Questions about Internet Dating

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leah_mpa

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Today, I was over at my friend's house... not really doing anything special... just the usual... hanging out, watching DVDs, pigging out, gossiping... when all of a sudden, my friend says, "OH!!!... I have something to show you." She disappears for like 5 seconds, comes back all excited with her laptop, and turns it on. She types away for several minutes and then, shows me this picture of this guy from one of those internet dating sites. Can't remember if it's "uniformdating.com" or "militaryfriends.com". (She has a 'thing' for men in uniforms... mainly firefighters.) And she tells me how they've been e-mailing each other for almost a month now. Anyways, we decide to browse through some of the other pictures,... just for fun,... when "BAM" I spotted this guy who was SOOOOO TOTALLY HOT!!!!! My eyes almost popped out of my head and I almost stopped breathing. Like honestly... I almost had an orgasm just looking at his picture. :D NEVER have I seen such a beautiful man before in my life!!! (Actually, I'm just a WEE bit exaggerating here but you know... gotta add some drama once in a while.) So anyways... that kinda makes me suspicious... what's a gorgeous guy like that doing on some internet dating site? This can't be for real! Probably behind the screen, it's some ugly-looking 1000 year old troll with bony fingers typing away.... pretending to be this gorgeous hunk. Or maybe it IS him.... just 965 yrs ago!!! I just absolutely REFUSE to believe that this guy is single and available. Like... I DON'T THINK SO!!!! And when I read his profile and what he wants in a GF... I TOTALLY matched his description 100 percent!!!! And he totally match what I want in to BF too!!!! It's just too good to be true IMO. And what I've learned from past experience is that what often seems to good to be true... usually is. Maybe he has a small weenie, or he has a weenie that can't get up. Or maybe, he's a 1 minute man. Or maybe, he's got some sort of incurable illness. Or maybe he's already got a wife and kids but is just looking for some fun on the side.

So anyways, here's some questions I want to ask all you terbites because I'm new to all this internet dating stuff but want to try it... seems like a fun way (also a dangerous way) to meet people...

1) How truthful do you think these people are about their stats?
2) Do you think they're really looking for someone serious to spend the rest of their lives with? or are they just looking for some fun?
3) How truthful should I be about MY stats?
4) How truthful should I be about my whacking job? Tell, or no tell?

Oh.... BTW... To all terbites who are considering internet dating... one word of advice.... POST A PICTURE!!!! We (meaning me and all my whacker friends who go on these sites) ONLY look at profiles with a picture... So having your picture there increases your chances by 5,000,000,000 percent. We're not gonna waste our time reading through all the profiles there are. We have 50 million sites to scope out you know...

Oh.... and another thing... I just found out today that most whackers are registered on this site called "fitzen.com" (another internet dating site) So if you want to avoid dating a possible whacker... don't go there!!!! I must admit though.... they DO have a lot of members so your chances of finding someone you like there is quite high.

Anyways... any other advice about internet dating before I start? Or things I should be aware of and know about? Maybe I'll finally find my "someone special".... (Or at least having fun trying....)

And who knows.... maybe I'll end up with a fellow Terbite without even knowing..... From what I gather.... there's a lot of you on these sites too!!!
 
:eek: Gee... that was fast!!! One terbite interested already??!!! Hmmm..... not so fast.... Where's your picture?
 
leah_mpa said:
1) How truthful do you think these people are about their stats?
2) Do you think they're really looking for someone serious to spend the rest of their lives with? or are they just looking for some fun?
3) How truthful should I be about MY stats?
4) How truthful should I be about my whacking job? Tell, or no tell?

Anyways... any other advice about internet dating before I start? Or things I should be aware of and know about? Maybe I'll finally find my "someone special".... (Or at least having fun trying....)
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1)Most guys will exagerrate their height by a couple inches. Especially if they're 5'10" or 5'11", they'll say they're 6'0".
2)Anyone who needs to use the internet to find a date has some issues.
3)Honesty is the best policy. They'll find out sooner or later anyway.
4)Tell.

I would advise you to just have fun. The odds of finding the right person from an ad in the internet personals is remote. But you never know. Good luck.
 
