by association has developed.

 

[bloodless]

i would not want to deal with the stress of some psychotic sp rage-calling me on my actual phone number, nor would i want my real number shared amongst the sp community, where it could be used in a bad way, nor would i want that real number to be used randomly in the future out of the blue when a sp feels like reaching out to see if i want to book something again.
controlling my own privacy is critical.
all it takes is one bad event or person to ruin your life.
your choice, as always.

 

[Mister pantstent]

i would not want to deal with the stress of some psychotic sp rage-calling me on my actual phone number, nor would i want my real number shared amongst the sp community, where it could be used in a bad way, nor would i want that real number to be used randomly in the future out of the blue when a sp feels like reaching out to see if i want to book something again.
controlling my own privacy is critical.
all it takes is one bad event or person to ruin your life.
your choice, as always.

I've had one of these scenarios occur. SP texting at all hours asking if I would like to book a visit. First reply was kind, ignored a bunch of others and the last reply was that I was a 11 year old girl and to stop texting me.

I've since learned how to block numbers.

 

[massman]

I've had one of these scenarios occur. SP texting at all hours asking if I would like to book a visit. First reply was kind, ignored a bunch of others and the last reply was that I was a 11 year old girl and to stop texting me.

I've since learned how to block numbers.

Whether or not to use a burner phone, or text app is all up to how important to you is maintaining your personal number private. If there are little consequences to you revealing your # to an sp, then no worries. Personally I like to keep my worlds completely separate. And I have had even on my text app, the odd girl text me unsolicited trying to get me to book, and a long time ago, due to a brief misunderstanding between us about a booking she assumed I was a time waster, and she put my full number on her website. (Thankfully not my real home/ business number).
I’ve used both a second phone, as well as text app. Second phone is great, except has the hassle of where to keep it if you have a SO, keeping it charged, especially if you rarely use it like me, and keeping minutes topped up as they often have an “expiry date”. With a text app, none of these hassles, however some providers won’t accept, just because it is completely anonymous and if you are a dick or a competitor, and want to arrange appt and not show, you’ll use an app. So you will miss out on some opportunities, but there still is lots of other choice, and many sps Will accept alternate forms of verification, linked in, photo id, references or a deposit. In some cases if you have a presence here, and have demonstrated you conduct yourself well in this forum, they will accept a TERB handle.

like so many things, it’s all up to your own personal “risk tolerance”.

 

[OttawaDude6969]

Can only speak for myself, and you raise excellent points about well reviewed providers.
But in an age where cyber breaches occurrences are commonplace, I’m more concerned about the information being broadcast unintentionally.

I’m sure most guys were sure Ashley Madison was safe and then poof. All kinds of marriages up in smoke. Ashley Madison had encryption security on their servers but it didn’t matter.

So for me, limiting potential for misuse is essential and really has nothing to do with me not trusting the provider.

Agreed.

Many large corporations are unable to protect their own information. Lol about individual can do a better job.

Also people lost their cellphones all the time. Good luck if you have given out your real phone number and any relevant information that can be traced back to you.