What kind of records do independent service providers keep of our visits? Last week I contacted by email an independent SP that I'd seen about 14 months ago for a 2 hour visit. I was quite impressed by her detailed, very accurate recollections of the visit (e.g., my appearance, our conversation). Although I have not asked her directly, I wonder if her recollections reflect some notes that she had taken. I'm guessing that some keep appointment books. Not sure if I'm comfortable knowing that some keep records especially if LE situation develops. Any folks have comments; what do you know about the likelihood of records being kept? Is there a way to protect against such? I may be paranoid, but I would like to be safe. Thanks.
Service providers keep records?
- Thread starter Johnny D
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I don't think it's that uncommon. Partly service... partly security. Is there a way to protect yourself? Yes... if you book by cell or e-mail... change them up every now and then. But the only guaranteed way to protect yourself is don't go there in the first place.
Morgan Ellis
Bitchy McBitcherson
I lose my keys at least four times a day - fat chance I could ever manage to maintain some super-secret client dossier. I know a lot of ladies in this business, and I've only ever met one who kept a client 'black book' (something which I repeatedly told her was a really, really bad idea).
Maybe for some reason you just made an impression on this girl - it could be something as simple as you remind her of someone from her private life, or you had a memorable job, or you share a similar educational background. It's not inconceivable that she'd remember you, without the benefit of notes.
Conversely, perhaps she's been stalking you ever since you first met. Hard to say, really.
Morgan
Maybe for some reason you just made an impression on this girl - it could be something as simple as you remind her of someone from her private life, or you had a memorable job, or you share a similar educational background. It's not inconceivable that she'd remember you, without the benefit of notes.
Conversely, perhaps she's been stalking you ever since you first met. Hard to say, really.
Morgan
Morgan Ellis
Bitchy McBitcherson
I suppose the record-keeping habits of independent service providers will be as independant asthe service providers themselves. There is no hard and fast rule. There's one SP who remembered me so clearly after two years she actually remembered the songs we danced to during her last visit. Another who I saw on a regular basis over a three year period kept calling me by the wrong name. I stopped seeing her when I found a girlfriend, and then a year later out of the blue she started calling me to talk about her life and her travels. I had no idea she any interest in socializing with me, and found her lack of discretion a little odd. I was a bit concerned at first that she might have been just looking for repeat business.
I doubt your SP recalls personal details from notes that she had taken. Most make notes of contact info and addresses and phone numbers for their own protection and nothing else. I have heard tales of LE finding diaries and black books in busts and deeper crime investigations subsequently making contact with the people in the books and ruining their lives.
Oh yeah and Morgan Keeps a shrine to Xarir in her bedroom, or rather she sleeps in the Xarir room of her home. The wall of candid stalker style photographs is a nice touch
For me, years of hobbying has resulted in two indiscretions. Not a bad record. Enough to make me a little paranoid too.
I doubt your SP recalls personal details from notes that she had taken. Most make notes of contact info and addresses and phone numbers for their own protection and nothing else. I have heard tales of LE finding diaries and black books in busts and deeper crime investigations subsequently making contact with the people in the books and ruining their lives.
Oh yeah and Morgan Keeps a shrine to Xarir in her bedroom, or rather she sleeps in the Xarir room of her home. The wall of candid stalker style photographs is a nice touch
For me, years of hobbying has resulted in two indiscretions. Not a bad record. Enough to make me a little paranoid too.
Morgan Ellis
Bitchy McBitcherson
WhaWhaWha said:
Oh, great. You install a GPS unit in one guy's car, and suddenly you're a stalker. Oh, and it's not really a shrine, more of an altar. An altar with black candles. And a dead chicken. And a pentagram.
If you ask my real name I won't be able to remember.. and you were saying your name was?... mmmm... let me write it down
Most women have very good memories about certain things. Men often experience the negative side of this in LTRs (long term relationships). Who has not had the experience of a girlfriend telling you what you said (word for word) in a conversation that is two or three years old.
I write phone numbers on a little white board when I receive a call and erase them once I return from seeing them. I keep track of amounts and dates only, for tax reasons.
Which is why I won't remember you when you call six months later and leave me a message like "Hey! It's Mike! I'm back in town and can't wait to see you again...call me at 555-5555" I will remember you if you say something like; "Hey, it's Mike - remember throwing water balloons off the balcony at the Marriot?"
BTW, my cover story to my building manager to explain why he sees me going out at unpredictable hours in the evening looking all retro swank? When he asked, I told him I work in a gambling den in Chinatown. He just said 'huh', and that was it. Obviously it would be stupid to tell him I wasn't up to anything - the guy's not an idiot - so I swapped the truth out with something shady enough to make sense to him and stop the curiousity, but not shady enough to bother him. I'm finding distraction a far more useful method than confrontation in many areas of life.
Which is why I won't remember you when you call six months later and leave me a message like "Hey! It's Mike! I'm back in town and can't wait to see you again...call me at 555-5555" I will remember you if you say something like; "Hey, it's Mike - remember throwing water balloons off the balcony at the Marriot?"
BTW, my cover story to my building manager to explain why he sees me going out at unpredictable hours in the evening looking all retro swank? When he asked, I told him I work in a gambling den in Chinatown. He just said 'huh', and that was it. Obviously it would be stupid to tell him I wasn't up to anything - the guy's not an idiot - so I swapped the truth out with something shady enough to make sense to him and stop the curiousity, but not shady enough to bother him. I'm finding distraction a far more useful method than confrontation in many areas of life.
Vancouver Femme Fatale said:I write phone numbers on a little white board when I receive a call and erase them once I return from seeing them. I keep track of amounts and dates only, for tax reasons.
Which is why I won't remember you when you call six months later and leave me a message like "Hey! It's Mike! I'm back in town and can't wait to see you again...call me at 555-5555" I will remember you if you say something like; "Hey, it's Mike - remember throwing water balloons off the balcony at the Marriot?"
BTW, my cover story to my building manager to explain why he sees me going out at unpredictable hours in the evening looking all retro swank? When he asked, I told him I work in a gambling den in Chinatown. He just said 'huh', and that was it. Obviously it would be stupid to tell him I wasn't up to anything - the guy's not an idiot - so I swapped the truth out with something shady enough to make sense to him and stop the curiousity, but not shady enough to bother him. I'm finding distraction a far more useful method than confrontation in many areas of life.
That is hilarious. Distraction is a good way of flushing the nosey ones out...LOL
Morgan Ellis
Bitchy McBitcherson
xarir said:
I lurve the chicken. I named it xarir, and every day I pet it and hug it and squeeze it so tight! It smells funny now, though, and it doesn't really move any more. Maybe I should get it dry cleaned.
Morgan Ellis
Bitchy McBitcherson
