Excellent point. Some guys/gals are meant to connect regardless of how they first met.toolioiep said:She thought he would always see her as a dancer. Turns out he just ended up seeing her as perfect.
I'm not saying abandon your own personal rules - I'm just saying it might not be the best thing to paint every person with the same brush.
Question to SPs, Message Girls, & Dancers
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Didn't Jennifer Ann Cowles (dancer) married a male customer and was with child back in 2004? How is she doing now?
I believe that is the big mood killer to a relationship starting out from this industry. I think most ladies, not all, but most like a monogamous relationship and to meet a man using this service, makes it harder to believe that it would be.Bella6969 said:Its happened to me before ,, but i got out of the mind thought when it hit me that
1. he would never be able to deal with what i did
2. that he could be with other women ... as thats how WE met
but ...... i guess never say never
I know some women who have met their husbands this way and it was hard for them at first but they are happy now, but I think it is few and far between to meet your soul mate this way.
Liz
As they say all cercumstances are different...
I do freelance photography on the side. Last summer I asked a 40ish dancer to pose for me. She did. We laughed and joked through the whole session. To shorten this we dated for a couple of months. Sex is always there but our feels were far deeper than that. In the end it was her that couldn't handle the strain. We went our separate ways. I still wonder what if we'd just took the plunge. IF you don't ask you don't get the sale. I'll never know.
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Second quick story. Also true. A current dancer at CB went into the business after she was living with a guy. She has no menu. When there's an argument he just about always throughs what she does in her face. I'm afraid this relationship is going south because she can't take the pressure anymore.
My little contribution.
*********************Ashley Tyler said:
I do freelance photography on the side. Last summer I asked a 40ish dancer to pose for me. She did. We laughed and joked through the whole session. To shorten this we dated for a couple of months. Sex is always there but our feels were far deeper than that. In the end it was her that couldn't handle the strain. We went our separate ways. I still wonder what if we'd just took the plunge. IF you don't ask you don't get the sale. I'll never know.
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Second quick story. Also true. A current dancer at CB went into the business after she was living with a guy. She has no menu. When there's an argument he just about always throughs what she does in her face. I'm afraid this relationship is going south because she can't take the pressure anymore.
My little contribution.
Well put. Guys that see regular sps over a period of time can get to know them and they can get to know you very well. Getting to know who each other are is when reality becomes mixed with the fantasy. This is the danger zone as emotions become mixed with the physical enjoyment. If both people are on the same wave length it can be great but if only one is time to put a stop before someone gets really hurt. I for one know it can work out successfully.fridrikk said:
i dated a client once, and at first it was really cool. we both worked alot so it was ok to see eachother only a few times a month. we dated for about a year, and i really liked him, and i think he really liked me too. The only problem was he was really into the party scene, which im not into at all.
he ended up standing me up for an important family thing, which was hard enough for me to decide to invite him. i didnt hear from him until last thursday when he called me and appologized. i heard out his appology, wished him the best of luck and hung up the phone. I have still thought about him throughout the last year, wondering about him and what happened.
He is really good looking, has a great sense of humor and was very sophisticated. I just couldnt let myself see him again because in a way i would be betraying myself, which im mature enough now not to let happen. Im glad he called to say sorry, and im glad i was strong enough to deny the temptation. I learned a lesson in this; not to let my emotions take hold of me when im working because the chance of me getting hurt is too great.
now im seeing someone who knows me before i started in the business and he absolutely hates what i do, but he loves me, and i know i can rely on him and he has my best interests at heart.
he is part of the reason im retiring this year and continuing, yet again, my education. although im retirig mostly for my self and my own well being.
he ended up standing me up for an important family thing, which was hard enough for me to decide to invite him. i didnt hear from him until last thursday when he called me and appologized. i heard out his appology, wished him the best of luck and hung up the phone. I have still thought about him throughout the last year, wondering about him and what happened.
He is really good looking, has a great sense of humor and was very sophisticated. I just couldnt let myself see him again because in a way i would be betraying myself, which im mature enough now not to let happen. Im glad he called to say sorry, and im glad i was strong enough to deny the temptation. I learned a lesson in this; not to let my emotions take hold of me when im working because the chance of me getting hurt is too great.
now im seeing someone who knows me before i started in the business and he absolutely hates what i do, but he loves me, and i know i can rely on him and he has my best interests at heart.
he is part of the reason im retiring this year and continuing, yet again, my education. although im retirig mostly for my self and my own well being.
When I was much younger, I "fell" for a couple clients, but it never worked out. Perhaps I saw them for what they were more realistically than what they saw me for -- the problem always seemed to be that they expected me to be the same as I was as an SP for them for free. As an SP, it's my job to show up when it's convenient for them, never show up when it's not, wear what they want, do what they feel like doing, converse about what they feel like talking about. No wonder I seemed like their perfect mate!
But whenever I tried to take one of these relationships to a personal level, the problem always was that they didn't really like me. They were annoyed with my showing up when it was convenient for me to show up. Wearing what I felt like wearing. Talking about or wanting to do what I felt like. I had to conclude that they never really loved me -- they loved the SP they hired.
But that's not to say that there aren't guys who make me creamy with just the sound of their voice on the phone or the sight of their e-mail address. That still happens.
But I've learned to cherish what I get and never want more. Are there clients I'm in love with? Sure. When I'm with them. But I expect no more than that, nor do I want anymore than that. When it comes to what I want and need on a personal level, there's a lot more to consider than just those tingly feelings -- and luckily I've found someone perfect for me.
I'm just thankful for the joy and delight I'm lucky enough to get. Hopefully it's the same with the guys I see.
..c..
But whenever I tried to take one of these relationships to a personal level, the problem always was that they didn't really like me. They were annoyed with my showing up when it was convenient for me to show up. Wearing what I felt like wearing. Talking about or wanting to do what I felt like. I had to conclude that they never really loved me -- they loved the SP they hired.
But that's not to say that there aren't guys who make me creamy with just the sound of their voice on the phone or the sight of their e-mail address. That still happens.
But I've learned to cherish what I get and never want more. Are there clients I'm in love with? Sure. When I'm with them. But I expect no more than that, nor do I want anymore than that. When it comes to what I want and need on a personal level, there's a lot more to consider than just those tingly feelings -- and luckily I've found someone perfect for me.
I'm just thankful for the joy and delight I'm lucky enough to get. Hopefully it's the same with the guys I see.
..c..