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leah_mpa said:
1) How truthful do you think these people are about their stats?
2) Do you think they're really looking for someone serious to spend the rest of their lives with? or are they just looking for some fun?
3) How truthful should I be about MY stats?
4) How truthful should I be about my whacking job? Tell, or no tell?
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1) Some people are truthful, some are not. Such is life.
2) Both, some are sincere, some are players.
3) 100%. It shows you have integrity and you will not have to do some explaining should you meet someone in person in the future.
4) How many million messages do you want to filter through on any given day.

stinkynuts said:
2)Anyone who needs to use the internet to find a date has some issues.
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I declare bullshit. In a short period of time I have found a decent girlfriend who has it all together. Chances are, that on a dating site, the person is looking for some type of "relationship" or other. Should you try to meet someone in a public place there is more of a hit or miss factor. You never know when approaching a woman in a bar if she is somebodies wife or girlfriend.

Now mail order brides on the other hand, I think you gotta have some issues if you're going that route.:p

stinkynuts said:
I would advise you to just have fun. The odds of finding the right from an in internet personals is remote. But you never know. Good luck.
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I agree somewhat, having fun is the key. I think finding the right person is probable, but you will have to trudge through a lot of shit first.

Good luck.
 
A little background:

I've been into internet dating for about 8 - 10 yrs, met hundreds of people (men and women) and was a major organizer for parties from another site. We've held parties in: toronto, montreal, rochester, las vegas, atlantic city, denver, cinncinati, New Hampshire, New York etc etc

My take is:
Men are (on average) more honest than women when it comes to physical features. This includes fake/old pics and untrue stats (mainly weight).

Women are more honest about what they want but are (for the most part) unreasonable in their desires. They want the perfect man (ITHO) and will not even chat with someone who doesn't meet that criteria. (hence the words "not settling"). They all "love to laugh" and really who doesn't? I've het to meet anyone who "hates to laugh". I mean really, have you ever heard someone say "that bastard, asshole I met on _____, Dickhead kept making me laugh, I SO hate that..."

Oh yeah, they also love "long walks on the beach". So, I live near cherry beach, and like, with all these women who love "long walks on the beach", you'd think it would be more crowded than the DVP at rush hour....



1) How truthful do you think these people are about their stats?
Men= more accurate
WOmen = more inaccurate

If this guy is as hot as you say, the pic is fake. If you've seen that TV ad for lavalife, I mean, in 10 yrs I've never met ANYONE (male or female) that even closely resembles those people).

2) Do you think they're really looking for someone serious to spend the rest of their lives with? or are they just looking for some fun?

Some are and some aren't. I'd say for the most part, about 50% of the guys, like in real life, are looking for someone special. Like in real life, you will get the players and the regular guys. Problem is, most women go for the players.....

3) How truthful should I be about MY stats?

If you're not honest, then what do you hope to accomplish? If you meet someone based on "fake stats" then you will be doomed because if he is looking for someone with your "fake stats", he won't be happy with the truth. Do you really want a relationship based on lies?

4) How truthful should I be about my whacking job? Tell, or no tell?

It all depends on how open minded your future partner is and what your long term goals are. If you plan on doing this as a long term career choice, then not only do you have to find a nice guy (if that is what you're looking for) but he also has to have a very open mind. Let me ask you this: would YOU mind if your guy did daty on women for money?

I will tell you a story about someone with fake stats:

I met her online. We pm'd for about 3 weeks, exchanged phone #'s and talked almost daily for about a month. Decided to meet (she lived in FLA) so I paid for a flight for her to come here. Father had a heart attack so she couldn't make it.

We decided that I would go there, so I booked airfare, hotel, car to the tune of about $1100.00. Spoke about how great it would be to finally meet etc. right up to the night before I was to leave. Then I couldn't get in touch with her.

So, since the flight was non-refundable I went anyways. BTW the hotel I booked had fireplace, 2 bedrooms, jacuzzi, not a cheap room.

I arrived, called her again from the Hotel, no answer.

So, thinking, wtf do I do now? Then I remembered she had sent me her home address because I sent her flowers on valentine's day. So I look up the confirmation email on my laptop, get her address, buy a map and find her place.

Knock on the door and who answers? A girl 4 times the size, different hair colour, and totally not even close to her photo. So her jaw drops when she sees me.

I'm a little pissed/hurt but I say to her: WTF do you think you were doing? She said: well, it kind of got outta hand. I was just chatting for kicks then things got serious and she didn't hall the balls to be honest.

