I'm not surprised by this letter. If it wasn't for the money most clients wouldn't be screwing these sexy providers.
Sex worker writes a scathing open letter to all her clients.
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That goes both ways. This woman wasn't giving any respect at all, or even attempting to. She thought her clients were scum just for walking in the door.
She even says that many of her clients gave her appreciation, kindness and respect. She thought they were pathetic for it. Obviously no winning with her.
Cognitive dissonance finally kicked in.
She had zero ambition and now blames men for her choices. Shoulda stayed in school dear.
She had zero ambition and now blames men for her choices. Shoulda stayed in school dear.
You could probably get a similarly toned letter from any number of employees in any customer facing position for every company in the world. Every company has people who hate their jobs and/or hate their customers. Personally, I think being a SW would be a challenging job because the SP literally IS the product. Over the years, I've met a lot of different providers - some who you can tell share the attitude of the letter writer in the OP. But in my experience the majority have managed to pull off the illusion and there are many SP's who I think would be very successful at any number of mainstream professions. It's all about attitude. If you have a bad one in any job, eventually it will show through and affect performance.
In general - I have little patience for people who bitch about their jobs during or after. I try to avoid them like the plague. Shut up, get off your ass, and get a better one that you can at least be passionate about, or at a minimum enjoy.
In general - I have little patience for people who bitch about their jobs during or after. I try to avoid them like the plague. Shut up, get off your ass, and get a better one that you can at least be passionate about, or at a minimum enjoy.
Pu-leeeze! Sounds like a guy wanting to get off on sexy e-mails, never intended on actually seeing/spending money on you. Just my opinion, of course. As for the SW rant in the OP, it's really nothing new. Something similar in a Buff News a while back about a girl that got busted. Just thinking "now I can pay the rent, now I can get those boot, etc. Nothing new there and there ARE girls out there that will enjoy your company, you just have to keep looking...
Like any job, one's feelings about it will change over time. I read a piece written by a former escort who said that when she first started out, her favourite clients were the ones who she felt connected to in some way. After a while in the business, her favourite clients became the big tippers or ones who gave expensive gifts. By the end of her career, her favourite clients were the ones who didn't say much and got it over with quickly.
This piece is one-dimensional. The lack of nuance suggests someone with other unaddressed issues.
This piece is one-dimensional. The lack of nuance suggests someone with other unaddressed issues.
She sounds like someone who's not getting as much attention as she craves anymore and is switching gears to be "Ms Badly Treated". If she plays the role well enough, she can do the rad fem lecture circuit as this month's token ex prostitute and maybe even get a book deal.
Lots of women love the role-playing, the sympathy and attention and the possibility of a pay-off.
Lots of women love the role-playing, the sympathy and attention and the possibility of a pay-off.
I’m guessing she was probably like this when she was younger tooThis is her. Looks like age finally caught up to her and she had a meltdown
There's a docu-series on Netflix called After Porn Ends that deals with the same issues. Some ladies go on to bigger and better things and some end up bitter and alone. I think the key is attitude. If you have a negative attitude about how your life "should have" been then you're never going to be happy no matter how much money or fame you have. If you generally have a positive attitude, then you can use your life experiences even in the sex industry to shape your life on your own terms.
I don't really expect the girl to be more then a good actress, I assume they are doing a job, some are fun and happy people, and some are messed up. I have dated women that are messed up as well. I always try and make their jobs and experience good but I do understand it is a service and I am paying for it.
Everyone Falls somewhere on the scale of how much they like what they do. It is very clear that she hated what she did just like some people hate their own 9-5 jobs.
In contrast to how she feels there are many service providers who like their job or even love their job.
It comes from their own personal experiences and background which can include a million factors and can only be seen while in their shoes.
The point is that there will be people who hate it and people who love it and people in between. This is the perspective of someone who hates it and that extremity clearly has attracted a lot of coverage and attention. This won't change the fact that there are also lots of positive stories to share but because of the nature of the industry they are not very publicized. I'm certain a contributing factor to her writing this is the fact that she stopped doing it a long time ago.
In contrast to how she feels there are many service providers who like their job or even love their job.
It comes from their own personal experiences and background which can include a million factors and can only be seen while in their shoes.
The point is that there will be people who hate it and people who love it and people in between. This is the perspective of someone who hates it and that extremity clearly has attracted a lot of coverage and attention. This won't change the fact that there are also lots of positive stories to share but because of the nature of the industry they are not very publicized. I'm certain a contributing factor to her writing this is the fact that she stopped doing it a long time ago.
Was going to write something similar but I can't add anything meaningful to what you have posted.
Also must say particularly interesting comments by Dawn Lee and Jessica Rain.
I'm not surprised.
For those who think there's something wrong with her for having negative feelings/outlook on the job, I respectfully disagree.
Catch anyone on a bad day and they will tell you about the problems of their job.
Sex work is that x1000 because unlike a person just being rude to you there is the physical intimacy side. Not to mention for some men sex work brings out their worst in that they are acting out a fantasy or feel entitled because they "paid for it".
I'm sure she's had good or even great clients but those get overshadowed by the bad experiences.
The idea that if you love something you should do it for free is dumb. Not many doctors and lawyers out there giving out free service regularly. Sure some do pro bono work but never at a loss.
For those who think there's something wrong with her for having negative feelings/outlook on the job, I respectfully disagree.
Catch anyone on a bad day and they will tell you about the problems of their job.
Sex work is that x1000 because unlike a person just being rude to you there is the physical intimacy side. Not to mention for some men sex work brings out their worst in that they are acting out a fantasy or feel entitled because they "paid for it".
I'm sure she's had good or even great clients but those get overshadowed by the bad experiences.
The idea that if you love something you should do it for free is dumb. Not many doctors and lawyers out there giving out free service regularly. Sure some do pro bono work but never at a loss.
Ad hominemThis is her. Looks like age finally caught up to her and she had a meltdown
hating sex workers and sex work is based on female jealousy
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...-foes-new-science-explores-female-competition
Feminine Foes: New Science Explores Female Competition
In the sexual trenches, women's tenacity and competitiveness rivals men's
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...-foes-new-science-explores-female-competition
Feminine Foes: New Science Explores Female Competition
In the sexual trenches, women's tenacity and competitiveness rivals men's
