RANT: BBFS inquiries - who are these losers??

[FlorenceYi]

Seriously, why is this a thing now? Are sps everywhere offering this as a 'service'? This is just morally unsound to partake in this, even if it is a preference! Why are there SO many requests/questions regarding BBFS? Not to mention these guys will never reveal who they are. I ask them where they saw my ad and radio silence - could it be because they KNOW they shouldn't even be asking for it? Can we start a thread for blacklisting any numbers who inquire about bbfs? (Obviously they are only texters). Yes, I know there is a SP-only thread for BLACKLISTING purposes, but I felt I had to hear from both sides and am posting in general lounge to know what both sides have to say on this matter. I only advertise on certain platforms so ladies - do you find these inquiries only come from a certain platform? Feel free to PM me.

I just did a search on 'BBFS' and discovered several sps who have to advertise that they do not offer this service which just goes to show that it is requested or inquired about often enough for it to have to be on someone's ad. Seriously, WHY? I am so bothered by this as an sp coming back into the industry. This never used to happen before, and if it did it would be a huge FAUX PAS. Firstly, as an sp, if a client is asking me for bbfs I would NEVER feel safe to engage in any sexual activities with him - EW, so fking gross. It's not a judgment on wanting bbfs - but looking for it HERE? Huge turn off. This client who goes around asking for this service, im sure its a numbers game until someone or several sps say YES.

Ladies - do I literally have to put on my ad 'NO BBFS'? I thought this was common sense. Literally, COMMON sense. I understand 'consensual' on both sides. I get it, greek is a service, but it's not one I offer. But bbfs?? This is just wrong. This is coming from someone who thoroughly prefers BBFS with personal partners who I have grown comfortable/monogamous with!! It's just not safe to do so when engaging in activity with multiple partners.

In the short time I have been back I have gotten about 5-7 different numbers inquiring about BBFS. WHYYYYYYY!!!

Are people not caring as much anymore about potentially catching/spreading STIs? Are we going back to hippie ages? Is the industry changing in such a way that I missed while away for a few years?? Are people just more vocal about wanting it or more fearless about requesting it whereas before there was more common courtesy?? Is this younger people? Older people? Please - I need some light shone on this matter!!

 

[Spacealien2]

I never partake. But I do know SPs who do at $500 / hr. Many who'll do it cheaper.

 

[squeezer]

Unfortunately it's happening more and more. Many girls will let their guard down with regulars and protest stating they never do if confronted. It's like rimming, the ones that do and there are a few do not advertise it but do offer it to keep their regulars happy and coming back. It's a game of Russian Roulette.

 

[curr3n_c1000]

Someone probably gave a fake recommendation in exchange for some real information.

It happens.

 

[rhuarc29]

I don't know why anyone would do this in the industry. Not only do you put your personal health at risk, but you are putting dozens of others at risk as well. As a client, you will be putting your SO at risk (if you have one), any other personal partner you have, and all the clients of the SP you are engaging in unsafe practices with, including the ones who DO engage in safer practices, as well as obviously the SP. As an SP, you are putting every single one of your clients at risk. Why? Why risk it? It's a huge gamble, and if you lose, you lose bad, and so do others.

The times I have been offered BBFS are relatively rare, but when it happens I never see that lady again. And I'm sure plenty of others do the same.

 

[luvyeah]

I tried to book a duo with well known SPs and was told by the other they ended their relationship after she found out she engaged in bbfs.
Whether it was true or just an lie, I'll never know.
Just because a girl is high end doesn't mean shit - in fact I would argue they do it more, its quick and easy money.
They can also rationalize it better given they have less partners - why not hold onto the big spenders?
NO REVIEW POLICY, what do you think that is for?

Desperation breeds this kind of behavior, you will never know for sure, but if an SP is not financially stable that would be a big red flag.
Some people can always be bought, it just a matter of price.
I don't see any real way to combat it besides refusing to partake, getting checked regularly and blacklisting. The bad apples always ruin the bunch.

Please keep AIDS to yourself.

 

[Prentice]

Its not just prevalent, its rampant. Always has and probably always will - you just don't hear about this underside of the business.

I joined a bbfs forum awhile ago for the specific reason of knowing who to avoid. It was shocking how many well known agency and indy SPs were listed. Of course, you have to take those reviews with a grain of salt and its all hearsay, but I have known a few regulars who told me first hand how many requests they get including the pressure from regulars. Makes you wonder. One lady who advertised on eros in NYC (now retired) told me it was almost always expected which is why many high-end ladies charge those exorbitant rates. It's unfortunate that this industry is driven by risk vs. reward with the risks to your health simply being too high. Be safe people.

