Hi guys need some help. Ive been addicted to escorts for 10 years and am deperatly trying to quit. I have now ability to talk to to woman and can only see escorts. Anyone have any advise on stopping. Also i have a shrink but all he wants to do is medicate me
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Please don’t doubt yourself. Yes, you can talk to women, escort are women too lol. Get it?
What do the medications do?
What do the medications do?
Why can’t you talk to women? I suggest you get off all the internet crap. It ain’t good. Join the gym, get some sports or hobbies you like. Females will come when you show interest, confidence in yourself. You can be the biggest nerd but if you present well there will be a nerd girl for you too.
As for stopping just stop. I’m sure seeing these ads all day doesn’t help. Go out get a drink, the longer you wait the better it’ll be.
As for stopping just stop. I’m sure seeing these ads all day doesn’t help. Go out get a drink, the longer you wait the better it’ll be.
You're going to have to develop a thick skin or else live with being constantly cock blocked. Raj couldn't talk to women.
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Shrinks are meant to give meds. If you want to talk to someone to help you get coping mechanisms, you need to see a counsellor.
Sorry to hear about your issues. I get it…. Since it’s Spring, let me explain something to you in gardening terms.
Our lives are gardens. The good and the bad. The pretty flowers…. The so-so shrubs…. And the ugliness. The weeds!
Sometimes the weeds in our lives take over… so we use tools like “the power of positive thinking” and run the mower over the weeds, and for a little bit, the garden looks great! But after a little while, those weeds grow back (often pretty fast too), and we are right back to our chaotic garden again.
Everything in your life is rooted in something. From your politics, to your fav sports team, to your favourite whiskey. Maybe your dad hated Pierre Trudeau, loved the Blue Jays, and took you fishing up north a few times, and got drunk every Sat night and beat the shit out of you and your mom. Maybe dad told you he loved you…. Maybe dad told you that you were useless, and would always be a fucking idiot. All these things leave deep roots in our lives.
These are all “roots” in our lives. The good, bad, and even the mundane. You can’t fix the past…. But you can deal with it, and learn to manage how it affects you. Identify the weeds in you life. Self Confidence. Substance abuse. Abusing others. Figure out how that root got there…. And dig it out once and for all.
For example… MorningS in my house when the kids were little used to be hell. The kids never wanted to get out of bed, we’re chronically late for school… and I would scream at them like a lunatic often making the crazy threats that young parents make.
Then one day I kind of sat back and said “this is nuts”. It had to change. So the next morning I simply walked upstairs to kids bedrooms, said “good morning, I’m making waffles” and walked downstairs. They got up, got dressed, and had breakfast, and got to school on time with no issue.
I didn’t fix the past…. I just dealt with it. Changed it. Mornings were better after that. I wasn’t reliving my mom screaming at me every morning any more.
There is a reason you don’t have confidence to talk to girls. It’s also an easy fix. Truth is, girls like to be talked too. They actually love the attention. Figure out how that root got there. Examine how you were treated by mom and dad. How you were treated in school. Examine if it made sense. Should kids be picked on like that? No? Well, how should you have been treated.
Kids need to be build like a house. Solid foundations of Love. Support. Encouragement. Skill development (sports, or art, or dance, or music). Do you have that foundation? If not, figure out how to repair it. Counselling is great.
anyways…. When you weed the garden, don’t just cut the weeds off from the top. If you don’t get the root, the problems grow back.
Our lives are gardens. The good and the bad. The pretty flowers…. The so-so shrubs…. And the ugliness. The weeds!
Sometimes the weeds in our lives take over… so we use tools like “the power of positive thinking” and run the mower over the weeds, and for a little bit, the garden looks great! But after a little while, those weeds grow back (often pretty fast too), and we are right back to our chaotic garden again.
Everything in your life is rooted in something. From your politics, to your fav sports team, to your favourite whiskey. Maybe your dad hated Pierre Trudeau, loved the Blue Jays, and took you fishing up north a few times, and got drunk every Sat night and beat the shit out of you and your mom. Maybe dad told you he loved you…. Maybe dad told you that you were useless, and would always be a fucking idiot. All these things leave deep roots in our lives.
These are all “roots” in our lives. The good, bad, and even the mundane. You can’t fix the past…. But you can deal with it, and learn to manage how it affects you. Identify the weeds in you life. Self Confidence. Substance abuse. Abusing others. Figure out how that root got there…. And dig it out once and for all.
