I understand where people are coming from with some of the posts above advocating waiting for a GF and I had a similar reactions when I first started in the industry but see it differently now. The world has changed a lot in the last several decades. Dating has become a minefield for young people and with social media, a rigged game that favours the few. The pandemic compounded our social isolation, as has the shift away from socializing in general. And as much as I advocate proactive discussion of boundaries, who is actually teaching young men how to navigate this with women safely? Who is helping a young man understand what a woman might truly enjoy and how to behave in the bedroom?
When a lot of us were growing up, it was just a simpler world and we learned about sex the organic way starting with first base. Today it seems a lot more complicated with expectations on the shoulders of young people at odds with a culture that is completely failing them.
One of my greatest joys is being there to help people of all ages through transitions whether that be loss, reigniting passion, being someone’s first taste of heaven, or their last. And if I can help someone grow into a better man, a better lover more confident of themselves and able to bring that into other aspects of their lives, it’s my pleasure.
I’m also a parent with my own views and fears but I think it’s important not to judge nor impose upon the choices of other adult individuals. People need agency to grow and will mature at vastly different paces; only you can say what’s right for you. The most important thing is that you have the tools you need to make the best decision. You will know what’s right and when. The fact that you’ve made a post here already speaks volumes about your maturity I think.
I understand the impulse to protect but I’m am a little uncomfortable with where some of the comments are going, contrasting sex workers with “real” girls. Yes we are being contracted to provide an experience, but that doesn’t mean it’s fake either, and it especially doesn’t mean that we are unreal. That’s actually a scary position to me to be taking, teaching the opposite of what I think a young man should be learning about women. We are absolutely real human beings who also experience fully during our dates.
For those who are having bad or what they perceive as “fake”experiences with sex workers, maybe your perspective explains at least in part why. If you treat women like appliances, that’s how we will behave. And so what you project and believe on a deep level can be the limit of what you experience with a provider. Just like if you project that upon women in general, this is how we will respond. So if the OP learns anything from this forum, I hope it’s that your experience with intimacy will largely be driven by your choices and your behaviour.
I also think it’s problematic to leave unexamined the notion that seeing a sex worker is addictive in and of itself. Healthy people can enjoy seeing a provider but will still naturally value more fulsome relationships and so if visiting a sex worker has become a negative, it’s time to do some work on yourself and consider the choices you’re making rather than externalizing. I hope this doesn’t sound harsh, I understand this may not be easy, but neither is growing up. Balancing pleasure with responsibility is literally the hard work and growing pains of becoming an adult.
Still, my advice to you
@tooswag would also be to take a little time to casually date rather than racing ahead. There’s no rush, why not take a year or so to explore yourself and at the same time you can do some industry research to understand what’s involved with booking an escort. If and when you’re sure, pick someone reputable with whom you think you’ll feel comfortable not just based on photos, read and follow their policies and remember it’s a wonderful but limited experience.
If you’re old enough to join the military and be sent into combat, you’re old enough to make a decision to see a sex worker. Just don’t rush ahead without knowing there can be tradeoffs financially and emotionally.
