Question for the ladies: What do you consider "cheating"?

[Don]

Which of the below activities would you classify as "infidelity" or at least not tolerate?
-Seeing an SP
-Seeing an MP (with a happy ending)
-Getting a full contact lap dance
-Getting an "air" dance (no contact)
-Going to a strip club (no lap dance)
-Watching hardcore porn
-Watching softcore porn

 

[Pool_guy]

Is it just me or does everyone hear crickets?

 

[lazysausage]

Which of the below activities would you classify as "infidelity" or at least not tolerate?
-Seeing an SP
-Seeing an MP (with a happy ending)
-Getting a full contact lap dance
-Getting an "air" dance (no contact)
-Going to a strip club (no lap dance)
-Watching hardcore porn
-Watching softcore porn

None of the above.

 

[Aardvark154]

Don, you honestly don't know?

 

[GrandBlasterK]

Looking lustfully at another woman.

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

Which of the below activities would you classify as "infidelity" or at least not tolerate?
-Seeing an SP
-Seeing an MP (with a happy ending)
-Getting a full contact lap dance
-Getting an "air" dance (no contact)
-Going to a strip club (no lap dance)
-Watching hardcore porn
-Watching softcore porn

None of the above.

They may all fly in the face of conventional monogamy, but none of those should require the emotional investment that an affair would require.

At the end of the day physical contact is just that. As enjoyable as it may be... It is the emotional side of things which truly impacts home life. Once you have feelings for someone things change.

As strange as this may seem there are online and text relationships which are far more intimate in my opinion then all of the above mentioned activities.

 

[freestuff]

It doesn't matter what the ladies think - it's just what your SO (ex-SO?) thinks and none of these ladies know your SO as well as you.

 

[GrandBlasterK]

It is the emotional side of things which truly impacts home life. Once you have feelings for someone things change.

I can't see how I can develop feelings for a woman or some kind of emotional bond without some form of repeat, mutual, and monogamous sex.

If I can't fuck her more than once, it's a lustful fling.

If I have to pay her for it, it's an expensive hobby.

And if she's willing to fuck other men while we're dating, then I'm free to cheat...no hard feelings!

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

None of the above.

They may all fly in the face of conventional monogamy, but none of those should require the emotional investment that an affair would require.

An affair doesn't require an emotional investment if it's only about sex.

 

[Don]

Don, you honestly don't know?

Every woman is different. I dated a girl that thought jacking off to porn is "cheating" to her because I was "cheating on her in my mind". Then I also dated a girl that was cool with almost everything except SP and MP.

I know 99.9% of women would say SP/MP is cheating. I'm more curious about where the numbers for the rest lie.

 

[lenharper]

A very incisive answer Ms Rhodes

 

[Don]

As strange as this may seem there are online and text relationships which are far more intimate in my opinion then all of the above mentioned activities.

Good point. All the activities I listed were intentionally non-intimate ones from an emotional aspect because for those activities, a guy is just looking for strictly physical pleasure with no real emotional attachment with another woman (aside from the "I fell in love with my SP" folks).