Question for the ladies about oral (DATY) technique?

[millyme3]

One of things I love most about an erotic encounter is taking turns pleasuring each other orally. The flow of erotic energy is amazing when you are really turning her on and she is genuinely moaning, writhing, truly enjoying the feelings you're giving with your lips and tongue.
My question is when when she is past the "point of no return" and going over the edge, what is the preferred technique to use while she is in the throes of her orgasm? One thing I often do is to work her into a lather using a rapid, but relatively soft, tongue action over the clit. When I can feel her contractions start when she is climaxing, I'm often concerned that the clit will start to become too sensitive so I lay my tongue flat against the clit and vulva and let her control the pressure / friction while she rides out her orgasm.
I would appreciate hearing from the gals on what they find feels the best.

Many thanks!

Milly

 

[getwhatuwant]

Wow, that sounds pretty awesome!! I have never had a gentlemen or lady lay their tongue flat on my clit like you described, but it sounds like it would be awesome as long as you keep the pressure consistent for her to ride out the climax.

Cunnilingus is similar to a blow job when one is reaching the point of orgasm. Luckily I have learned that a simple loss or change of pressure with your hand or mouth can immediately ruin the guy's approach to orgasm. Similar to when the chick has gotten you to the point that you are cumming but she stops whatever she's doing before your entirely done and it kinda leaves you with a half-assed orgasm.

So my advice would be, if you want to make a lady cum with your mouth you have to be patient and stay until she's done. Like with guys all the starting and stopping can be distracting when you are trying to enjoy the pleasure and achieve orgasm. I find generally if she put her hand on your head she wants more pressure, like when guys put their hands on our heads it usually means go deeper. When she has reached orgasm continue with what technique feels natural and let her finish, when she's ready for you to stop or if she's too sensitive you'll find she'll pull away and instead on hands on your head, she'll probably go for your shoulders.

In my experience when a guy has succeeded in making me cum with his mouth I enjoy when they keep doing the same thing they were doing when I reached the "point of no return". That way the feeling of the stimulation stays consistent and I can enjoy a full, body writhing orgasm. But like I mentioned earlier, no one has used the technique you described and I am very interested to try it, it sounds that it allows the lady to control the intensity which sounds great.

 

[lmlm]

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[Leighster]

Yes I know I am not a gal but I am just adding my 2 cents.

It varies widely some are so sensitive that they push you away while others are just getting warmed up for the next several O’s.

L.

 

[millyme3]

Thanks to all for your insights. I suppose there is no right or wrong technique to use, since everyone is different. Some women might be multi-orgasmic and would respond to having continuous stimulation during and after her orgasm, whereas some reach a climax and then get very, very sensitive - almost to the point where continued stimulation is too intense or could even be a little painful. I've been told my technique is very good but I find after my partner cums, she needs some recovery time!
I haven't been with too many gals who would fall into the "multi-O" category but I love to experience this as I really get off on giving oral to a sexy lady. it seems the few girls that like to cum again and again are often ones who can also squirt.

 

[tomtom2]

MY FIRST POST. I LOVE EATING PUSsYYYYYYYYY

I always wonder the same thing. How do women like their orgasm to play out?
I know for me when I'm about to let my load go, I like fast,intense sucking....... I think it's the opposite for women.

 

[luv4lust]

um if you try to take your tongue off my clit i'll grab your hair and just fuck your face till i'm done lol don't stop till it's over damn it

i just might fuck your face anyways lol

 

[millyme3]

Any other ladies in the lounge care to wade in? I'm really quite interested in honing my oral skills and at the same time making 100% sure my partner experiences a mind-numbing orgasm...(suppose I should have posted this a while back in the "Ask a Hooker" thread!).

Thanks all.

 

[Brill]

um if you try to take your tongue off my clit i'll grab your hair and just fuck your face till i'm done lol don't stop till it's over damn it

i just might fuck your face anyways lol

I need that kind of guidance since every woman is different in how they cum and how much more they can handle or when to ease off. Once you get to know how a particular woman likes it you can really take things to a different level.

I say bring on the face fuck!

 

[luv4lust]

I need that kind of guidance since every woman is different in how they cum and how much more they can handle or when to ease off. Once you get to know how a particular woman likes it you can really take things to a different level.

I say bring on the face fuck!

when ever your ready buddy lol i just have a tough time remembering to let the poor guy breath lol

 

[CheekyChick]

One friend a while back would lick my clit in rapid and short burts, and as I got to "the point of no return" she would slow it right down, sucking my clit slowly and with increasingly firm pressure. It doesn't get better than that for me.

 

[The Options Menu]

One friend a while back would lick my clit in rapid and short burts, and as I got to "the point of no return" she would slow it right down, sucking my clit slowly and with increasingly firm pressure. It doesn't get better than that for me.

The thing there is that some women will lose arousal over that, and some others will do the 'luv4lust' (facefuck). Some women like one good orgasm, some like a few Os. It's really a matter of getting to know your vaginas. The safe bet for the first time with a given vagina is to establish a good rhythm and to stick with it until slightly after the woman is done. After you establish, "Yes, I can make you cum' then comes the time for exploring... Unless you meet a women who gives good instructions out of the gate...

 

[Racheal Dupuis]

Face sitting is my favorite, this way I can control how much pressure I can put on your tongue and where I want it to lick exactly, and your hands are more free this way to roam from front to back. Plus I can watch and see what your doing from a better angle.

 

[Victor Lazlo]

Face sitting is my favorite, this way I can control how much pressure I can put on your tongue and where I want it to lick exactly, and your hands are more free this way to roam from front to back. Plus I can watch and see what your doing from a better angle.

mmmm mine too. Nothing better than to have a beautiful woman sitting on my face. mmmmm

 

[Roamin' Bee]

We always appreciate ladies' input on how to give oral. For most guys, it's not really for our lack of effort, if anything, it's more for trying too hard. I guess sometimes we just need to relax and enjoy it

 

[millyme3]

Thank you CheekyChick....that's a very interesting suggestion. I will defnitely have to try that out!
Cheers

 

[pjoe43]

Face sitting is my favorite, this way I can control how much pressure I can put on your tongue and where I want it to lick exactly, and your hands are more free this way to roam from front to back. Plus I can watch and see what your doing from a better angle.

Ummmm.
I love when that happens.

 

[Fit_Guy]

Dumb question but is there such a thing as Safe DATY? I would prefer not to have direct contact as I try to pleasure the SP down there so is there some sort of covering that other guys like me prefer to use, if any. Or does that take so much away from the woman's stimulation that it's not worth it. New to this hobby and my SO has never been into DATY so just trying to learn the ropes a bit.

 

[WoodPeckr]

Fit_Guy

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[DocOdd]

I found that Ciara@DM gave me lots of feedback on what she wanted me to do; if I were an insecure type I might have felt self-conscious, but I'm fine with a woman telling me what she wants, as I know they're all different, so I could hardly have perfect knowledge of that in advance. I don't know who else provides instructions while getting DATY, though most provide at least some obvious signals of the kind already mentioned in this thread (putting a hand on your head to pull you in if they want you to lick harder, etc).