For example… MorningS in my house when the kids were little used to be hell. The kids never wanted to get out of bed, we’re chronically late for school… and I would scream at them like a lunatic often making the crazy threats that young parents make.
Then one day I kind of sat back and said “this is nuts”. It had to change. So the next morning I simply walked upstairs to kids bedrooms, said “good morning, I’m making waffles” and walked downstairs. They got up, got dressed, and had breakfast, and got to school on time with no issue.
I didn’t fix the past…. I just dealt with it. Changed it. Mornings were better after that. I wasn’t reliving my mom screaming at me every morning any more.
There is a reason you don’t have confidence to talk to girls. It’s also an easy fix. Truth is, girls like to be talked too. They actually love the attention. Figure out how that root got there. Examine how you were treated by mom and dad. How you were treated in school. Examine if it made sense. Should kids be picked on like that? No? Well, how should you have been treated.
Kids need to be build like a house. Solid foundations of Love. Support. Encouragement. Skill development (sports, or art, or dance, or music). Do you have that foundation? If not, figure out how to repair it. Counselling is great.
anyways…. When you weed the garden, don’t just cut the weeds off from the top. If you don’t get the root, the problems grow back.
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Wow sounds like you read "emotional fitness discovering our natural healing power - Janice Berger" and " a guide to the good life: the ancient art of stoic joy - William B Irvine.
The latter I got from someone posting here.
Good luck in finding your root cause. Acceptance is also the key.
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I think there would be a lot of guys who have ED that would love to use Magical Craft to transfer or switch Bobtubby energy of his Wonker to theirs.
It's like quitting smoking. The first whiff of a cigarette and you'll crumble.
The first night of loneliness and watching porn will have you scourering Leolist or seeing who's working late at an agency like SFT or TP. Checking out schedules. Trying NOT to log on here and reading reviews. You will empty your bank account and get depressed because you've spent so much money on fake love; or what you think is love, compassion and or just caring. And the ladies will carry on with their trade. Fucking multiple men in a day. Posting "intellectual quips". Posting their fancy dinner or out with their fellow ho's on a girl's night out. A dinner out with a wealthy client who just spent thousands on a dinner and an overnight appointment in a fancy hotel or his high-end condo. And you'll be sitting there wondering why you're such a failure. You're not.
Take this for what it is. You pay to have a woman's company. If she's good at her trade, she will make you feel like a King, then move on to the next lady and so on and so on. Don't get stuck on one. Have a roster. A rotation. Be good to yourself,, because when your money is gone, they will be too.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
The first night of loneliness and watching porn will have you scourering Leolist or seeing who's working late at an agency like SFT or TP. Checking out schedules. Trying NOT to log on here and reading reviews. You will empty your bank account and get depressed because you've spent so much money on fake love; or what you think is love, compassion and or just caring. And the ladies will carry on with their trade. Fucking multiple men in a day. Posting "intellectual quips". Posting their fancy dinner or out with their fellow ho's on a girl's night out. A dinner out with a wealthy client who just spent thousands on a dinner and an overnight appointment in a fancy hotel or his high-end condo. And you'll be sitting there wondering why you're such a failure. You're not.
Take this for what it is. You pay to have a woman's company. If she's good at her trade, she will make you feel like a King, then move on to the next lady and so on and so on. Don't get stuck on one. Have a roster. A rotation. Be good to yourself,, because when your money is gone, they will be too.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
Thank you this requires lots of work to get a normal life i need to focus. If i wasent doing this i wouldve had house and travelled most of the carribean by now
If you don’t mind, ask your shrink the purpose of the medication. I am curious to know.
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this has to have side effects - and likely will effect mood. ie serotonin levels in a negative way.
all addiction is childhood trauma related. have u had therapy @ all from a licensed trained professional?
Why would you want to quit - moderation mate. You need to set limits and abide by them. I would love to see SP's every week - its not happening instead - allocate a monthly allowance on the beautiful women and the rest - enjoy movies, start working out, learn an instrument, cooking classes - whatever you fancy. You will find out how busy you are and you will then enjoy your monthly escapades. Believe it or not - you can control it - the question is do you really want to.
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Are you serious about quitting? Erectile dysfunction will force you to quit. Maybe take the meds?
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