Respect.
- Thread starter The LoLRus
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If possible stop interacting with them altogether. If you have to see them but can reduce it do so, and be civil around them nothing more.
If it's a work situation it's much harder unless it reaches the point you can complain about your treatment, because I don't see a confrontation providing any benefit. But I am slightly passive aggressive keep that in mind.
If it's a work situation it's much harder unless it reaches the point you can complain about your treatment, because I don't see a confrontation providing any benefit. But I am slightly passive aggressive keep that in mind.
tell em!
Next time you feel someone is not giving you respect look him/her straight in the eye and say (in your own vernacular)
"come on man, give me some respect."
You will either get some respect or you will find out why they are not respecting you.
either way is good
jmo
SamSmith said:
Next time you feel someone is not giving you respect look him/her straight in the eye and say (in your own vernacular)
"come on man, give me some respect."
You will either get some respect or you will find out why they are not respecting you.
either way is good
jmo
yes ignoring the person is the best... When they talk to you, just say a word or don't even reply and just go mind your own business. It will kill him/her inside such that he/she will change if they really care about the relation with you.
I've personally had many people change their behaviour for the better by doing this.
I've personally had many people change their behaviour for the better by doing this.
I would just outright ask. But then again, I'm not one to mince words. I would say something like "Is it just me, or do you seem to have very little respect for me? Have I done something to offend you or justify that? If I have, please let me know as I'm sure it was unintentional".
I'm going through the same thing right now with a friend ( not GF), I don't know how to deal with it...it's tearing me apart. The biggest problem is there's quite a bit of money involved (line-of-credit in my name owed by her to the bank, and she also owes me aside from it). 
I've done "ALOT" for her.
We've been friends for 9 years, but I've really questioned it alot lately.
I've done "ALOT" for her.We've been friends for 9 years, but I've really questioned it alot lately.
SamSmith said:
Politely confront them using "I speak" and inclusive language (without crushing your masculinity), then move along with no animosity. If the behaviour persists figure out how to minimize contact with them. One of the reasons why so few people I know will mess with me is because they know they won't get much of a 'rise' out of me, that I'll call them on their behaviour, and then I'll let go and move along.
Similar to what Bluesman said.
If you're that close to the person, just lay it right out on the table and talk about it.
Let them know you've been feeling that way and try to see what may be going on at their end.
Just like a good massage session, it often boils down to good communication.
If you're that close to the person, just lay it right out on the table and talk about it.
Let them know you've been feeling that way and try to see what may be going on at their end.
Just like a good massage session, it often boils down to good communication.
SamSmith said:
Depending on who these other people are sounds like they might be doing you a favour.
I had a friend for a very long time who for most of our relationship only showed up or really seemed to want me around when they were either short no cash or in need of someone to complain to. I accepted this because a) they were usually a good person to spend time with (despite the description) and b) I thought I could help. Late last year over some random bullshit I wasn't even really involved in this person decided to cut me off from them. At first I was pissed off, but I've realized over the last few months they did something for me I hadn't been able to, accept that they weren't changing and make me walk away.
I also know someone who is quite often a condescending prick (although he has his moments) but I hardly ever see him and when I do it's easy to deal with him in small doses.
If he's trying to make your mutual friends choose between you, talk to them individually and make it clear to them they can be friends with both of you even if you break off from each other. Reasonableness is a strong wepon with friends who already know you to be a good person.
It's obvious that this person has some issues with themselves and their bullying tactics make this person look so small that they have to take their frustrations and anger on someone who will accept it.
Personally, I would bless them and move forward because they need all the help they can get. No one needs that type of negativity in their lives regardless if it's friends or family.
I have cutoff many people in my life (both friends and family) that have had a negative influence on me as they really made me feel horrible at times. I don't need that nor does anyone else for that matter. I have never been happier and I strive for being better everyday without these people that were such a part in my life before.
Personally, I would bless them and move forward because they need all the help they can get. No one needs that type of negativity in their lives regardless if it's friends or family.
I have cutoff many people in my life (both friends and family) that have had a negative influence on me as they really made me feel horrible at times. I don't need that nor does anyone else for that matter. I have never been happier and I strive for being better everyday without these people that were such a part in my life before.
SamSmith said:
How about the old-fashioned way, you earn respect. Nobody owes it to you.
Or take the modern gang-banger approach and shoot the guy because he didn't show you respect.
You shouldn't even be asking this question. You live your own life like a man and earn respect....if he doesn't give to you, it is his problem not yours.
You can't force respect... it happens or doesn't happen.
I think you answer all depends on how much you value or need this relationship.
I think you answer all depends on how much you value or need this relationship.
SamSmith said:
Seriously Sam how many times you been banned from TERB for being disrespectful to people . I think this is called karma . I can't be bothered but I'm sure if someone were to pull up your posting history there would be ample evidence that you are not a nice guy . I suspect your friend is tired of your act.
Might be time to clean it up .
