Well, without trying to get too scientific and bore the hell outta everyone, let's start with my particular "problem".kiarra said:Kathy,
While I agree with most of what you are saying, how would you suggest the issue get dicussed? The conversation needs to start some where. Kiarra
Melanin..a skin pigment found in "ALL" of us. Nature instilled it in us to protect against the sun's ultraviolet rays. Mine is "visible" due to my ancestors living in the very sun drenched, hot climate and nature passing this innate protection along whether it's needed or not. Your European and colder climate ancestors didn't have the need, and yours only come to surface when needed (tanning on the beach...sitting under UV rays in a tanning salon..etc). So, what does all that have to do with Blacks "behaving" in a certain manner v/s Whites (sticking with skin color for the moment)?
Absolutely nothing!! There are Blacks in every part of the world as there are Whites in every part of the world. A European Black will act and sound European ie Lennox Lewis..Heavyweight Champ. He's British...period. Happens to be Black. There's a lot of them over there..no big deal.
Our last US census counted (undercounted..different conversation) 40 million Blacks in this country. There were lawyers, doctors, students, business professionals (such as myself), farmers, factory workers...just like the 193 million Whites that were counted. Again..no big deal.
The problem comes when people try to draw conclusions on what they see "visibly" based primarily on unsupported myths and, God help us, the media. TV portrayed Blacks in the roles of pimps, pushers and players in the 60s & 70s..., hell, those were the only roles we could get in Hollywood, so it's been portrayed and obviously believed. Aggressive, angry and illiterate, that's the perception.
You think out of 40 million Blacks in this country alone, there might be 1 or 2 that don't fit that model? Hell, Canada's entire population was 33 million in your 2001 census. Believe it or not, there are still some people in my country that think all Canadians are riding around on dog sleds living in igloos. Misperceptions are a bitch!! lol.
Ok, so where am I going with this...I can't begin to change people's misperceptions and bias'. There are good and bad in every color..every nationality, religion..etc. If...and I say if, there are a million (big number) aggressive, angry and illiterate Black Americans...what do you say about the other 39 million? If there are 5 million of the same White Americans (keep it proportional), what do you say to the other 188 million? What about the rest of the world? Do you really think your experiences provided a fair sampling of data to draw conclusions such as the stereotypes given in this thread?
I couldn't begin to categorize all Southern Whites from my country as being cross burning, lynching racists...I'd be wrong as hell. And I've got dead relatives in graves to support my bad ass theory!! But what did I say..193 million Whites, 30 million living in the South. There could be 100,000 that would hate my guts to look at me, but why the hell would I say "ALL" Southern Whites are...... It doesn't fly. I've got to take each "person" on their own merits. If they prove to be an *******...so be it, life goes on. That's one. If I run into 100 assholes, bad luck, but again..life goes on. I can't condemn all Whites saying "What a bunch of racist assholes". Jesus, there's 193 million in this country and I ran into 100 that hates me...big shit!
So, back to our Hobby. Escorts, think what you will, for whatever reason you give it. If you feel a certain way and don't want to serve Blacks, Hispanics, Asians, East Indians..etc., that's your business. There are way too many Escorts that will for it to be a concern. If it was a restaurant or apartments, I'd be on a picket line joining the boycott. But as Indies, this is your private business and it's personal..albeit you charge for the services. All I say is that you advertise that fact to advise the potential "Horney" client not to even call. A rejection such as "I don't do Blacks" even on the phone is very hurtful, not to mention if you make it all the way to the door! Again, if you don't want to see me...I sure don't want to blow a grand on you!! That's only fair.
I STILL LOVE THIS HOBBY!!
Cheers