I said to her: I'm not threatening you in any way, BUT, there are guys on the net who would freak out over your dishonesty and most likely would do some serious damage to you. If you're doing this to anyone else, STOP now else you might get serious hurt or worse.....

Anyhow, after meeting about 200 women, at parties and in person, I'd say 1 in 50 is honest.....

BTW here's a little info for you, the left is what women state in their ad, the right is what the truth is:

Weight:
average = 20 lbs overweight
slim/petite = average or 10 lbs overweight
a few extra pounds = 60 lbs overweight or bbw

(btw, I have yet to find an ad for someone who says they are BBW)

Looks:
Considered pretty = pretty ugly

Height
5-6 = 5-0

measurements
34C - 24 - 34 = 34b 42 56

hair Colour

Blond = Blond (this week, next week, who knows?)
 
I met a Woman online a few years ago that posted a picture of herself that was at least 8 years old (when she was thin). She still had a pretty face mind you, so I tried to get a BJ out of it. She gave me a HJ and licked my dick, but said she wanted to wait for the next date before we went all the way. I DID NOT answer her phone calls after that. LOL

I have met some pretty attractive girls online, nothing long term as of yet. But some good experiences none the less.
 
need some imput.

i posted my profile on plentyoffish.com...it is.... mickey810. been on there 1 week. sent message to about 100 ladies it says I would like to meet , you sound great. No responses yet. My hight is 5'6". I know this is a big turn off to 99% of women but wtf.:eek:
 
loblaws dating is much better
go there and randomly chat up 9-10 potential mates each visit
do this at least 100 times and you'll get laid at least once

that's for men, for women it will probably take only 1 or 2 chat-ups at the most
 
There’s nothing wrong with Internet dating. It doesn’t mean desperate. Not everyone lies in their profile although some do.

I would be honest because if you’re interested in a relationship, it’s not wise to start with a lie. But I wouldn’t be forthcoming about your MPA (whacker) job.

I would wait until a good time to spring it on him.

If I were you, I’d persue the pretty boy if that’s what you want. There is a chance it could be a fake pic but you will never know until you go after it.

I would give him the benefit of the doubt until you suspect that he is a liar and then I would bolt.
 
BTW, a lot of those fake pics on dating sites are posted by the website themselves as bait to get people to sign up. It is a very common practice, but not one they will openly admit to.

Can't blame them really, there are far too many gawkers and time wasters on dating sites. If 10 people sign up, only 1 out of those 10 will likely end up paying. If you are so cheap, why even register.
 
Mikehorn said:
Why did I click on that link? Why? Why? Why? :eek:
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Ha ha ha!!! Sorry Mikehorn... I should've put a "post-it" on our computer in our rabbit hole to warn you but I was blinded for a whole day after seeing that myself. Thanks Xarir!!!!
 
Cinema Face said:
If I were you, I’d persue the pretty boy if that’s what you want. There is a chance it could be a fake pic but you will never know until you go after it.
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MrLuvr said:
BTW, a lot of those fake pics on dating sites are posted by the website themselves as bait to get people to sign up. It is a very common practice, but not one they will openly admit to.
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Yeah.... That pretty boy's picture on that website's gotta be a fake. :( Probably the website themselves put it on so I'll sign up. It's a good gimmick though... it's worked!!! I AM going to sign up. But I'm not gonna contact him though. I just CAN'T make the first move. CAN'T...... I'm just not like that. I'm just not an aggressive person. So I guess I'll just sign up... and wait around for him to contact me. Hmmmmmm..... I have a feeling it's gonna be a long wait... more hmmmmmmm.................... still waiting.....

Oh well, you never know.... maybe someone else will contact me that I'll be interested in.
 
nominis said:
Rotflmao !
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Grrrrrr....... :mad: Are you laughing at me nominis??!!!! Hey..... I've gotta find a cute boy SOMEHOW!!!!!! Anybody know any? Just please..... No more pictures to make my eyes pop out of my head!!!! (Or Mikehorn's. Poor guy... he hasn't left our rabbit hole since yesterday... He's just staring into outer space right now.)
 
Hi leah_mpa!!!!!!!!!

What you should do is search and read all the posts by ricarghl you will learn everything there is to know about internet dating.




By the way, I wonder whatever happened with ricarghl, the shaved flip and orange panties?
 
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