 

[TeeJay]

I never partake. But I do know SPs who do at $500 / hr. Many who'll do it cheaper.

Chinatown is usually a $20 upgrade
$500 is pretty steep

 

[GameBoy27]

I'm guessing if you ask enough SPs and you offer enough money, you're bound to find ones that will say yes to BBFS. Then there's the guys who practice "stealthing" while changing positions. There's a lot of stupid people in this world, both men and women. Don't try to figure them out.

 

[Euro Male]

Sorry, not getting it! Why is the 'BBFS' thing suddenly such a SHOCKER???

Never really been into the escort circuit, always been more a stripper, spa-girl, shemale, domina/femdom guy, so maybe I'm totally missing something.

Glossing over threads over the years . . . . . .

20 YRS AGO - CBJ
15 YRS AGO - BBBJ
10 YRS AGO - BBBJTC
_5 YRS AGO - BBBJTCWS

TODAY - BB_______


______________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

[SchlongConery]

People do all kinds of things with dismissing the potential consequences as they don't think that far ahead.

Texting and driving, spending more money than they earn, gambling, smoking etc etc.

 

[lomotil]

In the short time I have been back I have gotten about 5-7 different numbers inquiring about BBFS. WHYYYYYYY!!!

Are people not caring as much anymore about potentially catching/spreading STIs? Are we going back to hippie ages? Is the industry changing in such a way that I missed while away for Please - I need some light shone on this matter!!

The frequency of the request should suggest to you that the practice is more common than you think and that you possibly have already serviced customers who are doing this with other sexworkers. Reasons why providers might do it maybe because of competition, substance abuse problems, mental health issues, ignorance or they are at a health status where they feel it does not matter anymore and similar parallels can be drawn for the behaviour of their customers. Obviously some people will never ever do this but others have their own filters and justifications for doing this.
For as a provider to be astonished about this is itself astonishing especially if you are seeing a diverse clientele. The world is a very big where anything goes.

 

[shack]

Reasons why providers might do it maybe because of competition, substance abuse problems, mental health issues, ignorance or they are at a health status where they feel it does not matter anymore and similar parallels can be drawn for the behaviour of their customers.

Or maybe the SP is so horny and turned on by the prowess and/or size of the client that she just can't resist getting it in there as quick as possible and the condom would take too long. "Please give me your cock. I need it right now. Pleeease"

 

[hamermill]

The palm sisters have never refused my request so I don’t need to go anywhere else.

When sister Right is on the rag I go to sister Left.

In my younger days I would partake in duos alternating be sister left and sister right.

Back in the day I would use both sister left and sister right at the same time.

 

[lomotil]

Or maybe the SP is so horny and turned on by the prowess and/or size of the client that she just can't resist getting it in there as quick as possible and the condom would take too long. "Please give me your cock. I need it right now. Pleeease"

In my post I tried to address this in mentioning mental health issues.

 

[brazilianguy]

Sorry, not getting it! Why is the 'BBFS' thing suddenly such a SHOCKER???

Never really been into the escort circuit, always been more a stripper, spa-girl, shemale, domina/femdom guy, so maybe I'm totally missing something.

Glossing over threads over the years . . . . . .

20 YRS AGO - CBJ
15 YRS AGO - BBBJ
10 YRS AGO - BBBJTC
_5 YRS AGO - BBBJTCWS

TODAY - BB_______


______________________________________________________________________________________________________

........ lmao

 

[koreanjames]

Lol!!

the palm sisters have never refused my request so i don’t need to go anywhere else.

When sister right is on the rag i go to sister left.

In my younger days i would partake in duos alternating be sister left and sister right.

Back in the day i would use both sister left and sister right at the same time.

 

[roger20]

Ummmmm, how is this shocking news? Many people, SPs included, engage in one night stands without condoms all the time so what's the difference? This industry isn't exactly regulated, anyone can call themselves a SP and do whatever they want so like in the screening thread, set your rules, abide by them and ignore anything else.

You're your own best advocate so act accordingly... There's always going to be guys who request it and girls who provide it.

 

[shack]

In my post I tried to address this in mentioning mental health issues.

Sorry. I didn't read close enough between the lines. LOL

 

[kherg007]

Well...self regulation of the industry is key, if it wishes to be left alone. If an epidemic or something like that happens, the federales will jump in and it will all come a guster....(i.e., they'll come down on everyone - clients and sp's - like a ton of bricks). So all parties bear responsibility here.