Questions about dating an SP

[kenjo67]

This should really have two separate threads but I'm too lazy to.

1. I've been seeing an SP regularly and its been great. We have great report and tons of fun. I don't pay the full price anymore cuz I see her often enough and she really enjoys her time with me and vice-versa. She has hinted on seeing me for dinner and helping me out with moving and stuff but I'm not clear if she is hinting on seeing me outside of her occupation or if I'd be paying for her time. She has also joked about moving in too. I want to ask her what she means but afraid of offending her and if I did it may affect how we interact in the future and I don't wanna ruin a good thing. Plus I'm not sure if I wanna date an SP cuz I'm selfish and never like to share. What to do?

2. If I were going to date an SP... so there is this really beautiful woman at my gym. She's fit and intellegent and really funny. I've always wanted to ask her out but i have this personal rule about dating women in my gym since I spend a lot of time there. I've done this before and it makes for awkward situations if things don't work out (no pun intended). Everyone in the gym knows you're dating her and if you break up and she's flirting with other guys its just a lot of drama cuz everyone knows the deal.. any ways... so I talk to this woman everytime I see her at the gym and we get a long. Very tempted to ask her out, then... one of the other regulars tells me she's an SP and gives me a link. and to my surprise there she is... damn so hot. Now I'm torn. I'm really attracted to her both on the physical level and intellectual level. I don't think I want to date her cuz of my rules and maybe more so now that I know she is an SP (for the same reason stated above)... But because she is an SP now I really wanna have sex with her. What to do...? If I go out with her should I play dumb?

The phrase "Don't eat where you sleep" keeps coming to mind but oh the temptations!

 

[elmo]

Give us a link to the gym chick.

 

[kenjo67]

Sorry, for their privacy and my own I won't be sending a link. besides i posted this for advice not for a review.

 

[elmo]

Well it seems to me that you already know the answers...you may not like them but you do know them.

 

[BallzDeep]

As for situation one, even if you're not paying full price, you're still paying her it sounds like, don't worry about her feelings because it's a paid relationship, not a real one, tell her the deal and then it's up to her.

As for situation 2, that's a tough one, don't even know where to start with that one, if you ask her out, she says yes, you know she's an sp, but she doesn't know you know and might have to tell you something you already know, does that make sense.

If you see her as an sp, thet might be awkward at the gym as well, I wish I had your problems..........then again maybe not.

Good luck, this is gonna be a long thread, everyone's gonna have an opinion.

These girls can be colder than the other side of the pillow when it comes to guys.

 

[LexingtonJeremy]

1. Sp's aren't attracted to their clients. Sure, she could be. You could also jump off a 50 story building and survive. Hoping for anything more is just going to result in disappointment.

2. Why wouldn't you have sex with her? No one else is going to know. She'd want want discretion just as much as you, if not more.

Nice sig. pic btw. I love watching that girl get ruined by bbc's. And Shane Diesel has probably the second most enviable girth in porn, though he obviously pumps.

 

[Cycleguy007]

1. I've been seeing an SP regularly and its been great. We have great report and tons of fun. I don't pay the full price anymore cuz I see her often enough and she really enjoys her time with me and vice-versa.

This is dating? Hmmm seems more like a "frequency discount".

I'm just sayin...

 

[Mr. Lucky]

Kenjo67

Since when did you start dating my sister?!

 

[Rono]

I dated an SP last year for a couple of months. I was in it for the fun of it but felt uneasy thinking that when we were in public, former clients would recognize her. I had my fun then ended it. It was not for me, but you need to make your own decisions. SP or not, it would not have worked out with us. Fun time though while it lasted.

 

[kenjo67]

I dated an SP last year for a couple of months. I was in it for the fun of it but felt uneasy thinking that when we were in public, former clients would recognize her. I had my fun then ended it. It was not for me, but you need to make your own decisions. SP or not, it would not have worked out with us. Fun time though while it lasted.

Thats one of the things I'm worried about. I kow for a fact that some of my colleagues are terbies cuz they turned me onto the site so could you imagine bringing her as my gf to a company party? imagine if one fo my colleagues hit on her or offered her money for a bj in the coat room? I'd go off on them.. I mean I'd have to wouldn't I?

