I hate to write this...I have had a lot of fun at this hobby but I realized something the other day...I am getting bored. Sad but true. I love sex, I love beautiful women but maybe a good thing has run its course. I wonder, any other hobbyists hit this wall in the past? Does a lengthy break help or maybe it's time to hang up my socks and call it a day?
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I hit this wall not too long ago. My issue is psychological. As I got older, I'm not in the same shape I used to be, I look different and my confidence isn't so great with women. My last girlfriend dumped me about a year and a half ago. I saw a variety of SPs afterwards but after several thousand dollars and time alone, I realized I wanted intimacy with a girl I can share all the experiences life has to offer. I saw Emma after the breakup and she was the closest thing I had to a girlfriend. She was really down to earth and made me feel special. After I hit the wall Emma came back a few months ago and I had to see her.I hate to write this...I have had a lot of fun at this hobby but I realized something the other day...I am getting bored. Sad but true. I love sex, I love beautiful women but maybe a good thing has run its course. I wonder, any other hobbyists hit this wall in the past? Does a lengthy break help or maybe it's time to hang up my socks and call it a day?
Most guys love sex and women but sounds like you want something more but maybe not sure what it is yet.
I agree with Ch. If your heart is not in it, then that's good for you and your wallet. The best thing to do is to find another hobby (no drugs or alcohol please!) and spend quality time enjoying your new hobby. Most hobbies are less expensive than SPs, so you will have $ left for other things like travelling...etc. Good luck! You always have the option to come back to this hobby, but other hobbies can be as fullfilling as this one (and the satisfaction lasts longer than 5 to 8 seconds).
Oh well...it's unfortunate but, when I stop believing the $$ is worth it, I lose interest. Last break was because of money and I came back with a vengeance, including a couple days of 3 providers per day. But, somehow this time is different. Yup, money is getting low but, so is the fun.
Always wanted to be a porn star but now, not so much...even fucking multiple beautiful women daily/weekly gets tiresome.
Always wanted to be a porn star but now, not so much...even fucking multiple beautiful women daily/weekly gets tiresome.
Take a break again....if the desire isnt there after awhile ..then its time to move on...to something else....if you still want to play then you're not ready to pack it in...so to speak...
I thought about this for a while. I have been in the hobby since 1992. Not interested in $300.00 SP's. I stick to MP's close to home. Some MP's are VERY outgoing and very enjoyable to be with, others well dad to say it's gotten too same old same old, do the tease (if any) do the flip, decorate the ceiling, cleanup and have a nice day.
I have a couple of regulars which I am not as regular anymore. OH well, c 'est la vie!!
I have a couple of regulars which I am not as regular anymore. OH well, c 'est la vie!!
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It happens, everyone needs to "cut back" now and then. I think I'm due for that myself soon. I hate to think of the day I stop altogether but reality says that will be sooner than later. OK, maybe not altogether but next to nothing. Shit isn't working like it used to, takes an exceptional woman to make it great these days. *sniff sniff*
All that said I have something lined up for this afternoon. Trying a Candyland girl out west, will let you know if she's worth seeing if she goes to Ottawa.
All that said I have something lined up for this afternoon. Trying a Candyland girl out west, will let you know if she's worth seeing if she goes to Ottawa.
Cap, there are MAs who offer what you've mentioned, for a larger tip. In some cases it's closer three hundred for fs, and full menu. But you're right, they are often very attractive.
I think given your tastes, it'd be something to explore. Though the way it works. You may have to visit the MA more than once.. Not always the case. But it's more work than sps. But more pleasure than strippers.
I quit for six years. Didn't even read the board for years at a time. I left because I entered a relationship and wanted to be faithful. I still do, just my will broke and I love women and variety. Breaks my heart though thinking about if she were to ever find out. Sigh. The time away changed something.. My taste for one lol. But yea, ya don't even miss it sometimes.. Assuming you have something else in your life.
I think given your tastes, it'd be something to explore. Though the way it works. You may have to visit the MA more than once.. Not always the case. But it's more work than sps. But more pleasure than strippers.
I quit for six years. Didn't even read the board for years at a time. I left because I entered a relationship and wanted to be faithful. I still do, just my will broke and I love women and variety. Breaks my heart though thinking about if she were to ever find out. Sigh. The time away changed something.. My taste for one lol. But yea, ya don't even miss it sometimes.. Assuming you have something else in your life.
I'm not a mp monger dude. But back before I quit they were one of the few places that were akin to incall. Anyways you can ask the other guys for some tips. But what you're looking for is available on the down low. What I was trying to explain is, nobody is going to tell you that on the phone.. Or by email.. Or anything like that. Only way is to go see a mpa you like and broach it in private. It's very common, you'll fair better than guys who want fs. If you're down for daty and dfk only.
There's no shortcut in this. You gotta visit the girls or get the heads up from guys who know.
There's no shortcut in this. You gotta visit the girls or get the heads up from guys who know.
Yes I agree there are some MAs out there that may do all. I remember seeing a large thread on cerb mainly by cerb MAs who were saying that they don't do daty and fs and they said if they do then that makes them escorts and that claimed they are not. They said that what differentiates between them and escorts is the fact that they don't provide those services. If I recall correctly a small minority also posted that they are MAs but do above services too.
Visiting SPA as a very low risk taker is for now out of question for me (it is different with visiting strip bars like Barbs which is a licenced bar and totally legal), the risk is very low but it is above my acceptable level of risk. I remember PMing two well known SPAs on boards asking them if their girls do outcall or provide daty (I even said no FS required) and the answer to both from both SPAs was a clear no. So I gave up on the idea. But you are right. I should pursue the idea and contact independent MAs on cerb maybe and ask them about likelihood of outcalls and daty with no fs service. Looks are very important to me rather than services and I have had a hard time finding escorts to my liking in Ottawa. Thanks for putting the thought in my mind too2shy!!.
If you are bored, then what you are doing no longer turns your crank. It doesn't necessarily mean that you should be turning to a sexless hobby. You need to explore other forms of sex to find what now turns you on (I'm not advocating anything dangerous - but I'm sure that some of the really weird things out there are because of this). Mental preparation can help - some guys go to strip clubs and that gets them going - you can read reviews of the person that you are going to see - study her pictures and envision and plan your encounter. Ration yourself - if you restrict eating chocolate only on Saturdays, it tastes a lot better than if you can eat it whenever you want (and you appreciate it a lot more too). It is something like a pot user who isn't happy with a pot high anymore and turns to other drugs such as cocaine (I'm not advocating that either). We all know that the largest sex organ is the brain - so you have to get that working for you. However, sooner or later we all turn into dirty old men and then into old farts. Good luck!
