Renewed appreciation for the skills of SPs

[MPAsquared]

Basically the definition of a well reviewed, retired sex worker lol.

Agreed fully. In my heart of hearts I would only marry a retired SP. They have the best and most realistic perspective on men.

KK

Haha that's what came to my mind too! I am that definition he gave. And I thought, hmm, a retired sex worker.

I'm still single despite all of those qualities. Mostly because most men can't handle the holy grail when they find it. Because it throws pressure on them to now be the holy grail of boyfriends. And a former sex worker, like myself, and successful independent etc has very high expectations. After meeting soooo many men, I know exactly what level I want & need. Most men cannot deal with not being needed, but wanted.

From my life experience anyway.

 

[kkelso]

OP, please share your online dating tips for getting an 80% success rate with online dating.

Well, I wasn't successful as I was looking for more than sex. But here's the advice that I received and how I got to where I am:

- I had women friends in my target demographic choose my profile photo and edit my profile text (they chose very differently than I would have)
- I can write a decent e-mail, which women expect to be confident, funny, light, and maybe a little flirty
- Most messages cute women get on dating sites are variations on "wanna f*ck?"
- I enjoy the back & forth of getting to know someone in writing
- I only meet someone for a date when i have gotten to know them and they are more than ready to meet me
- My first dates are intended to impress, and show respect - not frugality
- I always approach a first date as if she might end up being the love of my life - what do I have to lose by doing so?

So that's what I like. The ladies here can comment whether that sounds effective or not.

KK

 

[Titalian]

Haha that's what came to my mind too! I am that definition he gave. And I thought, hmm, a retired sex worker.

I'm still single despite all of those qualities. Mostly because most men can't handle the holy grail when they find it. Because it throws pressure on them to now be the holy grail of boyfriends. And a former sex worker, like myself, and successful independent etc has very high expectations. After meeting soooo many men, I know exactly what level I want & need. Most men cannot deal with not being needed, but wanted.

From my life experience anyway.

With this statement, You nailed it on the head And yes it has to do with life experiences. Excellent Post !!

 

[kkelso]

Most men cannot deal with not being needed, but wanted.

From my life experience anyway.

Amen to that. We do grow into that, but it takes a long long time. Well said.

KK

 

[Titalian]

If we are going to talk about any women, may they be civie or other wise I always refer to
this song. Lets be realistic, they are opposites, Foremost physiologically, as well as physically.
Most of you younger guys need to work with this to your benefit. And that does not mean becoming
less of a man. What ever that means !

 

[Chloë.]

Well, I wasn't successful as I was looking for more than sex. But here's the advice that I received and how I got to where I am:

- I had women friends in my target demographic choose my profile photo and edit my profile text (they chose very differently than I would have)
- I can write a decent e-mail, which women expect to be confident, funny, light, and maybe a little flirty
- Most messages cute women get on dating sites are variations on "wanna f*ck?"
- I enjoy the back & forth of getting to know someone in writing
- I only meet someone for a date when i have gotten to know them and they are more than ready to meet me
- My first dates are intended to impress, and show respect - not frugality
- I always approach a first date as if she might end up being the love of my life - what do I have to lose by doing so?

So that's what I like. The ladies here can comment whether that sounds effective or not.

KK

It's highly effective.

I think more women in our society are used to meeting someone and finding things out about them, when they actually meet (which really voids the most important foreplay of all = the emotional/intellectual build up before the date). Some men don't really take the time to really get to know a woman past her stats, education, location and relationship status. I mean there is so much under the surface attributes, many beautiful things waiting to be discovered.

With the highly saturated influx of NSA encounters and one night stands, it's like we've become conditioned to expect less courtship, even if it is what we desire.

Chivalry isn't really dead but it's definitely become quite the anomaly.

Being one of the few gentleman who insists upon it does get you quite far with the right women, I think. Because then again, not all women get how important that is.

 

[Jicama]

OP, please share your online dating tips for getting an 80% success rate with online dating.

1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

 

[Titalian]

1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

When meeting any woman, be yourself, Hopefully respectful, honest, polite, in other words a gentleman.
There is nothing more attractive to a woman but that. If not ! Move on.

 

[oil&gas]

A gentleman is just a patient wolf.

 

[Titalian]

A gentleman is just a patient wolf.

There are female wolfs :eyebrows:.

 

[kherg007]

Thanks for coming back to the dark side! We have better cookies anyway .

mmmmmm.....Chloe cookies.....(to be spoken like Homer Simpson)...

 

[Powpow]

It's highly effective.

I think more women in our society are used to meeting someone and finding things out about them, when they actually meet (which really voids the most important foreplay of all = the emotional/intellectual build up before the date). Some men don't really take the time to really get to know a woman past her stats, education, location and relationship status. I mean there is so much under the surface attributes, many beautiful things waiting to be discovered.

With the highly saturated influx of NSA encounters and one night stands, it's like we've become conditioned to expect less courtship, even if it is what we desire.

Chivalry isn't really dead but it's definitely become quite the anomaly.

Being one of the few gentleman who insists upon it does get you quite far with the right women, I think. Because then again, not all women get how important that is.

I find your post quite insightful. Thinking about it a bit more, I realized you could actually take your quote, swap the genders, and replace "chivalry" with "feminine charm" it would apply.

 

[gack]

Haha that's what came to my mind too! I am that definition he gave. And I thought, hmm, a retired sex worker.

I'm still single despite all of those qualities. Mostly because most men can't handle the holy grail when they find it. Because it throws pressure on them to now be the holy grail of boyfriends. And a former sex worker, like myself, and successful independent etc has very high expectations. After meeting soooo many men, I know exactly what level I want & need. Most men cannot deal with not being needed, but wanted.

From my life experience anyway.

Heeeyyyy..... So... Uh... How YOU doin'?

 

[slydevil]

Basically the definition of a well reviewed, retired sex worker lol.

This.

One of my best friends is married to a retired sex-worker and his is one of the most functional, happy marriages I've seen. I'm envious of the emotional maturity, honesty and intelligence that holds them together.