 

[elmo]

Thats one of the things I'm worried about. I kow for a fact that some of my colleagues are terbies cuz they turned me onto the site so could you imagine bringing her as my gf to a company party? imagine if one fo my colleagues hit on her or offered her money for a bj in the coat room? I'd go off on them.. I mean I'd have to wouldn't I?

Depends...if she gave him the bj for cash...you'd have to go off on her...or both...or get a cut...

 

[CapitalGuy]

You sound as though you have the maturity and worldliness of a 12-year old. Good fucking grief.

 

[hairyfucker]

no matter what we tell you, you will need to make your own decisions.

 

[james t kirk]

You sound as though you have the maturity and worldliness of a 12-year old. Good fucking grief.

I was thinking the same thing, especially given the grammar.

 

[Twinklegirl]

I was thinking the same thing, especially given the grammar.

Who cares about his worldliness and grammar? He's asking for advice, not for an English critique.

It's too messy. If you can't handle being the bf of a working SP, don't do it.

 

[eldoguy]

The good ones never leave the profession if so only temporary.

I have dated and had gf's that were and are in the business. You must separate facts and fiction, treat them as people who you enjoy their company it takes too much to manage mentally, if feelings get out of control time to bail, trust me, take a walk after the fun is over! Spare yourself the grief.

 

[kenjo67]

I have dated and had gf's that were and are in the business. You must separate facts and fiction, treat them as people who you enjoy their company it takes too much to manage mentally, if feelings get out of control time to bail, trust me, take a walk after the fun is over! Spare yourself the grief.

Thanks Eldoguy, I think your right. For myself, mentally managing the situation would be too taxing. Kudos to you as it seems you’ve done it a few times.

You sound as though you have the maturity and worldliness of a 12-year old. Good fucking grief.

Maturity and worldliness are accomplished through experience. My apologies to you if I have not the level of your experience, hence my request for advice. If you don’t want to share that experience fine but don’t spend time slamming someone because you feel superior.

I was thinking the same thing, especially given the grammar.

Gee Mr. Shatner, I was just hopin’ someone would talk me some good English sos I can learn to be gooder. :/

Who cares about his worldliness and grammar? He's asking for advice, not for an English critique.

It's too messy. If you can't handle being the bf of a working SP, don't do it.

Thanks Twinklegirl. I think you and eldo are right. Too messy and obviously requires a level of “maturity” I’m not yet prepared for.

 

[great bear]

Rule # 1. Do not date an SP with the intention of having an affair with her.

Rule # 2. It is fine to take an SP out to dinner, lunch with no expectation of having an affair with her.

Rule # 3 Do not date an SP

 

[MPAsquared]

I think you know in your gutt if you can handle dating an industry girl or not. Thats a black and white decision. Very little grey area. If it bothers you now, it will haunt you as things progress. If you "get it" and are confidant enough to know the difference between a client, a friend, and a boyfriend, then ask out both hot SP's!

I disagree with the comment that SP's (or MPA's in my case) aren't ever attracted to a client. Thats a load of bull! I have some hot clients, and some hot minded-clients, and some hot-in-action clients! I get horny knowing they are coming to see me just like you guys get all excited. We are human, money or no money....!!!

I think people at the gym or a company party would envy you, if she's that hot, they will wanna know how YOU were the one to score her for real!!?! Cuz believe me, alot of them have asked her out and she has said no. Being in the biz isnt a shameful thing. Maybe not something my mother would want to hear, but still!! You should walk into that Xmas party with a knockout on your arm! And if your relationship is real, she WONT be hustling your associates for work!!! We are real women guys, in a relationship we respect the man we are with! What would we fuck your brothers, dads, and friends too?? if its for money?? OH PLEASE! Give us some credit. Given the amount of industry girls that maintain healthy relationships, marriages and the-like that I know, believe me, its quite possible....

 

[CapitalGuy]

Maturity and worldliness are accomplished through experience. My apologies to you if I have not the level of your experience, hence my request for advice. If you don’t want to share that experience fine but don’t spend time slamming someone because you feel superior.

I didn't say a thing about me. That's all inferences on your part.

Its nothing to do with your experience levels; your view of women and men's relationships with them, is broken.