Question for the ladies: How do you handle regular clients who fall in love with you?

[rdhaired_vixen]

james t kirk...

i did enjoy his friendship, you can have a friendship and keep it business.. i turned him down, because to accept his proposal when i didnt share his feelings would have been wrong.. and he was not my type either..but i do miss his friendship...

 

[learningtoplay]

I know a guy that fell in love with his SP. It got to the point where he was trying to save her from herself and somehow contacted her family about the situation. He has a very persistent type of personality and has never been successful with women. Make it perfectly clear that you are not interested in a relationship. She eventually had to threaten him with some imaginary pimp before he let go.

 

[mypussykat]

Sounds like SOUR GRAPES to me........

I posted that because I remembered the unusual approach mypussykat was using when she arrived on the terb scene and I felt it was worth pointing out that maybe this contributed to the current problem. I would have offered her some advice about how to solve the problem if I had any but I really don't know what she should do so I'll leave that to others. My post is more about understanding and preventing than fixing. So you're right - it WAS a bit of a lecture - about how SP's shouldn't package themselves as quasi GF's.

But you're way out on a limb with your sour grapes / fragile male ego theory. I PM'd her with a few questions about her limited availability, mainly out of curiosity but also to find out if it was outcall or incall, how much etc. So that was my application. Poor choice of words on my part. She checked my terb posts and politely advised me that I was too active for her tastes. So, in my own words, I was rejected but I didn't feel rejected in the way you're suggesting. I took it as almost a compliment. I was having the time of my life! Why should I mind if she wanted someone who was less of a hobbyist and more into this limited relationship thingy. Besides, it turned out she was outcall and I only see incalls so it wasn't going to happen anyway. It really didn't bother me in the slightest and I never gave it a second thought until this thread came along.

I only do incalls so he knows where I am located. [I don't know where it was said that I did outcalls only]

I tried to limit my appointments to married men who were considerably older than myself so I could steer away from this problem. I also prefer out of town gentlemen who usually present less complications and emotional attachments.

I wasn't comfortable seeing a series of men because I feel more comfortable once I get to know someone. I find it too stressful to be meeting new men all the time. My preference is to meet men who are looking for a regular SP companion. I don't know if that qualifies as 'quasi girl friend'.

I had a limited availability as I don't see more than 2 gentlemen a week. That's my preference. I do this part time to supplement my income.

I have read over Bigguy's review of me. There's nothing to indicate that I am anything but an SP who charges for my time.

I make every effort to steer away from reviews or even advertising along the traditional routes as I find SOME reviews to be be demeaning and SOME sp's to be overly competitive and mean spirited.

As far as my problem client situation, I have tried to make it clear to him that I do not "date" anyone while working in the business. I have tried to recommend someone else for him to see as I'll be busy over the next few months. I'm actually considering taking an extended vacation just to get this guy out of my life.

I'm not sure I need the lecture on how to market myself. I think that HE has crossed the boundaries.

I'm afraid to look him in the eye to tell him that I won't see him anymore. I'm afraid he will be angry and try to interfere with my life. There's something unnerving in his behavior.

MPK

 

[The Baroness]

Oh God wheres Jenn.........

Last year I went through this a few times..........I just tell them they are getting too close and because of that I am unable to see them anymore.

 

[The Baroness]

BTW, I "applied" via PM for a spot (time share?) on your roster and you rejected me because "I got around too much".

You nasty thing!!!
LMAO

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

Miranda darlin.... can i be ya groupie baby... giggle

 

[The Baroness]

Oh Gawd,another one I gotta cut off...................


*giggle*

 

[Ripper77]

Who would fall in love with a service provider,somebody has to be crazy.

 

[Play[er]boy]

have you read Resurrection by Leo Tolstoy?

 

[thunder0702]

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Who would fall in love with a service provider,somebody has to be crazy.

Escorts are people to and should be treated if they so wish like every other human beings. They to may want to be friends and fall in love or go out to dinner and walk along a beach. If they choose to do it with a client and it works so be it. It is time to treat these ladies as human beings rather than chattel.


Thunder

 

[The Baroness]

Re: Words for Ripper...

Who the hell would fall in love with a John ..??

LMFAO


TOUCHE!

 

[The Baroness]

OK here we go...time to trot out my story

A client of mine and I actually did fall in love...its been over a year now and yes,of course we have issues due to my work but it can happen and it can work.
Its not about falling in love with a sp or a trick..........its about falling in love with a person.

 

[The Baroness]

I hope it comes hun....mine is pissing me off right now....lol

 

[Ripper77]

Re: Words for Ripper...

Who the hell would fall in love with a John ..??

If you want to call me a John,then we should call you a prostitute.All i was saying to fall in love with an S.P.,not dehuminizing,but would be nuts.Most are in it strictly for money and its a business,Just telling men to wise up and smell the coffee.Its all about MONEY.

 

[Meesh]

Re: Falling in love is nuts ?

...now if you were to fall in love with a sheep that would be nuts .

Baaaad....very baaaad.

Didn't mean to get yer 'goat'

Okay, enough bad jokes, I guess I'd better take it on the lamb...

(still trying to come up with something for 'mutton')

 

[Dr Watchsom]

Any guy that is falling in love with a sex provider is usually pretty desperate in the first place. Danger!!!

BBLACK [/QUOTE
Ok Im jumping in on this one. BBlack your statment is an unfair generalization. Do you think these ladies dont have a personal life, do you think all they do is lay around in bed and wait for guys like you to call. I have been in a relationship with an sp for some time now and believe me I am in noway desperate. IMHO, and I dont mean to be unkind, but I think if your paying for it, then thats pritty desperate. When you hire an sp your paying for a fantacy that lasts for an hour or so. I live that fantacy everyday and it doesnt cost a cent. I didnt fall in love with an sp, I just fell in love with a woman Who happens to be an sp

 

[Samantha Jones]

It is a very tricky situation and I have found it has happened often with regular clients.

Hopefully we can enjoy the fact /fantasy that while in each others company we feel a form of "love" , love has many definitions and living together, marraige is certainly only one of the many possibilities.


The $ has to be set aside as less important and the clients feeling come first. A good talk, a sincere letter , explaining the boundaries of THIS relationship has usually put things back into perspective and we then have gone on to enjoy our "special evenings" together .

Indeed the brevity and intermittent quality of the client/escort relationship adds intensity and passion when set against the backdrop of normal everyday, life together, do the chores , pay the bills, kids, house, etc arrangement many clients & escorts have in their "real" life.


On occasion when this hasn't resolved the issue I have had to stop seeing the client . The client who insists that he could be "the one ", and who wants to "take you away from all this".

For many of us, the "all this" is what we enjoy, even crave. We are no different from the client who enjoys the benefits, excitement of seeing several different women. I love men, and having escorting as a part-time profession is far more often a very exciting and joyfulthing than anything I would wish to "escape " from.

 

[The Baroness]

Any guy that is falling in love with a sex provider is usually pretty desperate in the first place. Danger!!!

BBLACK [/QUOTE
Ok Im jumping in on this one. BBlack your statment is an unfair generalization. Do you think these ladies dont have a personal life, do you think all they do is lay around in bed and wait for guys like you to call. I have been in a relationship with an sp for some time now and believe me I am in noway desperate. IMHO, and I dont mean to be unkind, but I think if your paying for it, then thats pritty desperate. When you hire an sp your paying for a fantacy that lasts for an hour or so. I live that fantacy everyday and it doesnt cost a cent. I didnt fall in love with an sp, I just fell in love with a woman Who happens to be an sp

Well said!

 

[The Baroness]

Re: Re: Words for Ripper...

Most are in it strictly for money and its a business,Just telling men to wise up and smell the coffee.Its all about MONEY.

Yes we work for money,and have relationships for love.
Not a hard concept to grasp.

 

[The Baroness]

I agree that if you go to SP's looking for love,then you're bound to get hurt,however,what I am saying is that SP's like anyone else are capable of having romantic relationships ,which some on this board seem to disagree with.